Welcome back to Fly to Freedom.

Set point weight is one of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics in eating disorder recovery. In this episode, I’m breaking down what it really means, why it matters so much, and how to stop fighting your body so you can finally feel safe in it.

We’ll explore:

• What set point weight is (and what it isn’t)

• Why your body defends this natural range so fiercely

• The emotional and biological impact of trying to stay below it

• Why overshoot happens and why it’s not failure but part of healing

• Why some people live in larger bodies and what’s really going on there

• How to cope if your weight has stabilised but you still don’t feel at home in your body

This is about more than numbers or appearance. It’s about understanding your body as a partner, not a problem. When you stop resisting your set point weight, your body can move out of survival mode, your mind can quieten, and your life can finally expand beyond control.

Whether you’re at the beginning of recovery, in the messy middle, or wondering if your body has settled, this conversation will help you make sense of the chaos, release shame, and begin to trust that your body has always been on your side.

💛 You deserve peace. You deserve freedom. And your body is not the enemy—it’s your home.

💛 If you’re looking for a safe place to explore what recovery really means for you, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is there to support you. Inside you’ll find live coaching calls, courses, workshops, and a community of people who understand.

I'm also running a public workshop on 11th October on Healing The Fear Of Weight Gain.

If this episode resonated with you, then this workshop will really help you. Book now: https://www.juliatrehane.com/workshops

And when you’re ready for deeper, personalised work on the root causes of the eating disorder, my 1:1 coaching offers close support and guidance to help you move towards full freedom.

Wherever you are right now — remember, presence is enough, and you are always worth choosing.

Welcome back to Fly to Freedom. In this episode, I sit down with Angela, a woman who has just completed coaching with me and has transformed her life in ways she once thought were impossible.

Angela opens her heart and shares what recovery really feels like from the inside—the messy middle, the fear of letting go of control, the grief of facing old wounds, and ultimately the joy of discovering her true self.

She talks about the shift from quasi-recovery into full recovery, moving beyond the food piece into the deeper emotional healing that brings lasting freedom. From learning to use “kinder eyes” with herself, to shedding the armour of perfectionism, makeup, and control, Angela’s story is one of courage, vulnerability, and hope.

You’ll hear:

• The difference between simply eating more and truly healing at the root.

• How black-and-white thinking gave way to curiosity, compassion, and growth.

• What it feels like to let go of the eating disorder’s armour and show up as her authentic self.

• How recovery changed her marriage, her creativity, and her confidence.

• Why investing in herself was the turning point that made freedom possible.

Angela’s journey is a powerful reminder that recovery is not only possible—it’s worth everything. If you’re feeling stuck in quasi-recovery, constantly fighting your thoughts, or fearing who you’ll be without the eating disorder, this episode will show you what’s waiting on the other side.

💛 And if you’re looking for real support from people who’ve been there and truly get it, including Angela, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is here for you. It’s a unique community of people at all stages of recovery, supporting each other through the mess, the milestones, and everything in between.

Inside, you’ll also find the Feelings Navigator to guide you through hard emotions, monthly coaching calls, live workshops, on-demand recovery courses, and of course—me, Julia, here with you every step of the way.

Come be part of something that actually helps. You don’t have to do this alone.
👉 Join The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle

So many of us in recovery know the words “I feel fat” all too well. They can hit like a tidal wave after eating, while looking in the mirror, or when shame and panic rise out of nowhere. But fat isn’t actually a feeling.

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m unpacking what’s really happening when those words surface. Together, we’ll explore:

• Why “I feel fat” is often a shorthand for emotions we were never taught how to name.

• The deeper feelings that hide beneath body shame — fear, sadness, grief, vulnerability, or loneliness.

• Why restriction became a coping mechanism, and how recovery brings emotions rushing back.

• A simple 5-step practice you can use when the “I feel fat” thoughts feel overwhelming.

These thoughts aren’t evidence of failure — they’re signals from your nervous system asking to be heard. And when you begin to meet them with compassion instead of punishment, real healing starts to unfold.

💛 Free resource for you: I’ve created a brand new guide, Five Feelings That Fuel an Eating Disorder (and How to Navigate Them). You can download it for free at juliatrehane.com. It’s a gentle way to start making sense of those “I feel fat” days.

💛 Want daily support? Inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, you’ll find the Feelings Navigator — a tool that helps you identify what you’re truly feeling — plus a loving community, live coaching, and on-demand recovery courses to support you every step of the way.

💛 Ready for deeper healing? My 1:1 coaching is where I work closely with you on the root causes, helping your system learn how to feel, soothe, and return to full self-trust.

Wherever you are today, please know this: “I feel fat” isn’t the end of the story. It’s the beginning of learning a new language — one of self-compassion, emotional truth, and freedom.