Episode Title: The Boundaries House: A Simple Way to Visualize Your Relationships

Episode Length: ~15 minutes

Topics: Boundaries, Relationships, Emotional Health, Christian Faith, Trust

Episode Summary

In this episode, we explore a powerful visualization tool called the Boundaries House method that helps you understand and manage your relationships in a healthier way. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by trying to be equally close to everyone, or guilty about not sharing everything with everyone, this episode will give you practical tools to create appropriate boundaries without the guilt.

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What You’ll Learn

* Why boundaries are difficult - Understanding why many of us struggle with setting healthy relationship boundaries, especially if we grew up in environments where privacy wasn’t valued

* Biblical perspective on boundaries - How even Jesus modeled healthy boundaries with different levels of intimacy in his relationships

* The Boundaries House method - A simple visualization tool using the metaphor of a house with different rooms (sidewalk, front porch, living room, kitchen, bedroom) to represent different levels of intimacy and trust

* Practical application - How to map out your own Boundaries House and implement healthy disclosure in your daily relationships

* Permission to adjust - Understanding that people can move between rooms as relationships evolve, and that’s perfectly healthy

Key Quotes

“We were not designed to be equally close to everyone. And that’s okay! In fact, it’s more than okay—it’s necessary for our mental and emotional health.”

“Even Jesus had boundaries. He didn’t share all his personal matters with the crowds that followed him everywhere.”

“Boundaries are not walls. You’re not shutting people out completely—you’re just being wise about what you share and with whom.”

“You are not required to let everyone into every room of your house. You get to decide who has access to what parts of your life. And that’s not selfish—it’s wise.”

Resources Mentioned

* Free printable Boundaries House worksheet

* Dr. Sarah Davies - Garden fence analogy concept

Action Steps

* Download the free Boundaries House printable

* Map out where different people in your life currently are in your house

* Ask yourself the reflection questions about trust, vulnerability, and intimacy levels

* Practice “healthy disclosure” - being intentional about what you share and with whom

* Remember that boundaries are a process and your house may look different over time

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Tags

#boundaries #relationships #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #christianliving #faith #selfcare #healthyrelationships #therapy #personalgrowth

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Today’s episode is all about attachment styles and how they shape every connection in your life. We’re going beyond the surface-level content you see on social media to explore research-backed strategies for developing secure attachment.

In this episode, I share why attachment styles aren’t personality types, the core wounds behind anxious and avoidant patterns, and a powerful 5-step subconscious reprogramming process that can help you heal attachment wounds. We’ll also explore how attachment theory intersects with faith for those on a spiritual journey.

Here’s the hopeful truth: you are NOT stuck with your attachment patterns. With the right tools and consistent practice, you can become more secure in your relationships - starting today.

What You’ll Learn:

* Why attachment styles are patterns, not personality traits

* The difference between secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment

* How to identify your core attachment wounds

* A 5-step subconscious reprogramming process for healing

* How to give yourself what you didn’t receive from caregivers

* The spiritual dimension of attachment for people of faith

* Practical steps you can start implementing this week

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Featured Expert:

This episode draws on the groundbreaking work of attachment expert Thais Gibson, whose insights on subconscious reprogramming have helped countless people move toward secure attachment.

📖 Want to go deeper? Check out this blog post:

Secure Attachment: The Relationship Style We All Need

In this comprehensive guide, I break down everything you need to know about developing secure attachment, including detailed steps for the subconscious reprogramming process, core wounds for each attachment style, healing affirmations, and how Christianity intersects with attachment theory. It’s the perfect companion resource to today’s episode!

Key Quote:

“The beautiful thing about attachment is that it can be earned at any point in our lives. We can become our own secure base by consistently showing up for ourselves in ways our caregivers couldn’t.” - Thais Gibson

Action Steps for This Week:

* Identify your attachment pattern (there are great resources online, including Thais Gibson’s work)

* Begin creating your list of 10 positive memories that contradict your core wounds

* Read the full blog post on secure attachment for detailed guidance

* Start noticing the evidence that contradicts your attachment wounds in daily life

Free Resource:

Download my Connection Cards to further build connection with your partner as you work on developing more secure attachment patterns.

Remember: You are worthy of secure, loving relationships. And you have the power to create them, starting today. Here’s to becoming more secure, one day at a time! 💫

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In this episode of the Abundantly More Podcast, host Hannah Lynn Miller shares a practical 3-day system to help you get your life in order when everything feels chaotic. Drawing from both clinical expertise and biblical wisdom, Hannah provides actionable steps to reset your mental, physical, and spiritual environment.

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What You'll Learn

* Day One: Mental and emotional reset strategies including brain dump exercises, stress management, and technology boundaries

* Day Two: Physical environment organization techniques that work with your natural habits, not against them

* Day Three: Spiritual and relational reset practices to align your daily life with your faith and values

Scripture References

* Philippians 4:6-7 - "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

* 1 Corinthians 14:40 - "But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way."

* 1 Corinthians 14:33 - "For God is not a God of disorder but of peace."

* Proverbs 16:3 - "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."

* Matthew 11:28-30 - "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."

Resources Mentioned

* Free Download: 3-Day Reset Worksheet

* The Abundantly More Planner - A mental health planning tool to maintain organization

* 15 Ways to Become a Better Version of Yourself From a Mental Health Therapist

Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to the Three-Day Guide

00:38 The Importance of a Planner

01:41 Psychological Impact of Physical Space

03:24 Managing Relationships and Emotional Health

04:38 Balancing Organization with Family Life

04:57 Conclusion: Creating Space for the Holy Spirit

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