Well, it happened again…

I picked a word for my year, and it had nothing to do with me.

For 2025, I decided my word would be CONSISTENCY. I wanted to be consistent with working out, blogging, and showing up for John and Rhema (at the time).

I didn’t realize I was pregnant yet. And although that was the plan for 2025, I had no idea—or maybe I forgot—how much pregnancy makes your life anything but consistent.

I remember asking God why that word was put on my heart. I thought maybe it was something I made up in my head and God had no part in it. I thought maybe I wasn’t listening “right” or maybe He wasn’t actually speaking to me.

This was a theme I felt a lot during my pregnancy. I felt like He wasn’t listening to my prayers and I couldn’t hear Him as clearly as before.

I felt like a failure. I couldn’t do anything consistently. Between horrible nausea and extreme tiredness, I was chasing a toddler. I couldn’t even read my Bible or pray consistently. I was telling God sorry so many times this year.

Ironically, I hung on to God’s Words and promises even more this pregnancy than during my first one. So much more brought me to my knees in prayer. One major difference was simply knowing how scary pregnancy can actually be.

It wasn’t until after my baby girl was born that I realized what God was teaching me through that word, consistency.

He wasn’t wanting me to be consistent. He wasn’t asking me to wake up at 5 am every morning to read my Bible, work out, and make a vlog about it.

He was teaching me about HIS character. He was showing and reminding me that although I wasn’t consistent, HE WAS. His love and forgiveness didn’t change based on what was going on in my life—which is how human relationships work. He was showing up, pursuing, and loving me. Consistently, even if it didn’t feel like it at the time.

And that’s what He did in my heart this year. There are so many things I’m not proud of, things I wish I would have done better. But I was growing a human, and there’s so much grace there. And although inconsistent circumstances in life may test human relationships, I am here to say that it strengthens your relationship with God if you let Him.

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Understanding ADHD: Getting Started with Diagnosis and TreatmentIn this episode of the UR Covered Podcast, host Aly Miller focuses on ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and its impact on people’s lives. Aly, a mental health therapist, offers insights into how to identify ADHD symptoms and get started with proper diagnosis and treatment. She emphasizes the relief that comes with understanding the condition and discusses the common symptoms and their presentations, especially in women. Aly stresses the importance of educating oneself, tracking symptoms, seeking professional advice from therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists, and considering treatment options like medication and cognitive behavioral therapy. She also provides practical tips for listeners to start their journey towards managing ADHD effectively.

Additional Resources:

Stop Fighting Your ADHD Brain: Meet Your New Productivity Secret

ADHD Relationships: Moving from Frustration to Understanding

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Helpful Scripts to Use When Communicating with Your Partner Who Has ADHD

Weekly Check in Cards for You and Your Partner

00:00 Welcome to the UR Covered Podcast00:35 Understanding ADHD: An Introduction02:05 Recognizing ADHD Symptoms03:39 Educating Yourself About ADHD04:51 Different Presentations of ADHD05:42 ADHD in Women: Unique Challenges08:49 Tracking Symptoms and Seeking Diagnosis16:17 Treatment Options for ADHD20:48 Practical Tips and Final Thoughts

In this powerful episode of the Abundantly More Podcast, we dive deep into a topic that often goes unspoken in ministry circles: the mental health of pastor’s wives. Being married to a pastor comes with unique challenges—constant scrutiny, unrealistic expectations, financial stress, and the weight of caring for your family while supporting your husband’s calling. This episode addresses the isolation, secondary trauma, and pressure many pastor’s wives face, while offering practical strategies for prioritizing mental health without guilt. From establishing healthy boundaries and building a support network to recognizing warning signs of burnout and creating a personal mental health plan, this conversation provides actionable tools for sustainable ministry. Whether you’re a pastor’s wife struggling to find balance, a church leader wanting to better support your pastor’s family, or simply someone interested in ministry wellness, this episode offers encouragement, biblical wisdom, and hope. Remember: taking care of your mental health isn’t selfish—it’s essential for long-term, faithful ministry. You matter to God, and your well-being matters too.

Episode Overview

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:54 Challenges of Being a Pastor’s Wife

04:21 Unique Experiences and Observations

08:08 Financial Stress in Ministry 13:03 Practical Strategies for Mental Health

19:02 Building a Support Network

20:06 The Importance of Counseling and Mentorship

21:39 Prioritizing Your Personal Relationship with God

23:49 Maintaining Personal Well-being and Hobbies

30:03 Recognizing and Addressing Mental Health Issues

33:20 Supporting Your Pastor’s Wife

36:35 Final Encouragement and Practical Steps

Resources

* Helpful scripts for communicating with your partner with ADHD https://hannah-lynn-miller.myflodesk.com/adhd-partner-scripts

* Download Connection cards for you and your spouse https://hannah-lynn-miller.myflodesk.com/zjrjismka6

* Try this worksheet to work on boundaries https://hannah-lynn-miller.myflodesk.com/p08w1zsvpp

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