Welcome back to Fly to Freedom.

Set point weight is one of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics in eating disorder recovery. In this episode, I’m breaking down what it really means, why it matters so much, and how to stop fighting your body so you can finally feel safe in it.

We’ll explore:

• What set point weight is (and what it isn’t)

• Why your body defends this natural range so fiercely

• The emotional and biological impact of trying to stay below it

• Why overshoot happens and why it’s not failure but part of healing

• Why some people live in larger bodies and what’s really going on there

• How to cope if your weight has stabilised but you still don’t feel at home in your body

This is about more than numbers or appearance. It’s about understanding your body as a partner, not a problem. When you stop resisting your set point weight, your body can move out of survival mode, your mind can quieten, and your life can finally expand beyond control.

Whether you’re at the beginning of recovery, in the messy middle, or wondering if your body has settled, this conversation will help you make sense of the chaos, release shame, and begin to trust that your body has always been on your side.

💛 You deserve peace. You deserve freedom. And your body is not the enemy—it’s your home.

💛 If you’re looking for a safe place to explore what recovery really means for you, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is there to support you. Inside you’ll find live coaching calls, courses, workshops, and a community of people who understand.

I'm also running a public workshop on 11th October on Healing The Fear Of Weight Gain.

If this episode resonated with you, then this workshop will really help you. Book now: https://www.juliatrehane.com/workshops

And when you’re ready for deeper, personalised work on the root causes of the eating disorder, my 1:1 coaching offers close support and guidance to help you move towards full freedom.

Wherever you are right now — remember, presence is enough, and you are always worth choosing.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this episode, I sit down with Angela, a woman who has just completed coaching with me and has transformed her life in ways she once thought were impossible.

Angela opens her heart and shares what recovery really feels like from the inside—the messy middle, the fear of letting go of control, the grief of facing old wounds, and ultimately the joy of discovering her true self.

She talks about the shift from quasi-recovery into full recovery, moving beyond the food piece into the deeper emotional healing that brings lasting freedom. From learning to use “kinder eyes” with herself, to shedding the armour of perfectionism, makeup, and control, Angela’s story is one of courage, vulnerability, and hope.

You’ll hear:

• The difference between simply eating more and truly healing at the root.

• How black-and-white thinking gave way to curiosity, compassion, and growth.

• What it feels like to let go of the eating disorder’s armour and show up as her authentic self.

• How recovery changed her marriage, her creativity, and her confidence.

• Why investing in herself was the turning point that made freedom possible.

Angela’s journey is a powerful reminder that recovery is not only possible—it’s worth everything. If you’re feeling stuck in quasi-recovery, constantly fighting your thoughts, or fearing who you’ll be without the eating disorder, this episode will show you what’s waiting on the other side.

💛 And if you’re looking for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, including Angela, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It’s a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between.

Inside, you’ll also find the Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses, and of course—me, Julia, here with you every step of the way.

Come be part of something that actually helps. You don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle

So many of us in recovery know the words “I feel fat” all too well. They can hit like a tidal wave after eating, while looking in the mirror, or when shame and panic rise out of nowhere. But fat isn’t actually a feeling.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m unpacking what’s really happening when those words surface. Together, we’ll explore:

• Why “I feel fat” is often a shorthand for emotions we were never taught how to name.

• The deeper feelings that hide beneath body shame — fear, sadness, grief, vulnerability, or loneliness.

• Why restriction became a coping mechanism, and how recovery brings emotions rushing back.

• A simple 5-step practice you can use when the “I feel fat” thoughts feel overwhelming.

These thoughts aren’t evidence of failure — they’re signals from your nervous system asking to be heard. And when you begin to meet them with compassion instead of punishment, real healing starts to unfold.

💛 Free resource for you: I’ve created a brand new guide, Five Feelings That Fuel an Eating Disorder (and How to Navigate Them). You can download it for free at juliatrehane.com. It’s a gentle way to start making sense of those “I feel fat” days.

💛 Want daily support? Inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, you’ll find the Feelings Navigator — a tool that helps you identify what you’re truly feeling — plus a loving community, live coaching, and on-demand recovery courses to support you every step of the way.

💛 Ready for deeper healing? My 1:1 coaching is where I work closely with you on the root causes, helping your system learn how to feel, soothe, and return to full self-trust.

Wherever you are today, please know this: “I feel fat” isn’t the end of the story. It’s the beginning of learning a new language — one of self-compassion, emotional truth, and freedom.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m joined by the brilliant Tabitha Farrar — recovery coach, speaker, and author of Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover and Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs.

Tabitha shares her journey of living with anorexia for over a decade, how a seemingly innocent decision triggered the illness, and the pivotal moment she finally chose recovery. Known for her blunt, science-based, no-nonsense approach, Tabitha talks openly about:

• Why she believes recovery doesn’t have to be complicated.

• The crucial role of facing fears — especially around exercise and weight gain.

• How negative body image is learned, and how to actually unlearn it.

• Why acting “as if” you like your body can rewire the brain faster than waiting for the feelings to change.

• The recovery myths that keep people stuck, including the idea that bingeing in recovery is something to fear.

💛 If you’d like to connect with Tabitha, you can find her at tabithafarrar.com and on her YouTube channel.

💛 If you’re ready to take the next step in your own recovery, visit juliatrehane.com. You’ll find all the ways we can work together – whether that’s through my workshops, joining The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle for ongoing support, or my 1:1 coaching for deeper, personalised guidance.

So many people in recovery quietly wonder: Do I have to face the trauma to truly heal?

Maybe you’ve whispered that question to yourself too – in the middle of a meal, in a therapy room, or in the quiet of the night when you’re just so tired of hurting. Maybe you long for recovery but dread opening the door to the past.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m speaking to that exact fear. Together we’ll explore:

• What trauma really is (hint: it’s not just what happened, but what you carried forward).

• Why recovery can absolutely begin without digging into the past straight away.

• How nourishment, rest and nervous system safety lay the groundwork for deeper healing.

• Why avoidance isn’t failure – it’s often a survival response that kept you safe.

• How real trauma healing often begins in small, quiet acts of safety, presence and self-compassion.

Recovery is not just about food. It’s about reclaiming the parts of you that had to hide – the ones who deserve love, safety, and freedom.

💛 If you’re ready to take the next step in your own recovery, visit juliatrehane.com. You’ll find all the ways we can work together – whether that’s one of my £27 workshops, joining the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle for ongoing support, or working with me 1:1 to supercharge your recovery. You can also download my free eBook The Five Voices We Carry: A Journey Through the Hardest Feelings in Recovery to help you navigate the emotional side of healing.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this month’s Julia & Vics Q&A, we answer your powerful recovery questions — from fears about quasi-recovery to coping with brain chemistry changes, rebuilding family trust, and navigating oedema, weight gain, and family comments.

You’ll hear raw, compassionate answers rooted in lived experience — the messy parts, the scary parts, and the hopeful parts. Whether you’re at the start or further along, these conversations show you that recovery is possible for everyone.

[03:15] Quasi vs. Full Recovery – Can coaches tell who will fully recover? Why commitment and openness matter more than prediction.

[08:40] Brain Chemistry – Why suicidal thoughts, depression, and appetite loss can hit when you start eating more, and how to move through it.

[17:55] Food Perfectionism – Fear of making the “wrong” choice, and how to let food be messy, not perfect.

[23:10] Family Trust – How to rebuild relationships and feel proud of yourself again after painful years.

[32:05] Planning Challenges – Should challenges be scheduled or spontaneous? Why the answer is both.

[37:45] Oedema – Julia’s lived experience of extreme water retention, why it happens, and how to cope.

[46:20] Weight Gain Blame – Reframing “healthy” and “unhealthy” foods, and trusting your body.

[55:30] BMI Fears – Why BMI is irrelevant, why food thoughts count as hunger, and how to keep going.

[01:05:15] Family Comments – Coping when loved ones make thin-obsessed remarks, and why inner child work matters.

[01:15:10] Blood Tests – Why results may look “normal” despite restriction, and why that doesn’t mean you’re okay.

[01:25:40] Restricting to “Check” Metabolism – Why this cycle fuels mistrust, and how to break it.

[01:32:50] Fear or Excitement – How fear can transform into courage, and why borrowing belief helps.

[01:40:05] Making Recovery Easier – Would we do it differently? Why going all in was the fastest way through.

[01:47:15] HSPs – Why many with eating disorders are highly sensitive people, and how to see it as a strength.

💛 And if you're looking for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It’s a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between.

Inside you’ll also find the Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses, and of course — me, Julia, here with you every step of the way.

Come be part of something that actually helps. You don’t have to do this alone.

This is the episode I’ve never fully shared before – not the neat, summarised version of my story, but the raw, unfiltered truth of my eating disorder recovery.

I take you with me from the very darkest place I have ever been – when I truly believed my family would be better off without me – through the messy, painful, beautiful journey that led me to full and lasting freedom.

You’ll hear about the moments that broke me open, the boundaries I had to set, the inner child work that changed everything, the terrifying physical symptoms, the cravings, the shame, and the unexpected rediscovery of connection, pleasure, and love for life itself.

This isn’t a “five tips to recover” kind of episode. It’s my lived experience – the truth of anorexia recovery and eating disorder recovery as I walked it – with all the fear, hope, setbacks, and breakthroughs along the way.

If you’re in the middle of it right now, or standing at the edge wondering if recovery is even possible for you, I hope my story shows you that no matter how far gone you feel, you are never beyond hope. Freedom is possible, and it’s worth every tear, every bite, every beginning again.

💛 And if you’re looking for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It’s a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between.

Inside, you’ll also find the Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses, and of course – me, here with you every step of the way.

Come be part of something that actually helps. You don’t have to do this alone.

👉 Join us here: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m joined by Sydney, a former client whose journey through anorexia recovery is nothing short of inspiring. When we first met, Sydney was lost in the eating disorder – afraid of food, disconnected from her friends and family, and trapped in a cycle of rules, restriction, and fear.

Through coaching, Sydney learned to challenge those thoughts, reconnect with herself, and rebuild her relationship with food, her body, and her life. She shares the hardest parts of recovery, the breakthroughs that made the biggest difference, and the moments where she surprised herself with what she could achieve – from enjoying dessert again to embracing movement for joy rather than punishment.

Sydney also opens up about the contrast between traditional treatment and coaching, how the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle supports her daily, and why freedom is about so much more than weight restoration. Her story is a powerful reminder that full recovery is possible – and that life beyond the eating disorder can be filled with connection, confidence, and joy.

💛 If you’re ready for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, including Sydney! The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you

Inside, you’ll find the Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses, and of course – me, walking alongside you every step of the way. You don’t have to do this alone.