Why do we want to be chosen so badly? And why is it that the second someone doesn’t choose us… sometimes we want them even more?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the need to be wanted, picked, loved, and validated—and how that need can quietly start changing the way we show up, what we accept, and even what we think we want.

In this episode, we cover:

• The three sneaky “self-sabotage ninjas” that show up when we want to be chosen: The Performer, The Negotiator & The Chaser
• The difference between actually wanting someone and wanting them to want you
• “The Gray”—the uncomfortable space between who you were and who you’re becoming
• How to use rejection, disappointment, and that chip on your shoulder as fuel for growth
• Why self-worth is a muscle—and the small reps that teach you how to choose yourself

The goal isn’t to never want to be chosen. We all want to be loved, wanted, and appreciated.

It’s getting to a place where being chosen becomes a want—not a need.

Because when you stop waiting for someone else to confirm your worth, you get to make your decisions from a completely different place.

Choose yourself. And watch what happens. ❤️

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