What if true self-care isn’t just what you do internally, but how you choose to show up in the world?

In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Jessica Papineau to explore confidence, visibility, and the emotional connection between how we see ourselves and how we present ourselves.

Jessica Papineau is the founder of CSJ Styling, a leading personal styling company dedicated to empowering female entrepreneurs on a mission to change the world. With over 25 years in the fashion industry, she has helped thousands of women harness the power of style to serve their purpose, boost their confidence, and elevate their image. From seven-figure entrepreneurs and executives of billion-dollar global brands to influential creators and leaders in entertainment, sports, and music, Jessica’s expertise transforms wardrobes into a strategic tool for success.

She understands that style is more than clothing—it’s a catalyst for confidence, visibility, and impact. By curating wardrobes that align with each client’s vision, Jessica helps high-achieving women step fully into their power, show up with clarity, and make a lasting impression in every aspect of their lives.

A recognized thought leader in personal styling, Jessica has been featured on ABC News, She Means Business Magazine July 2025 Cover, Voice of Changes - Top 40 Speakers, spotlighted in top podcasts, and listed among MSN’s Top 10 Self-Made Women to Follow in 2025 and in top entrepreneurial publications such as LA Wire, Women's Journal, She Means Business, and NY Weekly. Jessica was featured in the book "Slaying Sarasota," and was a nominee for Sarasota Magazine’s ‘Women Who Roar’ Leadership Award. She continues to drive conversations about the intersection of style, confidence, and personal growth. Through CSJ Styling, she is redefining what it means to cultivate a wardrobe that not only looks extraordinary but serves as a tool for personal and professional transformation.

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When women align how they feel internally with how they present externally, they naturally become more confident, visible, and open to new opportunities.

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In this uplifting episode of the Self-Care Sht* podcast, host Kathy Love sits down with her friend Clayton, a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher, to explore how a 20-year finance career evolved into a life devoted to presence, service, and practical self-care.

Clayton shares the inflection point that changed everything: a values-based approach to money (inspired by George Kinder) that unexpectedly led him out of finance and into not-for-profit work, meditation, and eventually corporate leadership training grounded in mindfulness and neuroscience. From the “brain’s negativity bias” to why gratitude works on a biological level, this conversation is equal parts science, storytelling, and totally usable tools.

You’ll hear how meditation can live far beyond the cushion—on the pickleball court, in the shower, or in a tough conversation in your kitchen—and why the real magic is noticing (without judgment) and then choosing your next best action. Also: the funniest unexpected benefit of meditation? Becoming “a little less of a jerk.” 😂

🔑 Key Takeaways

• Mind–Heart Alignment: A successful career can still feel misaligned. Mindfulness helped Clayton move from “head only” to a purpose rooted in service.
• Meditation Is a Tool, Not a Trophy: It’s not about bliss; it’s about practicing awareness so you can choose your response when life gets real.
• Negativity Bias Is Normal: Our brains are “Velcro for threat and Teflon for reward.” Gratitude—specific and embodied—helps rebalance the system.
• Everyday Mindfulness Works: Showers, walks, eating, golf, pickleball—if you intentionally engage your senses, you’re training presence.
• Humor Heals: Laughter can downshift tension and create space for wiser choices (and kinder relationships).

👤 About the Guest

Clayton is a leadership trainer and mindfulness teacher who blends neuroscience, soft-skills coaching, and practical meditation for real-world impact. After two decades in finance and a decade in nonprofit fundraising, he now helps teams and leaders build clarity, calm, and courage through mindful presence. He hosts a free Friday Morning Online Meditation featuring centering practice, a short talk, and guided meditation, with open community sharing afterward. (Details and contact in the links below.)

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Executive coach and fractional CHRO Lauren Lefkowitz gets real about how “fine” keeps high-achievers stuck—and what it actually takes to build a sustainable career and life. Lauren shares the jaw-dropping moment that forced her to stop people-pleasing (yes, it involved a Roomba and two broken shoulders), and how she rebuilt with boundaries, therapy, guided meditation, accountability, and celebration. We unpack codependency at work, the fear of being labeled “lazy,” and why saying no isn’t mean—it’s mature. You’ll learn Lauren’s simple Notice → Decide → Do framework, how to use the pause/breath before you act, and why the feelings wheel belongs in every leader’s toolkit. If you’ve ever said “it’s fine” while your body screams otherwise, this conversation is your loving wake-up call. (Grab Lauren’s free Fine Is A Trap inventory and connect with her—links in the show notes.)

3 Key Takeaways:

1. Notice → Decide → Do (with a Pause).
   Slow down first. Notice what you’re saying yes to, decide what truly serves you, then do—after a breath.
2. Boundaries aren’t lazy—they’re leadership.
   Redefine “selfish” as self-honoring. A clear no protects your health, work, and relationships—and you’re still worthy even if others don’t like it.
3. Support and celebration are self-care.
   Therapy, accountability partners, sleep, guided meditation, the feelings wheel—and yes, celebrating wins (even small ones) rewires “fine” into thriving.

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What if your greatest fears could become the gateway to living your most authentic life? In this illuminating conversation with transformational success coach Heather Vickery, we explore the powerful intersection of human design and subconscious reprogramming—two complementary approaches that can help you truly know, like, and trust yourself.

Heather unpacks the fascinating world of human design, a scientific self-discovery system that reveals how you're uniquely designed to experience the world. Unlike personality tests that change over time, your human design remains constant, offering profound insights into your decision-making process, energy patterns, and life purpose. We explore the five human design types—Manifesters, Generators, Manifesting Generators, Projectors, and Reflectors—and how understanding your type can transform the way you approach everything from career choices to relationships.

The conversation takes a deeper turn as Heather explains how Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) can help reprogram the 95% of your mind that operates subconsciously. Through techniques like timeline therapy and subliminal audios, you can make subtle yet powerful shifts that lead to remarkable transformation—often more quickly than you might expect. "Just because it took you a lifetime to get to a point where you want to make change does not mean it will take you a lifetime to change," Heather reminds us.

Whether you're struggling with codependency, seeking greater self-understanding, or simply curious about human design, this episode offers practical wisdom for your self-care journey. Pull your free human design chart at victoryandco.com and begin discovering who you truly are.

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In this episode, Kathy Love sits down with Scott McGregor, publisher of Outlier Magazine, founder of The Outlier Project and Something New, and a four-time author. Together, they explore how building deep, meaningful relationships has shaped Scott's success and personal growth. Through their conversation, they highlight how relationship-building is a form of self-care, fostering both personal fulfillment and professional success. Tune in for insights into how cultivating genuine connections can elevate your life and business.

Show Notes:

• Scott McGregor shares his journey of building lasting relationships, from his early days of sending personalized notes to today’s global impact through the Outlier Project.
• The episode delves into how Scott's intentional approach to relationship-building has contributed to his entrepreneurial success and personal development.
• Kathy and Scott discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with people who elevate you, hold you accountable, and push you to reach new heights.
• Highlights include Scott’s perspective on how these relationships shape his business ventures and the Outlier Project community’s transformative impact.

Key Takeaways:

1. Intentional Relationship Building: Scott explains how being intentional about connecting with others has been a key factor in his personal and professional success.
2. Personalized Care: The power of thoughtful, personalized gestures to strengthen bonds and show people they are seen and valued.
3. The Ripple Effect: Surrounding yourself with high-caliber individuals elevates your standards and sparks ideas, creating a ripple effect that influences every aspect of your life and business.

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Jessica Dean, Nutrition Expert and Intuitive Eating Coach

Episode Overview:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love is joined by her long-time friend and nutrition expert, Jessica Dean, for an enlightening conversation about intuitive eating, self-care, and the powerful connection between food and healing. Jessica shares her personal journey of shifting from disordered eating patterns to embracing nourishment as self-care, and how she now helps others, particularly women, heal their relationships with food. Tune in for insights on how to listen to your body’s signals, break free from diet culture, and transform your approach to nutrition.

Topics Covered:

• Jessica’s personal story of healing her relationship with food and discovering intuitive eating.
• The role of intuitive eating in healing disordered eating patterns and fostering body connection.
• How nourishing your body with food can be an act of self-care and why it's important to treat food as a form of nourishment, not a source of stress.
• The challenges of shifting away from diet culture and learning to trust your body’s natural cues.
• How Jessica broke the cycle of food-related anxiety in her family and modeled healthy food relationships for her children.
• Practical steps to begin the journey of intuitive eating, including how to start small and gradually build self-trust.

Key Takeaways:

1. Healing Your Relationship with Food: Learn how intuitive eating can help break free from the cycle of dieting and guilt, allowing you to reconnect with your body’s natural hunger and fullness cues.
2. Self-Care Through Nutrition: Eating mindfully and intuitively is not just about food; it’s about honoring your body and treating nutrition as a form of self-care.
3. Breaking the Cycle: Discover how healing your relationship with food can empower you to break generational cycles and model healthier behaviors for your children.

Resources Mentioned:

• Intuitive Eating Book (by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch)
• Jessica’s website: Jessica D Nutrition
• Follow Jessica on Instagram for intuitive eating tips and meal prep ideas

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• My Self Care Sht* Podcast Website: My Self Care Sh*t
• Instagram: @KathyLoveSelfCare

Quotes:

• “Self-care is the ultimate form of self-love, and food is the ultimate form of self-care.”
• “Once you learn to trust your body, food no longer has power over you.”
• “When we start healing from disordered eating, we start reconnecting with what our body really needs.”

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🎧 Description:

In this heartfelt episode, I share the inspiring story of my youngest client ever — a 13-year-old young woman on the cusp of high school. What started with her reading My Self Care Sht: The Workbook* turned into some of the deepest, most powerful conversations I've ever had as a coach.

Together, we explore how early experiences with friendship, bullying, people-pleasing, and boundary-setting shape us—and why healing from codependency isn't just adult work. It's essential for our kids too. This conversation reignited my passion to share these lessons far and wide, not just for adults doing the work, but for the next generation who deserve a more authentic, self-loving life from the very start.

If you've ever questioned whether the healing you're doing is making a difference, this episode will remind you: it absolutely is.

📝 Show Notes:

In this episode, I talk about:

• How my relationship with my youngest client, a 13-year-old girl, began through My Self Care Sht: The Workbook*.
• The powerful moment she shared her experience with toxic friendships — and how it reflected deep emotional wisdom at a young age.
• Why teaching self-love, boundaries, and emotional healing early can change the entire trajectory of a life.
• My own struggles with starting this podcast and how this young woman inspired me to finally hit "record."
• A reminder that healing is not just for us—it's for those who come after us, too.
• Why learning to protect, defend, and love yourself like you would a small child is one of the greatest acts of self-care.

Takeaway:
Whether you're doing the inner work as an adult or you're just beginning your journey as a young person, remember: the struggles, emotions, and healing paths we walk are universal—and we have so much to learn from each other.

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In this episode of My Self-Care Sht*, Kathy Love explores the subtle yet profound ways emotional codependency can impact our lives. Often, we equate independence with being free from codependency, but the truth is, emotional dependence on others can show up in unexpected ways. Whether it’s seeking validation, comfort, or approval from others, Kathy discusses how these tendencies can create unhealthy dynamics in our relationships and personal well-being. She shares personal anecdotes, reflecting on her own journey of recognizing and healing from emotional codependency. Tune in to learn how to recognize the difference between healthy independence and emotional codependency, and discover how self-awareness and self-love can set you on the path to true freedom.

Show Notes:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love dives into the topic of codependency and what it really means to be emotionally independent.

Key Points:

• Emotional Codependency vs. Independence: Kathy shares how many people mistake emotional independence for physical independence. Just because you’re financially independent or can live on your own doesn’t mean you aren’t emotionally dependent on others.
• Looking for Validation: Whether you need others to validate your worth, make you feel safe, or make you feel understood, these are signs of emotional codependency. Kathy explores how to recognize and address these patterns in your own life.
• The Comfort Trap: Kathy talks about how she used to seek comfort from external sources like people and objects (e.g., furry clothes and blankets) to fill emotional gaps. She explains how she learned to comfort herself and why this self-sufficiency is key to healing.
• Self-Validation: When it comes to simple decisions, like choosing what to wear, Kathy explains the importance of making choices based on what feels right to you, not on the opinions of others.
• The Fear of Vulnerability in Relationships: Kathy shares how sometimes we build walls of independence to protect ourselves from potential hurt or abandonment in relationships. The fear of letting others in can often look like the need for extreme independence.
• Healthy Independence: It’s not about cutting others off; it’s about learning how to ask for help when needed and building confidence in your ability to stand on your own. Kathy emphasizes the need to reflect on whether your independence is empowering you or keeping you isolated.

Takeaways:

• Recognize when your independence is rooted in emotional fear or self-doubt.
• Learn how to self-validate and find comfort within yourself, rather than relying on others.
• Understand that emotional codependency is not about needing others, but rather about learning to trust yourself and ask for help when necessary.

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