What happens when separation doesn’t mean moving out right away?

For many people, divorce or separation comes with months of still living under the same roof sharing kitchens, bills, hallways, and the same tense atmosphere every single day.

It’s one of the hardest and least talked about parts of separation. You’re no longer a couple, but you’re still in the same house. The smallest things like dishes, laundry, or the TV remote suddenly carry the weight of all the history and unspoken arguments between you. It can feel like walking on eggshells, or like being roommates with someone who knows every one of your buttons.

In this episode of The Ex-Bytes Podcast, Ray dives deep into the challenges of living under one roof with your ex and how to survive it with dignity, calm, and sanity. Drawing from personal experience and hard-won lessons, he shares practical strategies that anyone in this situation can use right away.

You’ll discover:

• ✅ Why setting boundaries and ground rules isn’t punishment, it’s survival — and how to make them stick.

• ✅ How to divide chores, bills, and shared spaces so you don’t clash every single day.

• ✅ The key communication do’s and don’ts that stop arguments before they start (including the 3-sentence rule).

• ✅ How to protect your kids from conflict, keep routines stable, and create safe zones in the house.

• ✅ Coping strategies to protect your own mental health, from journaling and walking to leaning on your support network.

Ray also shares his own experiences, the arguments over small things that weren’t really about small things, the moments where he had to pause instead of react, and the simple routines that gave his kids a sense of safety even when life felt uncertain.

Analogy to remember:
Living under one roof after separation is like camping in the rain. You can’t change the weather, but you can adjust the tent, make yourself as comfortable as possible, and know that the sun will come out again.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re separated or divorced but still sharing a house with your ex.

• You feel stuck in constant tension and want a calmer way forward.

• You’re trying to shield your kids from conflict while under one roof.

• You need real-world strategies, not textbook theory, to get through the day-to-day.

👉 At the end of the episode, Ray leaves you with a thought provoking question:

If you’re living under the same roof right now, what’s one boundary you could set this week that would make life calmer for everyone?

He also shares a powerful wisdom quote to carry with you:
“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” — Prentis Hemphill

Going through a breakup or divorce can feel like being strapped into a rollercoaster you never wanted to ride. One minute you’re climbing, the next you’re in a freefall, and sometimes you’re stuck upside down wondering if the ride will ever stop.

In this episode of The Ex Bytes, host Ray Fisher talks about the emotional rollercoaster of divorce and how the classic five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance — show up during separation. Ray shares his own raw experiences, explains why these emotions happen, and offers proven coping strategies that help you process grief in healthy ways.

You’ll learn:

• Why divorce feels like an emotional rollercoaster (and why you’re not broken for feeling up and down).

• What each stage of grief looks like in real life — from denial in the mornings to the heavy dip of depression.

• Practical tools for managing anger, moving through sadness, and finding small wins on the way to acceptance.

• How to lean on your support network (your wolf pack) and avoid unhealthy coping traps.

This is a relaxed, honest chat — like talking to a mate who gets it. If you’re navigating divorce, separation, or breakup grief, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone and that healing is messy but possible.

👉 Question of the week: What’s been the hardest part of your rollercoaster ride so far?

Email me at podcast@theexbytes.com or share in the comments — your story could be the one that helps someone else in the wolf pack.

The first 30 days after separation or divorce can feel like the hardest part of the journey. You wake up each morning in disbelief, wondering if this is all just a bad dream. Your emotions swing wildly — sadness, anger, fear, even laughter at unexpected moments. It’s a rollercoaster without a seatbelt, and it can leave you feeling lost, isolated, and unsure of what to do next.

In this very first episode of The Ex-Bytes small bytes, big results host Ray Fisher shares practical, simple steps that can help you stabilise, protect yourself, and find hope during those chaotic early weeks. This isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about taking each day as it comes and building small wins that add up to big results.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why the first 30 days feel so overwhelming and how to survive the emotional rollercoaster of grief after a breakup.

• How to ground yourself with daily practices like short routines, breathing techniques, and even a sticky note on the fridge that says: Today is enough.

• The importance of your “wolf pack” trusted friends, family, or communities who can support you when it feels like too much.

• Simple ways to protect your future by facing finances early, keeping records, and creating order in the chaos.

• Self-care tips that actually work from getting outside in the sun, to eating something green, to giving yourself permission to laugh again.

• How naming your emotions can help you grow emotionally and build resilience for the road ahead.

Ray also shares one powerful analogy: the first 30 days are like planting a seed. Even if it looks like nothing is happening on the surface, the roots are growing underneath , hidden progress that will one day hold you steady and allow you to grow stronger.

This podcast is here to remind you that you are not alone. Whether you’re going through separation, divorce, or heartbreak, these small, practical steps can make the difference between just surviving and starting to heal. There really is light at the end of the tunnel — and it’s the beginning of your new chapter.

Life after divorce isn’t the end, it’s a new beginning. The Ex Bytes is here to give you short, practical insights that make starting over feel possible. I’m Ray, your host, and I’ve been through the heartbreak and found hope again. Listen in and discover how small bytes can create big results.