Trauma doesn’t just live in the past—it shows up in our communication, our tone, and our bodies. In this week’s Deciphering Growth, we unpack trauma-informed couples therapy and how to build safer connection.

We cover: why domestic violence screening must be done individually, how triggers hijack conversations, what polyvagal cues (voice, face, posture) do to our nervous systems, and practical tools—grounding, co-regulation, “Gottman” time-outs, and repair rituals—you can start using today.

Whether you’re curious about EFT/Gottman, want better communication during conflict, or need ways to de-escalate fast, this one’s for you.

Healthy relationships after trauma are possible—and they’re science-backed. In this episode of Deciphering Growth, Tiffany Graves, LPCC-S, and Eric Stone break down how trauma reshapes the nervous system (amygdala, hippocampus, prefrontal cortex), why polyvagal theory matters (fight/flight/freeze/fawn), and how attachment patterns, boundaries, and co-regulation rebuild safety and trust. We share practical scripts, day-to-day strategies, and why consistency—not grand gestures—drives neuroplastic change. Whether you’re a survivor, a partner, a friend, or family, you’ll learn trauma-informed ways to support connection without falling into codependency. Trigger warning for discussion of symptoms and lived experiences.

We’re doing something different—an honest check-in about balance. What’s working, what’s not, and the tiny habits that move us from a 3 to a 6 on our “balance scale.”

Inside: how a quick mini shower can flip your brain out of work mode, why 15-minute buffers are magic, and how to stop the comparison loop on social media.

In this powerful episode of Deciphering Growth, Tiffany and Eric explore the complex topic of trauma bonding—a survival-based attachment that forms through cycles of abuse, intermittent reinforcement, and emotional highs and lows.

We break down the neuroscience behind trauma bonds, including how the brain’s stress and reward systems can create emotional dependency, and why these bonds can feel so difficult to break. You'll learn the signs of trauma bonding, how love bombing plays a role in abusive dynamics, and how distorted self-worth can keep survivors stuck in harmful relationships.

We also discuss:

• How trauma bonding mirrors addiction cycles

• Why people “gaslight” themselves into staying

• The role of shame, guilt, and learned helplessness

• What recovery and reconnection to self can look like

💡 This episode is trauma-informed and supportive, offering psychoeducation—not judgment—for anyone navigating these experiences.

In this powerful episode of Deciphering Growth, we sit down with Chris Perry, a retired police officer and mental health advocate, to explore the emotional toll of working in law enforcement and what it really takes to heal from trauma.

Chris shares his raw, personal story of navigating PTSD, breaking through the stigma of seeking help, and transforming his pain into purpose by supporting first responder mental health nationwide. From culture change to peer support, this conversation sheds light on the intersection of public safety, trauma recovery, and wellness advocacy.

Whether you're a first responder, mental health professional, or someone navigating your own healing journey, this episode offers validation, encouragement, and real-life tools for staying grounded through the hard stuff.

🔹 Topics include:

• PTSD in policing and cumulative trauma

• The cost of silence in high-stress professions

• First responder peer support & culture shifts

• Prioritizing mental health over career pressure

• Chris’s work with the Alzheimer’s Association & training programs

In this episode of Deciphering Growth, Tiffany and Eric take a deep dive into the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how early childhood trauma rewires the brain's response to connection, trust, and safety.

We unpack the neuroscience behind attachment, including amygdala reactivity, vagal tone, and how co-regulation and emotional attunement impact the development of the nervous system. Learn how attachment patterns show up in adult relationships, friendships, and the workplace—and how neuroplasticity makes healing possible.

Whether you’re navigating anxiety in relationships, exploring trauma recovery, or just curious about how your brain and body respond to connection, this episode offers insight, hope, and practical understanding.

In this powerful episode of Deciphering Growth, Tiffany Graves and Eric Stone sit down with filmmakers Blue and Jason Gerber, directors of the documentary Dawn Dusk. The film follows designer Chelli Look as she navigates grief, forgiveness, and resilience after losing her sister to domestic violence.

Rather than focusing on the violence itself, Dawn Dusk explores the healing journey that follows — showing how creativity, advocacy, and the rhythms of life can transform pain into purpose. The conversation dives into themes of trauma, grief, forgiveness, and the role of art in mental health recovery.

How does trauma shape addiction—and how can recovery programs support true healing?

In this week’s episode of Deciphering Growth, we break down what it really means for recovery spaces to be trauma-informed. We talk about the language that helps (and harms), common missteps in traditional models, and the importance of nervous system regulation in healing.

We’re also exploring alternative programs and what it means to build safer, more supportive recovery environments for everyone.

✨ If you’ve ever wondered why some recovery programs miss the mark—or how we can do better—this is an episode for you.