Why does calm sometimes feel uncomfortable… or even wrong? In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we explore a powerful and often overlooked concept: how your nervous system can become conditioned to chaos and why stability can feel unfamiliar or even unsafe.

We break down the clinical patterns behind this experience, including nervous system conditioning, attachment dynamics, and how early or repeated relational experiences shape what feels “normal” in adulthood.

We also explore how healing actually works, not by eliminating your reactions, but by retraining your nervous system to tolerate and eventually trust calm, consistency, and emotional safety. Because healing doesn’t always feel exciting… sometimes it feels quiet. And that quiet is where safety begins.

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Why do so many anxious women feel overwhelmed, but never angry?

In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we explore a powerful and often overlooked truth: sometimes anxiety isn’t just anxiety, it’s unexpressed anger.

Many of us were never taught how to safely feel or express anger. Instead, we learned to stay agreeable, accommodating, and “easy to be around.” But when anger gets pushed down, it doesn’t disappear. It often shows up as overthinking, tension, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion.

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Did you leave a social event feeling fine… only to spend the next 24 hours replaying every conversation in your head?

In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we are talking about the anxiety that shows up after socializing, the overthinking, the self-criticism, the “Did I say too much?” spiral, and the emotional exhaustion that can follow even positive interactions.

We explore:

• Why anxious brains replay conversations
• Post-event rumination and fear of judgment
• Oversharing anxiety & rejection sensitivity
• Social masking and emotional exhaustion
• Introversion vs social anxiety
• How to respond with more self-compassion instead of self-criticism

If you have ever analyzed a conversation for hours afterward or worried you were “too much,” this episode may interest you!

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In this episode of Two Anxious Girls, we break down the truth about people-pleasing, and why it’s not a personality trait, but often a learned anxiety response rooted in hypervigilance, fear of conflict, and the need to stay emotionally safe.

We also get real about something not often talked about: even therapists struggle with people-pleasing.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why is people-pleasing often linked to anxiety and nervous system patterns
• Hyper-awareness of others’ moods and emotional states
• Fear of conflict and avoiding difficult conversations
• The belief: “I don’t want to be too much.”
• The emotional cost of self-abandonment
• Why people-pleasing can lead to burnout, resentment, and overthinking
• How to start setting boundaries without guilt

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In this episode, we are getting reflective and a little emotional as we talk about what we would say to our younger anxious selves.

You know those moments… lying awake at night, overthinking everything you’ve ever said? Or those shower realizations that hit a little too hard?

We explore what it felt like growing up with anxiety before we had the language for it, when everything felt like a catastrophe, and we quietly wondered if something was wrong with us.

• The anxious thought spirals we had growing up (and… still have sometimes)
• The belief that everyone else had life figured out except us
• How anxiety can make everything feel urgent, overwhelming, and permanent
• Learning to replace self-criticism with self-compassion
• Understanding anxiety as a protective (but overactive) system

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In this episode, inspired by Shrinking, we are exploring the idea of a “depression diet”… and what we are calling the anxiety version of it too.

Not a diet with food but emotional patterns that lead to restrictions. Because when you are struggling, something starts to shift. You might begin pulling away from things that once felt easy. Or, on the flip side, trying to control everything just to feel okay.

• What a “depression diet” really looks like
• How depression can slowly shrink your world, your energy, your joy, your connection
• The “anxiety diet”, overthinking, overanalyzing, and trying to control uncertainty
• Why are both anxiety and depression actually protective responses
• How these patterns quietly reinforce themselves over time
• The difference between a temporary low mood and something deeper

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In this episode, we are having a more vulnerable conversation about the emotional reality of trying to conceive, the waiting, the uncertainty, and the quiet grief that often goes unseen.

Dabby shares part of her personal journey with infertility, opening up about how excitement slowly shifted into anxiety, questions, and a deep loss of control. Together, we explore what it means to hold hope while also navigating disappointment, triggers, and the pressure to “stay positive.”

We talk about:

• The emotional weight of uncertainty and waiting
• Grieving a timeline that doesn’t unfold as expected
• The loss of control and identity shifts that can come with fertility struggles
• Navigating triggers like pregnancy announcements and social situations
• How to hold hope without falling into toxic positivity

Infertility is often experienced in silence, but you are not alone in this.

If you’re in a season of trying, waiting, or hoping, this episode is a space for all of it: the hope, the grief, the anger, and everything in between.

Your feelings are valid. Your story is still unfolding.

Disclaimer: Although we are therapists, this podcast is not therapy and does not replace working with your own therapist. This episode is for educational and conversational purposes only.

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Disclaimer: Although we are therapists, this podcast is not therapy and does not replace working with your own therapist. Everything shared here is for general education and conversation only.

In this episode, we’re breaking down anxious attachment, not from a textbook, but from real-life experiences.

We are discussing:

• Overthinking texts
• Assuming someone is mad at you
• The urge to ask, “Are we okay?”
• And what healing actually looks like (it’s not becoming a chill, unbothered person)

If this resonates with you, please consider listening to this episode!

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