From Netflix’s Love Is Blind Season 1 to a journey of self-discovery, Kelly Chase joins me for an honest conversation about love, relationships, and the unconscious patterns that keep us repeating the same experiences.

We talk about what really happened behind the scenes of Love Is Blind, the difference between loving someone and loving their potential, and why we sometimes find ourselves chasing the very people who aren't choosing us.

Kelly opens up about self-abandonment, learning to recognize the stories we've been carrying for years, and what it actually takes to break old patterns and start making different choices.

In this episode, we explore:

• The reality of finding love on Love Is Blind
• Why we fall in love with potential instead of reality
• The unconscious beliefs driving our relationship patterns
• How the need to be chosen can lead to self-abandonment
• Why awareness alone doesn't always create change
• Breaking cycles in love, business, and life
• Learning to trust yourself and choose differently

Because sometimes the biggest transformation isn't finding someone who chooses you. It's realizing you can choose yourself.

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Why do we want to be chosen so badly? And why is it that the second someone doesn’t choose us… sometimes we want them even more?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the need to be wanted, picked, loved, and validated—and how that need can quietly start changing the way we show up, what we accept, and even what we think we want.

In this episode, we cover:

• The three sneaky “self-sabotage ninjas” that show up when we want to be chosen: The Performer, The Negotiator & The Chaser
• The difference between actually wanting someone and wanting them to want you
• “The Gray”—the uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming
• How to use rejection, disappointment, and that chip on your shoulder as fuel for growth
• Why self-worth is a muscle—and the small reps that teach you how to choose yourself

The goal isn’t to never want to be chosen. We all want to be loved, wanted, and appreciated.

It’s getting to a place where being chosen becomes a want—not a need.

Because when you stop waiting for someone else to confirm your worth, you get to make your decisions from a completely different place.

Choose yourself. And watch what happens. ❤️

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In this episode, we’re talking about the power of perspective, what healthy optimism actually looks like, and why two people can experience nearly identical circumstances and create completely different lives from them. We’ll also unpack the trap of believing your current reality is your only reality—and how getting to the root of your patterns can help you change the story from there.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why your perspective can determine what happens after something happens to you
• The difference between happiness and healthy optimism—and why optimism doesn’t mean ignoring difficult emotions
• How rejection, setbacks, endings, and detours can become information instead of evidence that you’re failing
• Why you have more agency in the direction of your life than you may realize
• The Recipe: past episodes to help you uncover the roots of pessimism, self-criticism, old beliefs, survival patterns, and the stories keeping you stuck:
  • Ep. 9: It's Not Rejection. It's Redirection & Protection
  • Ep. 12: Importance of Your Personal Board of Directors (and How to Choose the Right People)
  • Ep. 21: What's Your Inner Child and How to Spot When it's in the "Drivers' Seat"
  • Ep. 23: How to Communicate Better - with Others and Yourself
  • Ep. 24: The Mirror Effect - Why People Trigger You (and What it's Really Showing You)

Shape your environment. Rewrite your story. Create a new perspective so that you can become who the fuck you want to be when you grow up. ❤️

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Healing doesn't end when you become aware of your patterns.

At some point, you reach a new chapter where you're no longer just understanding why you've lived in survival mode, but learning how to live beyond it. In this episode, we talk about what happens after the healing work begins to take root: releasing control, regulating your nervous system, pulling your energy back into the present, and reconnecting with the version of you that feels safe enough to simply be.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why surrender isn't just a mindset shift, it's a nervous system shift.
• How survival mode quietly steals your energy by keeping you stuck in the past or worrying about the future.
• What a healthy nervous system actually looks like (hint: it isn't never feeling stressed).
• How parts work helps your protective patterns soften instead of running your life.
• Why your gifts, creativity, and purpose naturally emerge when your body no longer believes it has to survive.

If you've been doing the inner work and wondering, "Okay...now what?" this episode is for you. The goal isn't becoming someone new. It's creating enough safety within yourself that the person you've always been finally has room to come forward.

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Dating has become more complicated than ever... but maybe it doesn't have to be.

In this episode of The Love Series, I'm joined by Love Coach Valerie Adams for an honest conversation about what actually creates healthy relationships. From mindset and self-worth to how to handle breadcrumb texts, the importance of standards, being emotional available, and the patterns that quietly keep us stuck... we cover it ALL.

Whether you're actively dating, healing from heartbreak, or you're now preparing for the right relationship, this conversation will leave you looking at love through a completely different lens. In this episode, we discuss:

• Why we often block the very love we're asking for and how to recognize it.
• How your mindset, standards, and self-worth shape the relationships you attract.
• What's important to women in dating vs. what's important to men
• Why and how to stop settling for inconsistent behavior.
• Practical dating advice for building healthy, lasting love without abandoning yourself along the way.

Love isn't just about finding the right person, it's about becoming someone who can recognize, receive, and build a healthy relationship when it arrives. If you've ever questioned your dating patterns, ignored red flags, or wondered why love feels harder than it should, this conversation is for you.

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What if the season before love arrives is actually preparing you for the relationship you've been asking for?

Growth doesn't stop while you're waiting. Sometimes the most important chapters of your love story are the ones that happen long before someone else enters the picture.

In the first chapter of The Love Series, I share what this season of dating has been teaching me, not from the finish line, but while I'm still living it. We explore what it means to raise your standards, trust what people consistently show you, and stop filling in the blanks with the story you hope is true.

Inside this chapter, we explore:

• Why becoming the right person often comes before finding the right person.
• How to stop falling in love with potential and start believing what people consistently show you.
• Why chemistry can make us overlook the very things that matter most in a healthy relationship.
• The subtle ways we embellish the story and how that keeps us attached to who someone could be instead of who they are.
• How to stay hopeful without settling while your own love story is still being written.

Every love story is written one chapter at a time. I hope this one reminds you that the chapters before "the right person" are just as important as the ones that come after.

Next week, Valerie Adams joins me for Part Two of The Love Series as we explore what finding the right person actually looks like and how to date in a way that aligns with the life you're trying to build.

Valerie Adams Instagram: @themindfulbabe - Valerie Adams IG

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What if the reason you're holding yourself back has nothing to do with confidence?

Many of us want to be seen, heard, and successful—but our nervous system may still believe visibility isn't safe. In this episode, we explore how your subconscious quietly protects you from the very life you're trying to create, and why procrastination, perfectionism, and overthinking are often forms of self-protection.

In this episode we discuss:

• Why being seen can feel unsafe—even when you consciously want it.
• How your subconscious and nervous system work together to keep you "safe."
• Why procrastination, perfectionism, and overthinking are protective responses.
• The connection between visibility, vulnerability, and personal growth.
• How to create enough internal safety to fully express who you are.

The life you want may not require more confidence—it may require helping your nervous system believe it's finally safe to be seen.

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