• How to Reclaim Yourself
    2025/06/12


    In this soul-stirring episode of That’s Not Okay, Alyssa opens up about her own journey of surviving toxic love—and how she’s rising from the rubble. This episode dives into the messy process of leaving an emotionally abusive partner (especially when marriage and legal ties are involved), the ways the abuse often continues after the relationship ends, and why abusers won’t let go.


    But more than that, this episode is a call to reclaim yourself.


    You’ll hear real talk about:

    • ​ What abuse looks like—especially the subtle kind
    • ​ Why your healing doesn’t need their apology
    • ​ How to spot post-breakup control and manipulation
    • ​ Why it’s not your job to “fix” someone who hurt you
    • ​ What post-traumatic growth actually looks like—and how to get there


    This isn’t about bitterness. It’s about bravery, boundaries, and becoming who you were always meant to be.


    If you’ve ever doubted your worth or wondered if you were the problem—this episode is for you.


    ✨ You are not broken. You are breaking through.

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    24 分
  • “It Wasn’t Me” - Why Toxic People Shift Blame
    2025/06/06

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    🎙️ Episode Title: “It Wasn’t Me — How Narcissists Shift Blame and Break Your Self-Trust”


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    In this episode of That’s Not Okay, we dive deep into blame-shifting in toxic relationships—why narcissists do it, whether the blame is ever truly deserved, and how it slowly erodes your ability to trust yourself. Learn the psychological tactics narcissists use to avoid accountability, distort your reality, and keep control. We’ll answer key questions like: Do toxic people actually believe their own lies? and How do I rebuild my self-trust after emotional abuse?


    Whether you’re healing from a narcissistic relationship, struggling with gaslighting, or trying to make sense of past manipulation, this episode is your guide to clarity and empowerment.


    Keywords: narcissist blame-shifting, gaslighting, toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic manipulation, trust your gut, healing after narcissist, self-trust recovery, do narcissists believe their lies, narcissist podcast

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    21 分
  • Why Play Mind Games?
    2025/05/16

    In this powerful episode of That’s Not Okay, we expose the truth about mind games and emotional manipulation—what it is, why people do it, and how it slowly damages your confidence, clarity, and connection to self. Whether you’ve been guilt-tripped, gaslit, or emotionally controlled, this episode will help you spot the red flags, understand the psychology behind manipulative behavior, and reclaim your voice. We’ll also cover how to change if you’re the one using manipulation as a defense.


    Perfect for anyone healing from a toxic relationship, navigating narcissistic dynamics, or learning to communicate with honesty and strength.

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    28 分
  • Is It Abuse If There Are No Bruises? The Truth About Invisible Abuse
    2025/05/06

    In this raw and powerful episode of That’s Not Okay, Alyssa exposes the hidden wounds of invisible abuse—the kind that leaves no bruises but tears apart your identity. From stonewalling and gaslighting to passive aggression and DARVO, we unpack how psychological manipulation shows up in relationships and why it’s just as damaging as physical abuse.


    Alyssa shares personal insights, real-life dynamics, and hard truths about enmeshment, avoidance, emotional immaturity, and covert narcissism. Whether you’ve questioned your reality, felt blamed for someone else’s behavior, or doubted your own needs—you are not crazy. You’re likely in the aftermath of invisible abuse.


    This episode is for anyone who’s been silenced, confused, or emotionally dismantled and needs to hear, “You’re not the problem. You’re not alone. And it’s not okay.”


    If this episode hit home, please share it with someone who needs to hear that they’re not imagining things. Follow That’s Not Okay for more truth-telling, clarity, and healing—and let’s reclaim our love lives, together.



    #InvisibleAbuse #EmotionalAbuseRecovery #GaslightingAwareness #ThatsNotOkayPodcast #ToxicRelationships #NarcissisticAbuse #CovertAbuse #Stonewalling #EmotionalNeglect #RelationshipRedFlags #HealingJourney #YouAreNotCrazy #BoundariesAreHealthy

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    30 分
  • Is My Partner Abusive? How to Start Trusting Yourself Again
    2025/05/01

    Are you in a relationship that feels off, but you can’t explain why? This episode of That’s Not Okay breaks down the 3 major types of abuse — psychological, emotional, and physical — and exposes how they often start subtly but escalate over time. Learn how to recognize red flags like gaslighting, silent treatment, DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim-Offender), and manipulation tactics that keep you confused and stuck.


    We’ll talk about whether abuse has to be intentional, how abusers often play the victim, and why abuse is more about values than mental health. If you’ve ever felt like your pain was minimized or your truth was twisted against you, this is your clarity.


    You’ll walk away knowing:

    • The difference between abuse and normal conflict

    • Why impact matters more than intent

    • How abusers justify harm — and how to stop internalizing blame

    • What to do to safely start detaching and healing

    • Why you are not too sensitive — and why your peace matters


    Hit follow, share with a friend, and remember: you’re not crazy. You’re waking up.


    #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #narcissisticabuse #healingjourney #redflags #mentalhealth #abusesurvivor #DARVO #thatsnotokay #christianpodcast

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    31 分
  • Why Is My Partner Badmouthing Me? How Toxic People Weaponize Others Against You
    2025/04/22

    Have you ever felt ganged up on, misunderstood, or like someone poisoned your relationships from behind the scenes? This episode of That’s Not Okay dives into how toxic people weaponize others to manipulate, control, and isolate you—without ever confronting you directly. Alyssa exposes the hidden abuse tactics of smearing, flying monkeys, triangulation, and gaslighting through comparison and minimization. Whether you’ve lived through it or fear you’ve used these tactics yourself, this episode brings validation, clarity, and a call to healing. Learn how to reclaim your power, set boundaries, and stop doubting your reality. You’re not crazy. You’re not too much. And you’re definitely not alone.


    Keywords: toxic relationships, flying monkeys, smear campaign, triangulation, gaslighting, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, red flags, setting boundaries, self-worth, podcast on manipulation, healing from abuse


    Email: thatsnotokaypodcast@gmail.com

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    30 分
  • Is He Just *Very* Close to His Family? The Hidden Abuse Behind Enmeshment
    2025/04/15

    Is your partner more emotionally committed to their parents than to you? In this eye-opening episode of That’s Not OK: Spot the Red Flags, Reclaim Your Love Life, host Alyssa exposes the rarely discussed but deeply damaging dynamic of enmeshment—a toxic family system where love is conditional, boundaries are blurred, and your partner’s identity is consumed by their parent-child role.


    You’ll learn:

    • What enmeshment really is (and why it’s not love)

    • The three toxic child roles in enmeshed families: golden child, scapegoat, and forgotten child

    • Why you feel like a third wheel in your own relationship

    • How emotional fusion, guilt, and control replace true closeness

    • What change actually looks like (spoiler: it’s not lip service)


    Whether you’re dating someone enmeshed with their family, trying to heal from this yourself, or just wondering why something always feels “off,” this episode is your red-flag decoder.


    Listen now and learn how to spot emotional incest, stand up for your worth, and reclaim the love life you deserve.


    Contact: thatsnotokaypodcast@gmail.com

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    31 分
  • Why Do Boundaries Make Him Mad?
    2025/04/07

    In this episode of That’s Not Okay, Alyssa dives deep into the world of boundaries in relationships—what they are, why they matter, and why they make some people so angry. Learn how boundaries help you protect your mental, emotional, and spiritual health, and why unhealthy people often react with guilt trips, gaslighting, or rage.


    We’ll also explore how attachment styles—anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—affect the way people respond to rejection and “no.” If you’ve ever felt punished for asserting your needs or pressured to tolerate dysfunction, this episode is for you.


    Timestamps:

    00:00 – Introduction: What are boundaries?

    02:15 – Why “No” triggers unhealthy people

    06:50 – Boundaries vs. Entitlement

    10:30 – How boundaries create healthy love

    16:00 – Broken attachment styles & boundaries

    25:45 – Internal vs. external boundaries

    30:00 – Why narcissistic family systems fear boundaries

    37:10 – Final thoughts: Boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re love in action.


    Keywords:

    boundaries in relationships, how to set boundaries, attachment styles, narcissistic families, red flags in love, emotional health, why people hate boundaries, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment


    Resources:


    Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend


    Contact: thatsnotokaypodcast@gmail.com

    Links: YouTube & Spotify

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    31 分