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What happens when five different people, facing five completely different situations, stop and ask the same question: Where am I in this?

In the Season 1 finale of WAIT, Let’s Talk About That, we’re looking back at the conversations, breakthroughs, and unexpected themes that surfaced throughout the season. From relationships and parenting to grief, self-worth, control, and the patterns we carry from our past, we revisit the moments when our anonymous guests began to see themselves and their situations differently.

We talk about the difference between control and influence, why we can be kinder to everyone but ourselves, what happens when fear of abandonment causes us to abandon ourselves, and why healing is less about reaching a finish line and more about learning to recognize yourself along the way.

We also share what surprised us most about this season, the moments that stayed with us long after recording ended, and what it actually looks like when the WAIT method moves from an idea into real life.

If you've been listening all season, this episode brings the threads together. And if you're new here, it might just be the perfect place to discover what one simple question can uncover:

Where am I in this?

Season 2 is coming soon, and we can’t wait to show you where we’re going next.

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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This is a return conversation with a guest we heard from once before, a mom who came in to talk through a parenting moment and uncovered something much bigger about herself.

It starts small, an argument in the car with her son over something as silly as a golf shirt. But it slowly unravels into something deeper. The discovery that she has been looking for outside validation just to trust her own memory. And the moment she recognizes that when her reality feels challenged, what she is actually defending is her own groundedness.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this? That question is the starting line, and the bigger the moment, the harder it can be to find.

You will also hear a conversation about mind reading, the habit of assuming we know what someone else is thinking and reacting as if it is true. And how patterns formed long ago still show up today in moments that seem to have nothing to do with the past.

If you have ever fought harder than the moment called for, needed someone else to confirm your version of events, or found yourself defending your sanity instead of your point, this conversation will likely resonate.

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This episode continues the conversation with the same anonymous guest from "I Want Love...So Why Do I Keep Running From It?" If you haven't heard Part 1, we recommend listening to that episode first before tuning into this one.

In that episode, you'll hear how the WAIT method helped uncover the patterns that were keeping her from the relationship she wanted.

Now, the story continues.

After reconnecting with the man she walked away from, she finds herself in something she's never experienced before: a healthy relationship. But instead of feeling safe, old fears begin to resurface.

Why do we want to run when things are finally going well? Why can healthy love feel so uncomfortable? And how do we stop letting old patterns make decisions for us?

In this honest follow-up conversation, Dr. Lee Long and Lila Pond explore what happens after the breakthrough. Together, they unpack fear of intimacy, future projecting, the urge to create conflict, and the challenge of staying connected without losing yourself.

If you've ever wondered why healing doesn't automatically erase old patterns, this episode is for you.

Because sometimes the greatest growth isn't finding yourself. It's choosing not to lose yourself when love finally arrives.

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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In part one of this conversation, we heard how a natural helper can slowly lose herself trying to show up for everyone else. In part two, she goes deeper.

What begins as a check-in on how the WAIT framework has been landing in her real life quickly opens into something more raw. The grief she is still moving through. The high-achieving, high-capacity woman who has been quietly shocked by how little she has to give right now. And the realization that the voice in her head, the one that critiques and judges and tears apart, would never speak to another person the way it speaks to her.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

You will hear what it looks like to begin finding yourself not at the finish line, but on the course. In the in-between. In the small, quiet moments where the critic starts to lose its grip and you begin to see yourself a little more clearly.

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the circumstances are different, the patterns are often the same.

If you have ever extended grace to everyone around you while quietly tearing yourself apart, or found yourself more focused on arriving than on where you actually are right now, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

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In today's conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about what it looks like to be a natural helper who has spent most of her life focused outward.

She is a teacher, a caregiver by nature, someone who reads a room the way most people read a book. And for a long time, that gift served her well. Until she realized it was also the thing quietly costing her the most, especially in her relationships.

What begins as a conversation about dating and anxious attachment slowly unravels into something much deeper. The exhausting cycle of showing up for everyone else while slowly losing track of yourself. The way being a helper can become a way of avoiding the harder question of what you actually need. And what it really means to pick yourself first without feeling selfish for doing it.

This is part one of a two part conversation. In part two, she goes even deeper into grief, self-judgment, and what it looks like to finally start extending to yourself the same grace you give everyone else.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the situation looks different, the pattern is often the same.

If you have ever poured from an empty cup, said yes when you meant no, or found yourself taking care of everyone's building but your own, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

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In today's conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about her struggle with control and what she discovers is driving it.

What starts as a conversation about morning routines and a son who moves at his own pace, slowly unravels into something much deeper: the internal alarm that fires when a plan slips, the urgency that has nothing to do with breakfast schedules, and the exhausting pattern of looking to the people around her to quiet something that lives on the inside.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

If you've ever snapped at someone you love and sensed it was really about something else, or felt like your peace depends on everyone else getting it together, this one is for you.

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The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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In today’s conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about nearly forty-five years of feeling unheard in her marriage.

What begins as a conversation about communication and frustration slowly reveals something much deeper. The exhaustion of trying to be understood by someone who may not be able to meet you where you are. The anger that builds when your needs feel dismissed. And the quiet grief of feeling unseen by the person closest to you.

As the conversation unfolds, deeper questions begin to emerge. What happens when you spend years looking to other people for the care and consideration you long for? How do you stop losing yourself trying to get someone else to finally hear you? And what does it actually mean to care for yourself without becoming selfish?

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

You will hear how learning to locate yourself emotionally, instead of focusing only on changing the people around you, can begin to shift patterns of resentment, powerlessness, and emotional disconnection.

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the circumstances are different, the patterns are often the same.

If you’ve ever felt invisible in a relationship, struggled with resentment, or found yourself looking outward for the love and validation you deeply need, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long’s brand new book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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In today’s conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about his lifelong search for attention, approval, and validation.

From relationships and flirtation to achievement and external success, he describes the exhausting cycle of wanting to feel wanted while never fully believing the affirmation he receives.

As the conversation unfolds, deeper questions begin to surface. What happens when your sense of self is shaped by what other people think of you? Why does validation never seem to last? And how do you begin to separate genuine connection from the need to be reassured that you matter?

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the situation is different, the patterns are often the same.

If you’ve ever chased approval, avoided uncomfortable emotions, or felt disconnected from yourself, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long’s brand new book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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