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What if the problem isn’t that our calendars are full—but that we’ve gotten really good at making everything fit?

In this episode, we’re talking about overscheduling, rest, the pressure to keep up, and the cost of saying yes—even to really good things. Because just because we can make it work doesn’t necessarily mean it’s actually working.

The hardest things to say no to usually aren’t bad things. They’re competing good things. So maybe the question isn’t, Can we fit it in? Maybe it’s, What is it going to cost us?

🎧 And I have way more to say about this one than I could fit into a single episode. Email subscribers are getting a bonus episode where I’m taking this conversation even further—into kids’ activities, family expectations, exhaustion, church, and what happens when our lives leave us very little time to actually sit face-to-face with the people we love.

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After almost 12 years together, you’d think Trey and I would know exactly what the other person needs by now. Newsflash: we don’t.

In this episode, Trey joins me for a conversation about what happens when “you should know” quietly becomes the standard in our closest relationships. We talk about marriage, counseling, friendship, parenting, teenagers, conflict, and the very large elephants we sometimes hope will just leave the room on their own.

Sometimes the thing a relationship needs most is also the thing we’re most uncomfortable saying. What if being known has less to do with someone knowing exactly what we need—and more to do with what we’re willing to say out loud?

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What happens when someone else gets the thing you wanted?

It’s easy to celebrate people when their success doesn’t bump up against our own disappointment. But what about when it does?

In this episode, Nicole talks competitive dance, the scoreboards we create for ourselves and our kids, a painful confession from her years of infertility, and why someone else’s success was never evidence of your failure. Because maybe the goal isn’t to stop wanting things for ourselves—it’s learning to genuinely cheer when someone else gets them.

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Who did you think you’d be by now?

On her 40th birthday, Nicole looks back at the versions of herself she thought she’d become—and the expectations, disappointments, and unexpected turns that shaped who she actually is.

From a questionable relationship with anti-aging cream to career changes, church ministry, old birthday blogs, and the quiet grief of a life that didn’t go exactly as planned, Nicole asks what might be underneath our tendency to compare.

Maybe comparison isn’t always the problem. Maybe it’s just the symptom.

And maybe becoming who you were made to be starts with paying attention to what’s been forming in you all along.

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I know exactly where you think this episode is going. Trust me. You're wrong. Somewhere between Betty (yes, I named my phone), a swim meet, and one very inconvenient parenting moment, I discovered this conversation had almost nothing to do with my phone.

Every day we're giving our "yes" to something. The question isn't whether we're saying yes—it's who or what is getting it. The things that deserve our best often lose to the things that are simply easiest to reach. But when we intentionally choose who gets our attention, we become the kind of people who make others feel seen.

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What if the moments we're rushing through are the very ones we'll someday wish we could get back?

In the very first episode of Things We Don’t Say, Nicole invites you into an ordinary morning—the snooze button, the unfinished plans, the cold coffee, and the interruptions that feel inconvenient in the moment.

Maybe the ordinary moments aren't interruptions at all. Maybe they're invitations—to slow down, pay attention, and notice the people and stories right in front of us.

Sometimes the words come later. And sometimes... all it takes is five more minutes.

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There are so many things we don’t say. But, sometimes the words arrive later…and sometimes that’s exactly when they matter most.