Perhaps you know what you want to do.
And you've known for a while.
And yet, something keeps stopping you from actually starting.
In this episode, I'm sharing something I've been applying in my own life:
What it actually takes to step into something uncertain, when every part of you wants to wait until it's perfect first.
I'm a recovering perfectionist. For most of my life, I couldn't put something out until I felt that it was good enough (based on my own standards, which is high to begin with). What I've slowly come to understand is that perfectionism is often not about high standards. It's about wanting to control the outcome. And the outcome we're most trying to control is this:
What people will think of us when they see us in an uncertain, unfinished, imperfect state.
♡ THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
- you've been wanting to leave your job but can't take the leap… or
- you've had a project, a business, a piece of writing, an idea just living in your head for months or even years… or
- you just know something needs to change but the not-knowing keeps you stuck
♡ IN THIS EPISODE:
- Why perfectionism is really about controlling uncertainty, not achieving high standards
- The loneliness of being seen as "put together" when you know what’s really going on inside you
- What I did differently when I started this podcast, and why it worked
- A practical exercise: how to strip back your list until you find a right-sized step you can actually take
- Why the first step is sometimes just about making the thing exist
- Two questions I now use to guide every big decision
♡ TRY THIS
Write down everything you think you need before you can start the thing. Then ask yourself honestly:
Which of these are truly essential, and which are there because you're trying to control how people will receive you?
Strip back to the bare minimum. That's your starting point.
If nothing feels removable, sit with this:
Is it that these things are all necessary, or is it that you don't feel safe leaving any part of it to uncertainty?
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