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The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast

The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast

著者： Mark Aylward
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 The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast is a space for men to have real, raw and sometimes difficult conversations to help guide middle aged men through hard decisions in life. Mark & Jim are are both mentors focused on serving others. Tune in to hear authentic, and often funny discussions on well-being, personal growth and professional developmentCopyright, Imperfect Mens Club 代替医療・補完医療 個人的成功 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • Personal Stories Of Neurodivergence - The Ability To Think Different

    Personal Stories Of Neurodivergence - The Ability To Think Different
    2025/05/08

    Mark introduces the guys and topic. He cites how aligned both guys are. As they enter the call they’re thinking of the same topics and thoughts

    Neurodivergence (See definition at the bottom of the show notes)

    Mark shares a call about his grandson and his current struggles which may well involve him being on the spectrum

    Jim shared his perspective about labels and crutches and his own story about being neurodivergent himself growing up

    Jim’s perspective is to reframe this label as an opportunity to think of things differently

    Neither guy likes meds, but do agree that in some cases they can be a Godsend

    Jim tells a story about meeting his son’s fiancee’s family…one of who was neurodiverse. So many different degrees of the neurodivergent mind

    Mark reads the definition that Jim provided (Version posted below)

    Mark jokes that there is no normal and the definition sounds like the description of a teenager

    Elon Musk comes up. Mark shares a recent interview he saw with Musk about Mars

    Mark was amazed. Jim agrees

    Jim talks about Dan Sullivan’s recent diagnosis in later age and how one of his clients benefits from doing work with him being a neurodiverse person - “Unique Abilities”

    The importance of self-awareness and self acceptance

    Mark shares his opinion on the value of self awareness as well as how unique people are. He also talks about the danger of labeling. Excuses, victimhood and manipulation. Both guys warn about the problems with victimhood. Mark thinks his grandson’s temptation might be the manipulation

    Jim shares more about Dan Sullivan’s position about neurodivergence

    Violence and anger are common traits of neurodiverse people who don’t get help

    Mark looks at neurodivergence as simply another challenge to be overcome. Jim agrees that overcoming hardship affects everyone

    Jim is very skeptical about academia and neurodiversity

    Mark shares his best childhood’s condition and his older brother’s inability to stay focused

    Jim says it’s been around forever. People just understand it better. He also clarifies that his challenge is dysgraphia. More than dyslexia. And how each condition affects how his brain works. He thinks AI will be a game changer for the neurodiverse

    Mark shares the details of discussing his grandson with his other parents and relatives. Mark asks Jim’s opinion on all of this and his own journey

    Jim mentions his efforts to develop his own brand and how his unique abilities are big part of this

    Jim brings up fortitude - the ability to develop it in the face of hardship

    He shares a few childhood stories about hardship and fortitude as a neurodiverse kid. The story about his dad and “I can’t” and some other school related stories. Being embarrassed about poor reading and comprehension in front of the other kids. How he beat up all the kids who made fun of him and how anger manifested itself. Jim’s football story speaks to the importance of a good mindset and proper mentality

    Final story is about his first concussion and subsequent failure at community college

    Essentially Jim is on a whole new journey with a new perspective on why he is who he is and how he’s accomplished what he has. Then he shares a story of how harmful comparison is

    The whole conversation is very personal and enlightening

    Mark frames the lessons…No labels, no victim behavior and no manipulation. No one is special and everyone is special. Mark thinks it’s very important and hopefully medicine is a last step

    Jim shares the wisdom of life happening for you and not to you. Just show up and there’s no such thing as “I can’t”

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    "Neurodivergent refers to individuals whose brains function differently from what's considered typical or normative, encompassing a variety of conditions like autism, ADHD, and learning disabilities. It's a broad term that recognizes natural variation in how brains process information, rather than viewing such differences as deficits."
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    34 分
  • Beware The "Vortex". Aging Gracefully In Relationships

    Beware The "Vortex". Aging Gracefully In Relationships
    2025/05/01
    Mark introduces the topic of male and female relationships. Jim had brought up the recent Bill Belichick interview with his new 24 year old girlfriend Jim covers our framework and the wheel of life. Relationships is one of the five and women is a subset of that Jim likes looking at life in increments of 10 years. Now we’re both in our 60’s and things have changed Jim brings up the Belichick interview in the context of self awareness and how he was not self aware at all Both guys lost respect for him Mark goes back to his relationship with his girlfriend and brings up how recently he spent more time than ever at his girlfriend’s house. We have our own homes. Mark shares some frustration that came up and talks about why that might be. Then he brings up age. He specifically wants to pinpoint romantic/sexual relationships. Not platonic Mark thinks all guys want to have this discussion Jim brings up his 40 year relationship - married for 35 years Jim doesn’t believe we were meant to be together”forever”. He thinks marriage contracts should be like other licenses. Tests, updates, renewals, etc…terms and conditions He talks about renegotiating the marriage license. Reevaluate and reconsider He thinks relationships end because communication stops Mark shares his Catholic position where marriage is a sacrament which makes things a bit different Mark shares his frustration about communicating with his girlfriend as they age. Hearing and talking. Mark thinks is due to being together for 6 years and getting older Mark was saddened by the Belichick interview. How terrible the interview was to his reputation Jim thinks Belichick is at fault. Jim brings up his first hand experience with pro athletes and celebrity/praise Both guys are a bit taken aback with the lack of self awareness. What about his daughter? Mark laughs about what his daughters would say Mark thinks both people are at fault. Belichick is the older more powerful player. Mark thinks they both have ulterior motive Mark continues to be interested in the contract topic Mark feels he has a responsibility to bring up these conversation with his girlfriend and take some responsibility for the outcome Jim says calling a woman crazy is the new “C” word. He believes woman drive everything. They are the way they are due to evolution. Male and female roles and the woman’s menstrual cycle. Jim describes his view of why woman act the way they do. Mark thinks all of that is true, but…both guys know that discussion would be challenging:) Jim thinks often that women tells things that are not necessarily what they really feel Mark brings up examples of men and women who talked and set expectations before committing to one another. He thinks these discussions about expectations can make long term relationships last Jim agrees and says yes…but you also have to keep having them, adjusting and adapting. Keep discussing things as they change. Understanding the different roles id critical Also, we have more recently been confusing men and women about who they are Mark talks about his mom and dad’s divorce. He shares a few stories about their vastly different memories of different disagreements Jim likes the idea of the “vortex” Mark jokes about having had experience with “said vortex” with his ex-wife Mark feels strongly that self awareness is important and many of us don’t have it Mark thinks Belichick misses the attention. He feels we all need to adjust and replace as we age Mark recounts how he went inside to find blame with his frustration with his girlfriend and how helpful that is Jim shares a couple more stories. One friend was struggling with his marriage and the other was trying to help. He puts it in perspective of the vortex…his buddy ended up getting divorced. Beware the vortex The spell a woman has on a man Mark thinks we all have the ability to manipulate and we need to take this responsibility seriously Jim’s female friend shared an opinion that men are dumb and woman are far more complex. He feels men stay much the same and women change a lot. He defines what he feels are mens roles and women’s roles. Mark feels both people in a relationship have responsibilities to be kind and respectful Jim shares more of his opinion about roles. Mark reaffirms the differences between men and women and claims we should celebrate these differences He ends with the importance of communication and how it can make or break a relationship
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    38 分
  • Confidence Isn’t a Trait, It’s a Practice

    Confidence Isn’t a Trait, It’s a Practice
    2025/04/24
    Mark introduces the topic of confidence. Self-confidence The topic originated with Jim’s interest in elitism - entitlement - self-accountability - confidence In order to be self accountable, one must be confident Jim ties in the current news events and his recent book as he frames his view of confidence. Particularly sports and business He distinguishes between confidence and the competence required to be confident Jim brings up academia. See civically Harvard…and entitlements/elitism He shares the academic idea that perfection is attainable. We both support the reality of imperfection Mark observes that confidence can be under done and over done He shares his vision of where confidence comes from. Genetic and environment. Confidence starts to develop early Jim thinks it’s all relative. People have very different perspectives on these issues of elitism and confidence Jim shares his trade background and how educated people looked down on him and made him feel less than. Jim thinks the more “educated” you are, the less wisdom you have Mark distinguishes between knowledge and wisdom. He shares his upbringing close to the Boston Ivy League and his disdain for this specific elitism Mark thinks the family is huge in it’s role of confidence building Jim moves into sports He agrees about the family influence. Jim thinks sports really emphasizes and exaggerates the importance and influence of confidence. Jim brings up the example of Eli Manning who is referenced in this book as to his mental blocks before winning They joke about the Giants-Patriots games and Tom Brady comes up as the consummate mind-body guy Mark connects all the life areas in the wheel and shares his experience when one area is operating at his peak…how the other areas benefit Mark shares his thoughts about momentum and how contgious confidence can become Marks ask about ignorance and brings up Mike Tyson as an example of this Jim references his book again and shares the idea of a mental bank where confidence can be pulled from or deposited into. Managing the highs and lows by ignoring, forgetting and living in the moment Mark thinks confident people look at failure as an opportunity to learn Expectation management is required to keep the lows land highs regulated Jim talks about how some recent wins got him a little high and he’s keeping an eye on being let down Mark recalls feeling very confident and what a great feeling it is. But, he cautions that when you get that feeling, you have two choices: I deserve this…or I’m grateful for this…and that’s a Big difference. Mark says gratitude creates a “landslide” of more confidence. Now Jim moves to the next topic from his book…the personal narrative. How the brain can produce adrenaline like a performance enhancing drug Mark shares his daughter’s experience with anxiety and fear and her overcoming the fear by facing it head on…and your confidence can return. Jim says you can reframe your fear Mark shares his story about nerves during his 12 year old Little League Allstar game. How his dad talked him down and taught him how to channel nerves Jim brings up the next topic of filters and the power of reframing your focus toward success versus failures Mark brings up his “worst case scenario” strategy. If the worst case is a loss…so what. He then shares the value of either ignoring others or paying no attention to the criticisms of others. The mental filters Persistency and patience are two other qualities Jim brings up in the context of his patents and recent successes Another point is how little we have control over as we’re trying to accomplish something. Jim also appreciates how you can view the world as happening to you or for you Mark shares his daughter’s journey to business success…and frames it over the persistence required over 20 years Then he talks about her generous reference to him as the force that kept her going when she wanted to quit Then Jim asks Mark to recount the time his daughter almost lost her business some years ago to a cease and desist order Jim believes the Government position to shut her down was just another form of elitism. Both guys think the food and drug departments in government are being fully exposed now Elitism - entitlement - self accountability - self confidence
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    32 分

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