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Welcome back! I recently read the book The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk. He provided several insights as to what trauma is, what it does to our brain and body, and how we can begin to heal from it. In today’s episode I will share with you the information I gained from this book, and will talk about how we can work on healing our trauma. Let’s get started talking about all of that right now.

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Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders podcast! Today I’m going to talk about something that has been the toughest part of my healing journey, and that is still feeling unsafe in my body. I struggle daily with feelings of anxiety, hypervigilance, and fear. I have trouble relaxing and feeling safe, even though I am no longer in a traumatic situation. In this episode I will explain why trauma survivors can get stuck in these feelings, and what we can do to ease these feelings so that we can feel safer and calmer. Let’s get started talking about that right now.

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Hi everyone, and welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Today I’m going to discuss a topic that many of us have experienced, and struggle to move past. It’s the mental border of feelings of anger, bitterness, and injustice from being hurt in past relationships without resolution. This gets even harder to manage when the ex seems to have changed into a different person, the person you had always wanted them to be. There’s a lot of emotions involved in this border, and I will explain what and why you may be feeling them, as well as how to start breaking down that border to find inner peace. So, let’s start talking about that right now.

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Hi everyone! I’m so glad you are joining me for this episode. Today I’m going to talk about the guilt and shame that childhood trauma survivors feel, and how we need to forgive ourselves for the choices we made due to experiencing trauma. Many childhood trauma survivors feel regret for things they did, didn't do, said, didn't say, or believe about themselves, even though they were children who were simply trying to survive in a situation they didn’t deserve to be in. So let’s get started breaking down the borders of guilt and shame right now.

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Welcome back everyone! Thank you for joining me for another episode of the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Today I would like to discuss some of the most common borders that can be built in our minds from experiencing childhood trauma. I will also talk about how to start breaking down those borders so you can have happier and healthier thoughts about yourself. So let’s get started breaking things down, right now.

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Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast! I’m Dr. Michelle Border. Do you ever wish you could stop worrying, being anxious, or having catastrophic thinking? I do, and after 15 years of counseling and healing work, it still happens to me. Today I’m going to talk about what each of these topics mean, what happens in our brain when we do them, and how we can learn to control them to have a healthier mindset. So, let’s get started talking about all of that right now.

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Hello everyone! Welcome back to the Breaking Our Borders Podcast. Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do, just to make someone else happy? Maybe you went to the movie your partner wanted to see but you didn’t, or you answered a friend’s call because you knew they were having problems, but you really didn’t have the time (or energy) to talk to them? Then after you do something you didn’t want to do you feel a little resentful that you didn’t stand up for yourself and do what you wanted? Boy, I sure have. That’s why today I’m going to talk about creating healthy boundaries without feeling guilty about having them. I will explain what boundaries are, why we need them, and how to build them without feeling bad or selfish for thinking about what is best for you. So, let’s get started talking about that right now.

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Hello and welcome back! I’m Dr. Michelle Border, and in today’s episode I’m going to talk about mental borders of feeling like you’re not good enough or too much. These are common feelings among survivors of childhood trauma, but can also be developed in children who were neglected from a lack of parenting skills. Today I will talk about how these feelings develop and how to change them. Let’s get started talking about that right now.