Send us Fan Mail

Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast! I’m Dr. Michelle Border. Do you ever wish you could stop worrying, being anxious, or having catastrophic thinking? I do, and after 15 years of counseling and healing work, it still happens to me. Today I’m going to talk about what each of these topics mean, what happens in our brain when we do them, and how we can learn to control them to have a healthier mindset. So, let’s get started talking about all of that right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Hello everyone! Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do, just to make someone else happy? Maybe you went to the movie your partner wanted to see but you didn’t, or you answered a friend’s call because you knew they were having problems, but you really didn’t have the time (or energy) to talk to them? Then after you do something you didn’t want to do you feel a little resentful that you didn’t stand up for yourself and do what you wanted? Boy, I sure have. That’s why today I’m going to talk about creating healthy boundaries without feeling guilty about having them. I will explain what boundaries are, why we need them, and how to build them without feeling bad or selfish for thinking about what is best for you. So, let’s get started talking about that right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Hello and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about mental borders of feeling like you’re not good enough or too much. These are common feelings among survivors of childhood trauma, but can also be developed in children who were neglected from a lack of parenting skills. Today I will talk about how these feelings develop and how to change them. Let’s get started talking about that right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast. I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about forgiveness. I’ll discuss what forgiveness means, how to give it, and whether or not we should give it. It is a choice we make to give forgiveness, and in my mind, not something that should be given to everyone. So, let’s get started talking about forgiveness right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Hello, everyone! I’m Doctor Michelle Border and I’m so glad you are joining me again this week. In today’s episode I will discuss the concept of our Inner Child. The "inner child" is a metaphor for the part of the brain that retains the emotions, memories, and beliefs formed during childhood. These emotions, memories, and beliefs can have a huge impact on our adulthood. Let’s get started talking about that impact right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and today I’m going to talk about what we can do when in unhealthy or toxic relationships that we are not ready to or cannot get away from. Negative relationships can take a toll on our mental health and build pretty strong borders in our minds. So let’s get started talking about how we can cope with these relationships, how to break down those borders, and decide if it is something that we need to escape from.

Send us Fan Mail

Hello, and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about Trauma Bond. Trauma Bond is what happens in our brains when narcissists manipulate us and change the biochemical pathways in our brains. I recently learned about this concept and wanted to share this new information with you. I’m going to explain what trauma bond is, how it happens, and what we can do about it. So, let’s get started talking about all of that right now.

Send us Fan Mail

Hello, everyone and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about grief. We think of grief as being associated with the death of someone close to us, but grief can be felt for other types of losses as well. Today I will talk about the many different ways we can experience grief, the different emotions that come with grief, and how we can work through those difficult emotions. So let’s get started talking about all of that right now.