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It’s 7:00 on a Sunday night. The weekend was good, maybe exactly what you needed, and the dread shows up anyway. You’re still getting everything done at work. You’re still the one people count on. Something just feels off, and a couple of days away isn’t touching it.

Join Anna and Tim as they dig into burnout at work, what it actually looks like, and why rest keeps falling short when nothing about the job changes. Anna brings the therapist’s eye for when burnout might be something more, and Tim brings the view from the other side of the desk as someone who manages a team. They get honest about the bosses who hear it, care for a minute, and move on to the next fire, and about why being the one who always handles it might be part of what’s burning you out.

This Episode Covers:

• The difference between being tired and being exhausted.
• Why you can love your job and still need the conditions of it to change.
• Capability versus capacity, and what happens when nobody’s listening.
• When burnout and depression start to overlap.
• The six areas where a mismatch with your job can quietly wear you down.
• What if being the reliable one is part of the problem.
• The hole in the bucket that time off can’t plug.
• What to say when your boss tells you everything is a priority.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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You leave lunch with a few friends, and it hits you on the drive home. Not one person asked how you’re doing. You listened to everybody, you laughed in the right places, and you walk away thinking they don’t really know you. Nobody took the time to ask.

Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about friendships that start to feel one-sided, the ones where you’re always the one hosting and the one who texts first. Anna admits something she didn’t like about herself. Somewhere in her late 30s and 40s, she started keeping score. Tim pushes back on what actually makes a friendship mutual, and the two of them don’t land in the same place. They get into the difference between a friend in a hard season and a friend who’s just like this, the secret test so many of us run on our friends without saying a word, and why a friendship breakup between women can cut deeper than anyone expects.

This Episode Covers:

• Always being the one who hosts and makes the plans.
• Keeping score, and what Anna noticed in herself when she started.
• What makes a friendship feel mutual, and where Anna and Tim see it differently.
• Is this a hard season or an ongoing pattern?
• The friend who turns your story into a story about them.
• The secret test we run on friends who have no idea they’re in it.
• Why guys handle friendship friction so differently.
• Fading versus ghosting, and when a close friend deserves an explanation.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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You get in the car after lunch with a friend and realize they never asked you a single question. Not one. You know about their job, their kids, their mother-in-law, all of it. By the time you walk in your front door, you’re not that interested in doing lunch again anytime soon. And you never said anything.

Join Anna and Tim as they pick back up on the relationship questions Anna has been asked for decades, this time digging into resentment and what to do with it before it starts coming out in your tone and your texts. Anna gets honest about a friendship that turned into a monologue for more than a year, and Tim gets called out, in front of everybody, for holding things in because he’s worried about how the other person will feel. From the lunchroom to the leadership seat, it’s a real look at the hard conversations most of us keep putting off.

This Episode Covers:

• Why “it’s not that big of a deal” keeps you quiet until it is one.
• The mind reading that kicks in when you decide they should already know.
• What happens when you finally speak up after a year, and they get mad back.
• Saying “don’t worry about it” when you mean the exact opposite.
• How worrying about the other person’s feelings can hold you back.
• The difference between never speaking up and speaking up and getting dismissed.
• What Anna writes down before walking into a hard conversation.
• How leaders teach people whether it’s safe to bring them bad news.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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The yes that should have been a no. The little dig at dinner that nobody called out, and the whole drive home spent yelling at them in your head. The text you're dying to send, or the fight that never actually got finished. These are the relationship questions Anna hears over and over, from clients in her office and from the people closest to her.

Join Anna and Tim for part one of their toughest relationship questions answered, where they get into both sides of it: what happens when you can't say what you mean, and what happens when you say way too much. They get honest about which one of them does which in their own marriage. Tim opens up about the yes that left him never wanting to teach spin again. Anna talks about what taking the high road actually looks like when you're ready to go off on someone. They wrap it up with a role-play that lands a little close to home.

This Episode Covers:

• Why did I say yes to that, and the people-pleasing behind the automatic yes.
• Bringing up a comment that hurt without it turning into a fight.
• Did you set a boundary, or were you hoping they'd notice one you never said out loud.
• What a Nordstrom Rack credit card has to do with saying no.
• Saying too much vs. not saying enough, and who in their marriage does which.
• What's happening in your brain when you want to go off on someone or shut down.
• The text you write and the text you send.
• Holding your ground when someone says you're making a big deal out of nothing.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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A lot of dads look at the mom and daughter bond and quietly decide they're not really needed. They show up a little less, let the weekends slide, and call it giving her space. Michael Steven went the other direction and kept showing up, even on the days when mom and daughter ganged up on him.

Join Anna as she sits down with Michael, a coach for single girl dads who has had 50/50 custody of his daughter for 15 years. They get into the energy shift that happens when a kid moves between two homes, the advice from Michael's own dad that sounded simple and turned out to be really hard, and why so many good dads end up getting run over. He's honest about the moments he didn't handle well in his late 20s, what changed when he stopped reacting, and the compliment from his now 16-year-old daughter that stopped him in his tracks.

This Episode Covers:

• The energy shift when a daughter comes home from her mom's house.
• Why "give her 20 minutes" is so much harder than it sounds.
• Finding an outlet that actually regulates your energy.
• Taking accountability for who you created a child with.
• Why most of the dads Michael works with are too nice.
• Getting pulled in to play part-time referee between mom and daughter.
• What a real repair sounds like after you've said the wrong thing about her mom.
• What a daughter learns from watching how her dad handles people.

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Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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The dishwasher is right next to the sink. Right there. And the dish still ends up in the sink, and before long Anna is barking orders about the dishes and the stuff piled on the stairs, Tim swears he has never once left a dish in there (there was that one time), and everyone in the house has somehow ended up crew on her pirate ship.

Join Anna and Tim as they get honest about what raising five kids in a blended family taught them about control, and how little of it they actually had. The kid with a real arm who couldn't have cared less. The one who walked away from football and wrestling in the same year. Career and faith decisions that had their heads exploding. Years of Anna being a character in a story told in a room she would never be in. And the question she still asks herself, and her clients, when she feels her grip tightening. She still wants the dishes in the dishwasher, though.

This Episode Covers:

• What's really going on when a dish in the sink turns into a whole thing.
• Expectations you're holding that nobody else in the house knows about.
• Why you can be right about your kid's potential and still have no say in it.
• "Why did you let me quit?" and the things adult kids remember differently.
• How kids can tell a real boundary from anxiety wearing a boundary costume.
• Being the stepmom in a story you'll never get to correct.
• Staying close enough to influence someone you didn't get to design.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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You know better. You knew you shouldn't have raised your voice, shouldn't have gotten defensive, shouldn't have interrupted, and you did it anyway. Then it's over, and there's no resolve, just the wreckage of a conversation that went sideways fast.

Join Anna and Tim as they get into why knowing your communication skills and actually having access to them in the moment are two completely different things. They talk about what's really happening in your body before a hard conversation goes off the rails, the signals most people ignore until it's too late, and why telling someone to calm down might be the worst thing you can do. Tim pushes back with his own real-time examples from their marriage, and Anna walks through what it takes to catch yourself before the fight turns into a fight to win.

This Episode Covers:

• Why knowing your communication skills and having access to them when you're activated are two completely different things.
• The physical signals that show up right before you say something you can't take back.
• The four words Anna repeats to herself before every hard conversation.
• Why "calm down" and "relax" are the two words you should never say to someone who's upset.
• What a real break looks like versus a door slam and a "screw you, I'm done".
• How your nervous system can react to the past while you're arguing about something totally different.
• The question Anna asks herself that changes the whole direction of a hard conversation.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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Confidence is a feeling. Competence is evidence. And when the evidence changes, the feelings don't always catch up.

Join Anna and Tim as they dig into what Anna's calling the imposter phenomenon, not syndrome, and why it doesn't fade with success; it gets louder. They talk about the corrupt accounting system that discounts every win and magnifies every mistake, what happens when your identity lags behind a new role, and why some high achievers have been running on anxiety without realizing it's the only thing keeping them going. Tim pushes back with a football analogy Anna isn't fully buying, and they land on the five questions worth asking yourself the next time the doubt creeps back in.

This Episode Covers:

• Learning to separate what actually happened from the story you add to it within seconds.
• Using internal family systems to notice which part of you is driving the reaction, not the whole self.
• Realizing the real question under most fights is: are you there for me? Can I reach you?
• Naming the cycle as the actual problem instead of each other: the pattern where one pursues, and the other withdraws.
• Choosing to be effective over being right, even when you have the receipts to prove you're correct.
• Noticing the small daily bids for connection instead of waiting for the big romantic gestures.
• Making the repair instead of chasing perfect communication.
• Recognizing that a partner cannot be responsible for managing your entire inner world.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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