From Netflix’s Love Is Blind Season 1 to a journey of self-discovery, Kelly Chase joins me for an honest conversation about love, relationships, and the unconscious patterns that keep us repeating the same experiences.

We talk about what really happened behind the scenes of Love Is Blind, the difference between loving someone and loving their potential, and why we sometimes find ourselves chasing the very people who aren't choosing us.

Kelly opens up about self-abandonment, learning to recognize the stories we've been carrying for years, and what it actually takes to break old patterns and start making different choices.

In this episode, we explore:

• The reality of finding love on Love Is Blind
• Why we fall in love with potential instead of reality
• The unconscious beliefs driving our relationship patterns
• How the need to be chosen can lead to self-abandonment
• Why awareness alone doesn't always create change
• Breaking cycles in love, business, and life
• Learning to trust yourself and choose differently

Because sometimes the biggest transformation isn't finding someone who chooses you. It's realizing you can choose yourself.

Connect with Kelly Chase:

Instagram: @chaselifewithkelly

Podcast: @chaselifewithkellypodcast

Podcast Instagram: @whothef.ck

Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

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Why do we want to be chosen so badly? And why is it that the second someone doesn’t choose us… sometimes we want them even more?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the need to be wanted, picked, loved, and validated—and how that need can quietly start changing the way we show up, what we accept, and even what we think we want.

In this episode, we cover:

• The three sneaky “self-sabotage ninjas” that show up when we want to be chosen: The Performer, The Negotiator & The Chaser
• The difference between actually wanting someone and wanting them to want you
• “The Gray”—the uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming
• How to use rejection, disappointment, and that chip on your shoulder as fuel for growth
• Why self-worth is a muscle—and the small reps that teach you how to choose yourself

The goal isn’t to never want to be chosen. We all want to be loved, wanted, and appreciated.

It’s getting to a place where being chosen becomes a want—not a need.

Because when you stop waiting for someone else to confirm your worth, you get to make your decisions from a completely different place.

Choose yourself. And watch what happens. ❤️

Podcast Instagram: @whothef.ck

Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

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In this episode, we’re talking about the power of perspective, what healthy optimism actually looks like, and why two people can experience nearly identical circumstances and create completely different lives from them. We’ll also unpack the trap of believing your current reality is your only reality—and how getting to the root of your patterns can help you change the story from there.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why your perspective can determine what happens after something happens to you
• The difference between happiness and healthy optimism—and why optimism doesn’t mean ignoring difficult emotions
• How rejection, setbacks, endings, and detours can become information instead of evidence that you’re failing
• Why you have more agency in the direction of your life than you may realize
• The Recipe: past episodes to help you uncover the roots of pessimism, self-criticism, old beliefs, survival patterns, and the stories keeping you stuck:
  • Ep. 9: It's Not Rejection. It's Redirection & Protection
  • Ep. 12: Importance of Your Personal Board of Directors (and How to Choose the Right People)
  • Ep. 21: What's Your Inner Child and How to Spot When it's in the "Drivers' Seat"
  • Ep. 23: How to Communicate Better - with Others and Yourself
  • Ep. 24: The Mirror Effect - Why People Trigger You (and What it's Really Showing You)

Shape your environment. Rewrite your story. Create a new perspective so that you can become who the fuck you want to be when you grow up. ❤️

Podcast Instagram: @whothef.ck

Podcast host: @jess.ica.lee

Click here to: Work with Jessica 1:1 or get your Human Design reading

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