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  • People Pleasing vs. Fawning: Why We Do It and How to Change

    People Pleasing vs. Fawning: Why We Do It and How to Change
    2026/09/07
    Dr. Rick and Forrest talk about what separates people-pleasing from the fawn response, and why those differences affect what actually helps. They trace the surprising history behind both ideas, explain each’s relationship with trauma, and answer common questions along the way. They discuss why old friendships pull you back into old patterns, when appeasement is actually the right call, how to assert your needs when people expect you to concede, and how to figure out what you want after a lifetime of tuning into everyone else. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:05: What’s the difference between people-pleasing and “just being nice?” 8:50: Common signs of people-pleasing 21:00: Where "people-pleasing" and “fawning” come from 27:00: Pete Walker, trauma, and how the two terms got merged 30:45: "Is the conflict causing my anxiety, or is my attachment style causing the conflict?" 39:10: Becoming more assertive 47:30: How to change relationships built on the pleasing version of you 55:15: Emotional neglect, shame, and learning what you want 1:04:30: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Visit https://Upwork.com to connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. Visit https://Rula.com/BEINGWELL to find affordable, high-quality therapy that’s actually covered by insurance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 13 分
  • Depleted Mother Syndrome: Why Moms Burn Out, and How to Recover with Jan Hanson

    Depleted Mother Syndrome: Why Moms Burn Out, and How to Recover with Jan Hanson
    2026/08/31
    Forrest is joined by his parents, psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and nutritionist Jan Hanson, to discuss "Depleted Mother Syndrome:” the exhaustion, brain fog, and low mood so many mothers experience. They talk about how Jan hit bottom in the years after Forrest and his sister were born, why the hardest stretch often comes two or more years after birth, the problem with dismissing these experiences as "just motherhood,” and how people can recover. Key Topics: 00:00: Intro & welcome Jan! 2:39: What inspired the book 10:02: Dr. Rick’s perspective 13:30: Depleted Mother Syndrome 18:33: The accumulated impacts of motherhood 25:44: Taking care of your health as a mom 36:40: Rick & Jan’s personal experience 50:08: Small actions that maintain and repair a relationship 1:04:19: What Jan would tell her younger self Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you’re ready to simplify the business side of your practice, now is a great time to try SimplePractice. Start with a 7-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months. Just go to SimplePractice.com to claim the offer. Go to Zocdoc.com/BEINGWELL to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Get better sleep, backed by your own data. Go to OrionSleep.com/BEINGWELL for 15% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 17 分
  • How to Feel Your Feelings with Simone Saunders

    How to Feel Your Feelings with Simone Saunders
    2026/08/24
    We’ve all been told to “feel our feelings,” but what does that actually mean, and how do you do it? Forrest talks with trauma therapist Simone Saunders about how to go from knowing your patterns to being able to do something about them when things get intense. They discuss what your nervous system does when it decides you're not safe, why the tools you've collected go offline in exactly the moments you need them, and how a sense of agency changes that equation. Simone walks through her three-step process for noticing a sensation, working out what it's asking for, and doing something different with it. They also talk about the functional freeze, what to do when you “don’t feel anything,” and how to relate to shame and grief. Key Topics: 00:00: Intro: overthinking, cognitive bypassing, and intellectualizing 4:42: What it means to “be in the body” 9:46: Bottom-up approaches and trauma 18:33: How to recognize disconnection and functional freeze 28:38: Moving out of a dictatorship and into a partnership with your body 34:51: How to actually feel your feelings 46:29: The difference between emotions and feelings 52:14: Meeting your needs 57:40: The limit of self-understanding, frameworks, and tools 1:00:07: Moving into experiments, titration, and when you feel too much or not enough 1:17:28: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to https://Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Visit https://Upwork.com to connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at https://RocketMoney.com/BEINGWELL. MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there’s never been a better time to get in. Get at least 15% off any annual membership at https://MasterClass.com/BEINGWELL Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 25 分
  • The Psychology of Manipulation: How to Become Manipulation Resistant

    The Psychology of Manipulation: How to Become Manipulation Resistant
    2026/08/17
    Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how to become more resistant to manipulation, discussing terms like gaslighting, DARVO, and love bombing. They talk about why cynicism doesn’t make you immune to manipulation, and how excessive skepticism and trust can go together. They share the “handles” manipulators exploit, break down common forms of reality distortion, emotional manipulation, and situational engineering, and discuss what actually helps. Key Topics: 0:00: What is manipulation? 6:25: Are cynical people less manipulatable? 14:52: How can we become manipulation resistant? 25:51: How manipulation works 26:30: Tactic 1: Reality distortion 33:49: Tactic 2: Emotional manipulation 38:02: Tactic 3: Situational engineering 40:00: Key qualities to develop 45:17: Establishing protective systems and managing "the fuzz" 1:02:36: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 10 分
  • What’s The Problem With Therapy Speak? August Mailbag

    What’s The Problem With Therapy Speak? August Mailbag
    2026/08/10
    Terms like boundaries, gaslighting, triggers, trauma, and attachment are everywhere now. Dr. Rick and Forrest answer a listener question about the consequences - good and bad - of clinical language escaping the therapy room. They then answer three more questions: an introverted listener wonders about the pressure to be social, a couple wants to know how to loosen their strict scorekeeping around household tasks, and a 27-year-old wonders whether becoming a therapist means wasting the degree they already have. Key Topics: 00:00: Introduction 1:24: Question 1: The rise, and problems, of therapy speak. 8:15: Boundaries as a tool for control 11:04: Epistemic injustice: who gets believed 14:48: The ups and downs of labels. 19:20: Question 2: Do I really need to expand my social circle if I'm happy being mostly alone? 28:23: Question 3: How do we balance household responsibilities without scorekeeping? 41:15: Question 4: I want to become a therapist, but I’m scared to change careers. What should I do? 51:30: Recap Sponsor Visit Upwork.com to connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. For a limited time, try OneSkin with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co/BEINGWELL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 1 分
  • Burnout: A Practical Guide for Normal People

    Burnout: A Practical Guide for Normal People
    2026/08/03
    Dr. Rick and Forrest explore burnout: what it is, why it’s so common, and what people can do about it. They begin by framing burnout as largely a structural problem that individuals are forced to manage. They unpack the six major drivers of burnout, why some people are especially vulnerable, and how chronic stress affects the mind and body. They then turn to practical ways to recover more effectively, including psychologically detaching from work, finding more effective forms of relaxation, protecting your own self-concept, and reducing underlying vulnerabilities. Finally, they talk about how we can preserve meaning and agency when we truly can’t change our circumstances. Key Topics: 00:00: Intro and burnout as a structural issue 7:20: Six major factors of stress and what to do about them 21:57: Mindfulness, relaxation, and recovery 34:11: Protecting your own self-concept and job crafting 41:46: Reduce vulnerabilities and taking care of yourself 1:04:45: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors If you’re ready to simplify the business side of your practice, now is a great time to try SimplePractice. Start with a 7-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months. Just go to SimplePractice.com to claim the offer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 15 分
  • The Grieving Body: How to Heal After Loss with Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor

    The Grieving Body: How to Heal After Loss with Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor
    2026/07/27
    We all understand the emotional impact of grief, but its effects on the body are often overlooked. Forrest is joined by clinical psychologist and researcher Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor to explore the physiology of grief. Dr. O’Connor explains how our brains and bodies organize themselves around the people we love, creating “maps” of their presence and relying on them for physical and emotional regulation. They discuss the health risks associated with bereavement, how to care for the healing body, ambiguous loss, the difference between grief and prolonged grief, and how we can gradually build a meaningful life around loss. About our Guest: Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor is a Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Arizona and Director of the Grief, Loss, and Social Stress Laboratory. She is the author of two books on grief: The Grieving Brain and The Grieving Body. Key Topics: 00:00: Intro 4:42: The map that no longer exists 12:00: Co-regulation: the attachment figure as an external pacemaker 16:35: Physiological effects of grief 24:53: Taking care of yourself after a loss 36:46: Protest, despair, and meditative practices 45:45: Prolonged grief and getting stuck in restoration 57:31: Progressive Muscle Relaxation vs mindfulness 1:03:00: Re-engaging with the world 1:15:42: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at https://RocketMoney.com/BEINGWELL. Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Visit Upwork.com to connect with top talent ready to help your business grow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 28 分
  • Healing from Parentification: When the “Gifted Child” Grows Up

    Healing from Parentification: When the “Gifted Child” Grows Up
    2026/07/20
    Some kids learn early on that the way to be loved is to be useful. They take on the emotional or practical care of their parents in a process known as parentification, and today Dr. Rick and Forrest explore the costs of being a “gifted child.” They discuss the “bargain” these kids make: suppressing their authentic self in order to fulfill a role and earn love. Over time, this bargain can harden into a false self that makes it difficult for the person to connect with their true wants and needs. They then walk through four tracks that allow us to reclaim authenticity: becoming visible to yourself, building a coherent narrative, reconnecting with what you gave up, and renegotiating relationships. Topics include the paired extremes of grandiosity and depression, why so many capable adults go blank when asked what they actually want, and why understanding a pattern isn't the same as changing it. This episode is heavily influenced by psychologist Alice Miller’s classic book The Drama of the Gifted Child. Key Topics: 0:00: Intro: what is parentification? 9:18: Examining your own childhood 13:18: Grandiosity and Depression 18:37: Peer-entification, self-narratives, and adult relationships 23:29: Emotional insight and grief 27:09: Tracks to healing 35:10: Track 1: Becoming more visible to yourself 39:26: Track 2: Building a coherent narrative 45:21: Track 3: Reparenting 50:49: Track 4: Building a new bargain 1:05:26: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Take our audience survey: https://rickhanson.com/survey/ Sponsors Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 時間 15 分