🎙 Episode 5 – 5 Common ADHD Traits You’re Not Imagining & The Red Pill

In this episode of ADHD Come Lately, we dive into five ADHD traits that don’t appear in the official diagnostic criteria — but if you live with ADHD, you probably know them all too well:

1. Time blindness – The challenge: underestimating how long things take or losing track of time.

The flipside: the ability to hyperfocus in the moment and be completely present when something matters.

2. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) – The challenge: intense emotional pain at perceived rejection or criticism.

The flipside: deep empathy, attunement to others, and strong bonds in relationships.

3. Task initiation paralysis – The challenge: procrastination or difficulty starting tasks, even important ones.

The flipside: bursts of incredible productivity under pressure, and creative problem-solving when it counts.

4. Low frustration tolerance – The challenge: irritability and overwhelm in stressful situations.

The flipside: passionate energy, quick action when things aren’t right, and fierce advocacy for what matters.

5. Shame spirals – The challenge: replaying mistakes and feeling “never good enough.”

The flipside: self-awareness, accountability, and a drive to grow and do better.

💡 If you’ve ever wondered “Is this just me?” — this episode is here to tell you: it’s not. And there’s more to the story than the struggle.

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Acknowledgement of Country

I acknowledge the Wallamattagul peoples of the Dharug Nation, the Traditional Custodians of the land on which this podcast is created. I pay my respects to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.

Recognition of Lived and Living Experience

I also acknowledge and honour the expertise, insight, and resilience of people with lived and living experience of ADHD, mental health challenges, and neurodivergence. Your voices are vital in shaping understanding, support, and change.

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Support Services

If you are in NSW or anywhere in Australia and need ADHD or mental health support, you are not alone:

ADHD Australia – https://www.adhdaustralia.org.au

Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | https://www.beyondblue.org.au

Lifeline – 13 11 14 | https://www.lifeline.org.au

Head to Health (Australian Government) – https://www.headtohealth.gov.au

If you’re in crisis, please reach out to Lifeline on 13 11 14 or seek immediate professional help.

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🎙️ Episode 4 has roundhouse kicks, real talk, and a bit of audio recorded on the road (a first for the show).

Join me as I finally share what went down at my long-awaited ADHD assessment. Did the psychiatrist laugh in my face? Did I get a goody bag full of meds? Am I podcasting from a padded cell? Spoiler: No. But it’s a ride.

You'll also hear about:

• How Jean-Claude Van Damme may havea influenced me a little too much

• Misdiagnosis and why so many ADHDers get mistaken for something else

• The raw before and after the assessment moments, recorded straight from my car

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📌 Important Notes

🔊 Audio Disclaimer: This episode includes in-car recordings before and after my ADHD assessment. Noise reduction tools were applied — apologies if things sound a bit odd!

🧠 Not Medical Advice: The information shared is based on my personal experience. Please consult a medical professional for advice tailored to you.

📄 DIVA 2.0 (Diagnostic Interview for ADHD in Adults)

Curious about structured ADHD assessments? Check out the DIVA 2.0 - https://www.advancedassessments.co.uk/resources/ADHD-Screening-Test-Adult.pdf

⚠️ Reminder: This is a clinical tool for use by qualified professionals — not a self-diagnostic test.

Acknowledgement of Country

I’d like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the land I live and record on — the Wallamattagul peoples of the Dharug Nation — and pay my respects to Elders past and present.

Recognition of Lived & Living Experience

To all the neurodivergent folks out there: your experiences matter. They’ve guided and inspired me, and I stand on the shoulders of neurodivergent giants. Thank you.

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🧭 Support Services

🇦🇺 Australia & NSW ADHD Support

ADHD Foundation Australia

https://www.adhdfoundation.org.au/

ADHD Australia

https://www.adhdaustralia.org.au/

NSW Mental Health Access Line (24/7) – 1800 011 511

https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/Pages/contact.aspx

SANE Australia – Mental health and neurodiversity support

https://www.sane.org/

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🇬🇧 UK ADHD Support

ADHD UK

https://www.adhduk.co.uk/

ADDISS – The National Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service

https://www.addiss.co.uk/

Mind UK – ADHD and Mental Health

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/adhd/

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💬 Get Involved

💌 Have a story, meme, or Van Damme moment to share? Email me at adhdcomelately@gmail.com

📲 Follow me on Instagram @adhdcomelately and join the conversation.

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And remember, you’re not deficient — you’re different.

🎙️ Episode 3 – The Poshest Crime Ever

What do fitted sheets, punk rock, and a drunken “crime” have in common? ADHD, of course.

In this episode, I share the story of a bizarre, impulsive adventure — something that started off as funny but revealed a deeper pattern of recklessness, rejection sensitivity, and shame. It’s a raw and honest look at life with undiagnosed ADHD in adulthood.

🧠 You’ll also hear:

Why fitted sheets are the true nemesis of executive dysfunction (plus a surprisingly helpful tip!)

How punk rock literally saved my life

Thoughts on masculinity, surface-level conversations, and why "I'm fine" never means what it says

⚠️ Trigger Warning:

This episode includes candid discussion of suicidal thoughts and mental health struggles. If you're not in the right headspace, please skip or come back to it later.

🇦🇺 Australian Support Services

If you’re in crisis or need support, you're not alone. Please reach out:

Lifeline – 13 11 14 (24/7 crisis support)

Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636

Suicide Call Back Service – 1300 659 467

MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78

🧠 ADHD Support in Australia:

ADHD Australia – www.adhdaustralia.org.au

ADHD Foundation – www.adhdfoundation.org.au

📚 Books Mentioned in This Episode:

Matt Brown – She Is Not Your Rehab: One Man’s Journey to Healing and the Global Anti-Violence Movement He Inspired

→ A powerful memoir and movement challenging cycles of abuse and toxic masculinity, especially within men’s healing spaces.

Dr. Edward (Ned) Hallowell & Dr. John J. Ratey – Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood

→ A foundational and compassionate guide to understanding ADHD, especially in adults.

Also by Dr. Hallowell and Dr. Ratey:

Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder

ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction—from Childhood through Adulthood

🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts — and if this resonates with you, please consider sharing it with someone else who might feel a little less alone hearing it.

🎧 ADHD Come Lately – Episode 2: Screen Time – Could You Have ADHD?

🚨 Now Live! (~25 mins)

Happy NAIDOC Week for any one in Australia.

In this episode, I dive into the perplexing world of ADHD screeners (and online quizzes).

We’ll take a look at the ASRS screener (with a slightly questionable Freudian accent – I tried), so you can follow along and reflect on your own answers.

https://adhduk.co.uk/adult-adhd-screening-survey/

💡 I also talk about how AI tools (like the one I used) can help consolidate your symptoms into something more readable—super handy if you’re prepping for a GP visit or ADHD assessment.

😉 Plus, there’s an impulsive story involving 90s boybands, a disposable razor, and one very uneven eyebrow.

🎙️ Whether you're newly diagnosed, maybe diagnosed, still questioning, or just here for the laughs—hit play and come along.

Please share and follow, to spur me on. Contrary to what I've discussed this episode, I'm not sponsored by ChatGPT or TK Maxx.

🎙️ Episode 1 – Bloody Hell… I Think I’m ADHD!

In this first episode, I share what it’s been like to realise—possibly way too late—that I might have ADHD.

It’s not a polished or expert story. It’s just me, trying to make sense of what’s been a weird, emotional, and sometimes unexpectedly funny in-between stage: after the “could this be ADHD?” moment, but before any kind of formal diagnosis.

Some people say you shouldn’t talk about ADHD until it’s confirmed. I get that. But this podcast isn’t about answers—it’s about the messy middle. The confusion, the overthinking, the “wait... has it always been like this?” kind of stuff. That’s where I’m at. And if you’re somewhere similar, maybe this makes you feel a little less alone.

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🪶 Acknowledgement of Country

This episode was recorded on the lands of the Wallamattegal Clan of the Dharug Nation. I pay respect to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples listening. I acknowledge the strength and resilience of the oldest surviving culture on Earth, whose knowledge systems offer powerful ways of understanding the world—including the many ways minds can work.

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💡 Recognition of Lived Experience

If you’ve ever been called lazy, difficult, too sensitive, too much—or just felt like you didn’t quite fit—your story matters. This podcast is about finding language for experiences that never quite made sense until now, and maybe laughing a little along the way.

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🧠 The Straw That Broke the Camel’s Brain

A stressful moment at an international airport became the final nudge—the moment I couldn’t explain away anymore. Executive dysfunction showed up loud and clear, and for once, I noticed.

“In that moment, my brain picked the wrong emergency. It always has.”

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👟 The Suede Saga

One small scuff on a shoe. Two months of YouTube tutorials, indecision, and accidental destruction. I didn’t mean to turn it into a saga—but welcome to my brain.

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“Have you ever felt like you don’t belong...?”

I talk about shame, pressure, and trying to hold it all together on the outside—even when things inside feel like a constant scramble.

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💌 Want to Share Something?

Got a story, question, or just want to connect?

📬 Email: adhdcomelately@gmail.com

No pressure. This is a slow, bite-sized podcast that comes out when I’ve got something to say.

Feel free to subscribe or share it with someone who might relate.

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🔜 Coming Up in Episode 2: Screen Time

I’ll be looking at the ADHD screening tool (the ASRS-v1.1), and reflecting on how it landed for me. Helpful? Misleading? A little of both?

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🧠 ADHD & Mental Health Support (Australia)

ADHD Support Australia

Resources, community, and webinars

🌐 adhdsupportaustralia.com.au | 📧 info@adhdsupportaustralia.com.au

ADHD Foundation Australia

Support, advocacy, and helpline

🌐 adhdfoundation.org.au | 📞 1300 39 39 19

ADHD Australia

National directory and support info

🌐 adhdaustralia.org.au

Beyond Blue – Mental health support

🌐 beyondblue.org.au | 📞 1300 22 4636

Lifeline – 24/7 crisis support

🌐 lifeline.org.au | 📞 13 11 14 | 💬 Text: 0477 13 11 14

SANE Australia – Support for complex mental health

🌐 sane.org | 📞 1800 187 263

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Thanks for listening. No expert advice here—just a bit of lived experience, shared in case it helps someone else feel a bit more seen.

Rn