The emotional rollercoaster of divorce can leave us feeling like we're constantly in survival mode, reacting to every text, comment, or situation with immediate emotion rather than thoughtful response. This heightened state keeps us stuck in cycles that prevent healing and forward movement.

I’m talking about this common struggle by exploring the difference between being consumed by emotions and being healthily connected to them. When we're constantly reacting from a place of anger, fear, or hurt, our emotions are actually running the show while we watch helplessly from the passenger seat.

When our nervous system stays heightened, our prefrontal cortex (the brain's decision-making part) becomes less flexible. This creates the effect of choices that may not be aligned with what’s best and right for you, increased stress, and more negative emotions.

The solution is in creating space between stimulus and response. By validating our feelings without immediately acting on them, we gain the power to choose how we respond. I’ll offer practical guidance on shifting from emotional survival to emotional resilience through simple but powerful practice in this episode.

This practice transforms not only our divorce experience but ripples through every relationship in our lives. As we model emotional regulation, we become powerful architects of our future rather than reactive victims of our circumstances.

Ready to stop letting your emotions drive your decisions? This episode provides the roadmap to build emotional resilience that will serve you long after your divorce is finalized.

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Standing in your kitchen at 8 PM, staring at unwashed dishes and feeling completely overwhelmed by the simplest decisions? You're experiencing what many women face after divorce which is decision paralysis. Even when you absolutely knew ending your marriage was right, the decision fatigue that comes after can leave you questioning your ability to choose anything from breakfast options to career moves.

One of my clients said, "I feel like I used all of my decision-making energy just getting out of my marriage," and this summed up what I hear from so many divorcing women as a common struggle. After spending months or years gathering courage for that monumental life decision, even small choices now carry what feels like impossible weight.

The challenge isn't just about making decisions. It's about making them as this new version of yourself you're still getting to know. For years, your decision-making muscles were trained to filter choices through questions like "What will keep the peace?" or "What might avoid conflict?" You learned to put everyone else's needs before your own. Now, you're suddenly expected to decide based on what YOU want except that muscle of knowing yourself, your wants, needs and desires has become weak because of years of ignoring it.

This episode walks you through four transformative steps to break free from post-divorce paralysis: grounding yourself, learning to process emotions, examining limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, and taking small aligned actions to rebuild self-trust. You'll discover that the courage and wisdom that got you through divorce haven't disappeared; you just need to reconnect with those qualities.

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I guess this is just how my life is now," or "There's nothing I can do to make this better"? That's the trap of black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking. This is a mental habit that convinces us we have no control over our life, especially during divorce.

In this episode, I dive deep into how black-and-white thinking keeps us feeling powerless and stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When we believe there are only two options, usually the extreme end of the spectrum, our brains literally stop searching for solutions. We become convinced that our situation is fixed, immovable, and beyond choice of any kind. But that's a lie we tell ourselves, and I'm here to help you see through it.

The truth is that very few things in life are purely good or purely bad, all or nothing. By learning to recognize this habitual way of thinking we can begin to challenge these limiting beliefs. The real magic happens when we step out of these extremes and into what I call "the gray"; not a place of indecision or uncertainty, but a place of possibility, nuance, and choice.

Drawing from my own experience of breaking free from all-or-nothing thinking about marriage and divorce, I share practical strategies to help you recognize these patterns, challenge your thought processes, and gradually reclaim your sense of agency. Even a small 2% shift toward more flexible thinking creates movement that can transform your entire perspective on life after divorce.

Ready to break free from black-and-white thinking and start living in the gray to discover the choices that have been there all along? Listen now to learn how to live in the gray, make decisions from a place of empowerment rather than fear, and create a more expansive story for your life moving forward after divorce.

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Are you constantly making excuses for your partner's behavior? Walking on eggshells in your own home? Pretending to be asleep when they come to bed? Your intuition might be trying to tell you something important about your marriage.

Society conditions us to believe marriage should last forever, that we must honor our vows "for better or worse." But what happens when that conditioning keeps us trapped in relationships that harm our wellbeing or prevent us from creating genuine happiness? This powerful episode tackles the signs that might indicate it's time to consider divorce, and more importantly, gives you permission to honestly ask yourself what you truly want.

I'm not here to tell you whether you should get divorce. That decision belongs to you alone. However, I am here to help you recognize when your body, mind, and intuition are signaling that something needs to change. From researching divorce laws in your state to constantly walking on eggshells around your partner, these signals deserve your attention rather than dismissal.

Many women stay in unhappy marriages because the uncertainty of divorce feels overwhelming. Will I be able to support myself financially? Where will I live? How will this affect my children? These are valid concerns, but they're obstacles that can be overcome with proper planning and support. As women, we are remarkably resilient and resourceful. We are really great at problem solving. We figure things out all the time, often while juggling multiple responsibilities already.

You deserve to wake up feeling hopeful about your day and your future. You deserve relationships that add to your life rather than drain your energy. Most importantly, you deserve to give yourself permission to create the life you truly want, even if that means ending your current marriage. The healing begins once you face the truth of what you want and take those first steps toward a different future.

Whether you're considering divorce yourself or know someone who might need this message, remember: choosing yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for your wellbeing and ultimately benefits everyone around you.

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Feeling like the ground beneath you has shifted after divorce? You're not alone. That sense of instability, of losing your foundation, is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce recovery. But what if reconnecting with your body could help you find your footing again?

This episode of Becoming You Again explores what it truly means to feel grounded after divorce and introduces a powerful practice called "grounded sway" that can help you rebuild trust in yourself. Many women tell me they feel constantly off-balance during divorce, unsure how to recreate that sense of safety. The truth is, you have the capacity to create safety for yourself through reconnecting with your body's wisdom.

The guided practice I share walks you through a gentle swaying movement that helps you experience different sensations while actively narrating safety for yourself. As you sway and feel the solid ground beneath your feet, you learn to stay flexible rather than rigid when facing uncertainty - like willow bending in the wind rather than breaking. There's no right or wrong way to do this exercise, only your way, as you discover what feels right for your unique body.

So much of healing after divorce involves learning to trust ourselves again; our bodies, our intuition, and our ability to create the lives we want. This practice offers one gentle pathway toward rebuilding that trust, reminding us that everything we need to feel safe and balanced already exists within us. Sometimes we just need a reminder of how to access it.

Ready to go deeper with your healing? Working one-on-one with me as your coach might be exactly what you need to implement these practices in your daily life. Visit karinnelsoncoaching.com to learn more about how we can work together to help you become you again.

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Self-love shouldn't come with conditions, yet so many of us hold ourselves hostage to impossible standards. I’m tackling this concept of "transactional self-love" in this throwback episode. Transactional self-love are the unconscious bargains we make with ourselves, promising kindness and acceptance only after certain benchmarks are met.

We've all said it: "I'll love myself when I lose weight," "I'll be kind to myself once my divorce is finalized," or "I'll accept myself when I find someone new." These conditional statements reveal how deeply we've internalized the message that we must earn our own affection. I explore this phenomenon through multiple lenses; our biological negativity bias, childhood experiences of conditional love, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their value depends on external factors.

The relationship you have with yourself forms the foundation for every other relationship in your life. When you withhold compassion from yourself, you're likely applying the same transactional approach to others. Breaking free from this pattern starts with awareness – identifying your personal conditions for self-acceptance and consciously choosing more compassionate alternatives.

Through practical steps and thoughtful guidance, I demonstrate how to build an unshakable foundation of self-love that doesn't fluctuate based on achievements or circumstances. This isn't about achieving perfect self-love but creating a baseline of acceptance that supports you through life's inevitable challenges. You'll learn how to recognize your conditional thinking and practice new neural pathways of self-compassion through consistent, intentional thought work.

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The first night alone in your own home can be extremely challenging after divorce. For some of us, it's a completely new experience – I was 39 years old before I ever spent a night completely alone in a house. But what starts as overwhelming can transform into something unexpectedly liberating.

This episode explores five essential strategies for navigating the transition to solo living after your marriage ends. We begin with the foundation of creating genuine safety – not just physical security, but emotional and mental safety too. You'll learn how to develop a personal "safety plan" for those moments when loneliness or anxiety feels overwhelming, with practical ways to calm your nervous system and reassure yourself.

Loneliness represents one of the biggest hurdles during this transition. Whether you're experiencing actual solitude for the first time or feeling emotionally isolated despite having been lonely within your marriage for years, these feelings can be intense. I share specific techniques my clients have used to meet their needs in these moments – from immersive books that provide company to creating community connections when you feel most alone.

The surprising revelation for many is discovering unexpected joys in living alone. Sleeping in the middle of the bed. Eating whatever you want (or skipping dinner entirely). Cranking your favorite music while cleaning. The small freedoms of solo living can become genuine pleasures once you open yourself to the possibility that being alone might actually be fun.

Beyond survival, this episode guides you toward thriving independently through practices like establishing nurturing routines and finding daily moments of awe that research shows reduce stress and increase wellbeing. These micro-practices take just seconds but create meaningful shifts in how you experience your new living situation. Enjoy this throwback episode and start living a life alone on your terms.

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Divorce guilt can be overwhelming, especially when it's tangled with religious upbringing, family expectations, and concerns about your children. In this deeply personal episode, I open my heart about the guilt I carried after ending my 20-year marriage, particularly how my Mormon background shaped my beliefs that divorce wasn't a viable option and that I was jeopardizing eternal salvation by making this choice.

My journey through guilt included what I call the "parental report card" – this imaginary scorecard where I believed my parents were tallying my life choices and finding me increasingly disappointing. I began seeing myself as "the black sheep" of the family, assuming my parents viewed my authentic choices with sadness and disgust. Despite feeling more connected to myself than ever before, this guilt continued to weigh heavily on me.

The turning point came when I discovered a passage that helped me create a powerful reframe helping me create a much needed perspective shift helping me heal from the guilt stories I'd been carrying and embrace a new narrative about my choices and their meaning.

Whether your divorce guilt stems from religious teachings, family expectations, or concern for your children, or something else, healing is possible. You can learn to unwind from these stories, forgive yourself for the inevitable pain that comes with major life transitions, and recognize that choosing authenticity isn't selfish – it's revolutionary. You are worthy of setting down the divorce guilt in all its forms and embracing your role as a seeker of liberation for yourself and future generations.

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