For some male survivors, the mask isn’t anger or success — it’s immaturity. They stay in perpetual adolescence, avoiding responsibility, dodging commitment, and joking their way through life. To the outside world, they look carefree. But inside, they’re stuck.

In this episode, Antonne shares how childhood sexual abuse froze his development, leaving him a grown man still living like a teenager. He opens up about sabotaging relationships, struggling as a father, and fearing that he could never step into real manhood.

We explore how trauma wires the brain to chase novelty and escape, why responsibility feels like danger, and the coaching steps that helped Antonne move from avoidance to accountability.

This is the raw truth about Peter Pan Syndrome — and the reminder that growing up doesn’t mean losing joy, it means finding freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

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Life by Your Design

Luis thought sex was survival — but in adulthood, performance left him anxious and disconnected. Discover how trauma rewires intimacy, and how he reclaimed the bedroom as a place of safety and connection.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Zeke looked like the picture of success — a corporate VP, sharp suit, life of the party. But behind the mask was a man carrying brutal abuse from his father, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. To protect his career, he couldn’t risk traditional therapy. Instead, he turned to coaching — and discovered how to unmask without losing everything he’d built.

In this raw episode, we explore how high-functioning survivors hide in plain sight, the neuroscience behind perfectionism and risky escapes, and the steps Zeke took to break free from his double life.

f you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.

If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.

If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.

With you in this, Coach Thomas Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.

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