Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.

If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

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Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

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In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.

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In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.

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After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!

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Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur.

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Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma.

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Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA.

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