If your home has ever felt like it’s working against you, this one’s for you. Certified professional organizer Alison Lush joins the show to unpack the ADHD relationship to stuff. Learn what chronic disorganization actually means, why the Marie Kondo method can backfire, and how to build systems that work with your brain. We also get into the emotional weight of clutter, organizing as a couples issue, and why community might be the most underrated tool of all.

For more on this topic

• Watch: Tips from an ADHD Coach: Big feelings around clutter
• Explore: Free self-guided activity for women with ADHD

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Laura Mears-Reynolds, founder of ADHDAF and an award-winning community organizer, joins Cate to talk about online communication, building connection, and staying in touch when you have ADHD. They dig into rejection sensitive dysphoria and miscommunication, object permanence with people, time blindness in relationships — and why online community can be genuinely life-saving. Plus: the great voice memo debate, and why your calendar reminder system for friends is not sociopathic.

For more on this topic

• ADHDAF
• Feeling unsafe with ADHD (Laura Mears-Reynolds’ story) | ADHD Aha!
• Building ADHD community | Sorry, I Missed This

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Content warning: This episode discusses self-harm.

What does it actually take to finish a book with ADHD?

Cate sits down with Erik Gude, her co-author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to unpack five years of starts, stops, and persistence. They get into taking advantage of accessibility options and overcoming the shame of looming, unfinished projects to get this one done.

For more on this topic

• Listen: Infinite Quest (Cate and Erik’s podcast)
• Listen: ADHD and procrastination

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As we know, Reddit is full of messy love stories, and we have thoughts.

From gaslighting and age gaps to the weird magic of “new relationship energy,” we read posts that make us laugh, cringe, and wonder — can memory be used as a weapon in a relationship?

For more on this topic

• Listen: ADHD and dating
• Listen: Is it love or is it dopamine?

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Division of labor between partners isn’t easy for anyone. Add ADHD and suddenly dishes come with shame. Trash becomes a crisis. And rest starts to feel sketchy.

Cate sits down with KC Davis to unpack the messy, deeply human reality of sharing work at home. They talk about resentment, perfectionism, time blindness, trust, and why keeping score almost never fixes anything.

For more on this topic

• Listen: Managing expectations in relationships
• Read: How to Keep House While Drowning (KC’s book)

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Have you ever stayed up all night replaying a meeting in your head? Or obsessed over an email? Or questioned every instinct you have? If making decisions feels like a full-time job, this one’s for you!

We’re talking with Dr. Mark Schrime, a surgeon with a PhD in the science of decision-making. Hear about the exhausting cycle of analysis paralysis, second-guessing, and decision fatigue that’s a reality for many people with ADHD.

For more on this topic

• Listen: Analysis paralysis
• Read: ADHD and analysis paralysis

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

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If your ADHD symptoms seem to have leveled up out of nowhere, you’re not losing it. Hormones play a much bigger role in ADHD than most of us understand, especially during perimenopause and menopause.

Today, we’re chatting with licensed counselor Mandi Dixon about why focus, memory, sleep, and emotional regulation can suddenly fall apart in your 40s. We also dig into why ADHD meds may stop working the way you’re used to — and what actually helps when carefully built systems stop cooperating.

For more on this topic:

• Listen: ADHD and hormones
• Read: A guide to hormones and ADHD
• Read: ADHD and periods
• Explore: The Menopause Society

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

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Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”?

Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops.

For more on this topic:

• Try: ADHD Unstuck (a free self-guided activity)
• Listen: How to climb out of mental rabbit holes (from Hyperfocus)
• Read: ADHD and mood swings

For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

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