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We talk a lot about anxiety and depression—but what if the root cause is your hormones? Hormonal imbalance is showing up earlier and more often than it did two decades ago, and it impacts everything from your sleep to your sex drive to your ability to feel joy.

In this episode, I’m unpacking why hormone issues are becoming more common, how they can masquerade as mental health struggles, and why HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) can be such a powerful solution. I’ll also break down why some doctors hesitate to prescribe it—and why it’s 100% okay to advocate for yourself and even doctor shop until you find the care you deserve.

If you’ve ever wondered whether there’s more to your anxiety, fatigue, or mood swings than just “stress,” this episode is your permission slip to dig deeper.

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You’re having a normal day—coffee in hand, scrolling your phone—and suddenly your chest tightens, your heart races, and you’re spiraling. That’s a trigger. But what exactly does it mean to be “triggered”?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what triggers really are (spoiler: they’re your nervous system’s way of trying to protect you), how to recognize when you’re in the middle of one, and practical tools to help you calm your body and regain control. I’ll share real-life examples from my work as a therapist—and from my own life—because yes, we all get triggered.

Whether your buttons get pushed by family drama, your toddler’s meltdown, or something deeper, this quick episode will give you tools to respond with more calm and less chaos.

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Ever met someone who just has it—that mix of confidence, warmth, and magnetism that makes people lean in? That’s charisma. And good news: it’s not some magical personality trait you’re either born with or not—it’s a skill you can actually practice.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what charisma really is (hint: it’s equal parts warmth and competence), why it matters more than smarts when it comes to relationships and leadership, and simple ways you can start increasing your likeability today. We’ll cover science-backed strategies, a few funny real-life examples, and practical tips you can try right away.

Whether you want to connect better at work, with your partner, or even with the other parents at daycare drop-off, this 10-minute crash course will give you the tools to be more magnetic—without being fake.

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Ever wondered what EMDR actually is—or why everyone from trauma therapists to TikTok is talking about it? In this episode, I’m breaking down Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (aka EMDR) in plain English.

We’ll cover how it works, what the science says, and who it’s really for. I’ll also share how EMDR has impacted me personally and what I’ve seen in my own clients—because spoiler alert: it’s powerful. Whether you’re a therapist curious about adding it to your toolkit or someone wondering if it could help you heal, this crash course is for you.

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The word "boundaries" has become such a buzzword that many people throw it around without truly understanding what it means. But what exactly are boundaries, and why do so many of us struggle to set them effectively?

Boundaries aren't about controlling others—they're guidelines for what you will and won't allow in your life. The key distinction lies in taking responsibility for yourself rather than trying to change someone else's behavior. A true boundary consists of identifying unacceptable behavior and determining what YOU will do if that boundary isn't respected.

For those raised with messaging about always being nice, avoiding conflict, or putting others first, boundary-setting feels nearly impossible. Family systems that reward people-pleasing, religious teachings about self-sacrifice, or witnessing parental martyrdom create powerful barriers to establishing healthy limits. Without these boundaries, chronic resentment festers, burnout becomes inevitable, and a confused sense of identity emerges—especially in enmeshed family systems.

Through practical examples—from managing intrusive conversations with parents to creating decompression time after work—this episode provides concrete strategies for implementing boundaries in everyday life. The guilt that initially accompanies boundary-setting is normal, comparable to the discomfort of learning any new skill. By starting small, being consistent, and using supportive mantras like "Discomfort is not danger" and "Boundaries create safety, not separation," you can build momentum toward a more balanced, self-respecting life.

Ready to stop leaking energy because you're afraid to set limits? This episode walks you through a simple journaling exercise to identify where boundaries are needed most, and offers a step-by-step approach to practicing this essential self-care skill. Because ultimately, a well-boundaried you is better for everyone in your life—whether they realize it or not.

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Ever found yourself drawn to someone who couldn't quite decide if they wanted you? The Harrison-Lauren-Tony love triangle from Love Island UK Season 12 offers a perfect case study in toxic relationship patterns that might feel eerily familiar.

This captivating analysis breaks down the psychological dynamics at play when a charming but emotionally withholding person keeps multiple partners on the hook. Harrison's classic avoidant attachment style—complete with ambiguous feelings, surface-level connection, and an "I'm still deciding" approach—creates the perfect storm of manipulation. Through intermittent reinforcement (the same psychological principle that makes gambling addictive), he keeps both women in a perpetual state of hope and confusion.

The women's responses reveal different manifestations of anxious attachment: Tony overtly emotional and desperate to prove her worth, Lauren hiding behind a "cool girl" mask while crumbling inside. Both smart, beautiful women stay caught in this dynamic not because of bad luck in love, but because of deep-seated attachment patterns.

What makes this analysis so powerful is how it exposes the red flags we often miss: when someone's feelings are confusing from day one, when they disengage during conflict, or when they reframe manipulation as "just being honest." As the episode points out with crystal clarity: "A man who's unsure about you is sure enough to walk away."

Whether you're a Love Island fan or simply recognize these patterns from your own dating history, this deep dive offers more than just entertainment—it provides a pathway to understanding your attachment style and breaking free from toxic cycles. Ready to stop dating Harrisons? Your first step is recognizing what's really happening beneath all those breadcrumbs of affection.

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Have you ever felt responsible for a parent's emotional wellbeing? Been called "the only one they can talk to" or "their rock"? That special closeness you felt might actually have been something therapists call emotional incest—a hidden form of boundary violation that shapes how we connect with others well into adulthood.

Emotional incest occurs when a parent turns to their child to fulfill emotional needs typically reserved for adult relationships. Unlike physical or sexual abuse, it's often disguised as love, creating confusion for survivors who struggle to recognize its harmful effects. This dynamic frequently emerges in families with an absent, addicted, or emotionally immature parent, leading to a triangulation that pulls children across boundaries into adult roles they're developmentally unprepared to handle.

The impact on adult relationships is profound. Survivors typically struggle with setting boundaries, confuse unhealthy enmeshment with intimacy, and often become chronic people-pleasers or over-functioners in relationships. Many battle persistent guilt when prioritizing their own needs or fear they're "too much" for others. Recovery begins with the powerful realization that it was never your job to emotionally caretake your parent. From there, practicing firm boundaries becomes essential, along with grieving the parent you deserved versus the one you had.

If any of this resonates with your experience, know that healing is possible. Consider working with a therapist trained in modalities like Internal Family Systems or EMDR to process this relational trauma. With awareness and support, you can break these generational patterns and create the healthy, authentic connections you deserve. Join me for an empowering discussion about recognizing, understanding, and healing from the subtle but significant wounds of emotional incest.

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Were you the only child who was “so mature for your age”—but never really got to be a kid? In this episode, we dive into what it’s really like growing up without siblings and how that shapes your identity, relationships, and emotional habits as an adult.

Drawing from birth order psychology and Family Systems Theory, we explore how only children miss the sibling subsystem—your first environment for social learning—and what happens when you become the emotional container for your entire family. From hyper-independence to emotional overload, this one’s for every adult who grew up as a one-person support team.

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