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"I'm Not Good Enough" The Origins And Impact Of Self Limiting Beliefs

"I'm Not Good Enough" The Origins And Impact Of Self Limiting Beliefs

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 Episode Summary Mark and Jim dive into the belief that quietly caps potential: "I'm not good enough." They trace where it starts (childhood messages, school systems, fear, past misses) and how it shows up in adult life: promotions we never ask for, relationships we avoid, work we don't share, skills we won't try. Along the way: stories from recruiting, entrepreneurship, parenting after divorce, and reframing regret as proof you care. The Conversation Explores What a self-limiting belief system is Thoughts that feel like facts, internalized from fear, old messages, or past experiences. The 5 arenas (Wheel) Worldview, Relationships, Self (mental/physical), Money, Profession — how "not good enough" plays out in each. Work & promotion Why most people never ask for what they've earned, and how confidence changes the conversation. Entrepreneurship vs applying Creating your own game when the tryout mentality keeps you small. Relationships after divorce Giving yourself permission to try again; why confidence is attractive and insecurity isn't. Sharing creative work Moving past impostor syndrome with repetition, practice, and kinder self-assessment. New skills and hobbies Transferable skills, permission to pivot, and expanding identity beyond a single job title. Regret, reframed Regret as a healthy signal you care; choosing "die trying" over "live with regret." Key Moments & Stories Recruiter's lens: Mark's thousands of candidate conversations start with identity and limiting beliefs. If you don't surface them, they steer the process. The tryout that never happened: Mark on not trying out for Notre Dame basketball and how that voice can echo years later. Starting the company anyway: Zero doubt when building a business while others warned him off. Creating the job vs applying for it. Ten years post-divorce: Mark waited to date to protect his kids; his daughters later "gave permission," unlocking forward motion. School, labels, and creativity: Jim on being misread by testing, then discovering his superpower for big-picture problem solving and invention. The pause technique: Mark's 5–30 second reset before hard conversations to center, lead, and stay kind. Practical Takeaways Name it to tame it. Write down the exact sentence you tell yourself. If it starts with "I am not the kind of person who…," you've found it. Permission is powerful. If you're waiting for it from others, give it to yourself in writing: "I authorize myself to ___ by ___." Promotions are conversations, not coronations. Prepare a one-page value brief: outcomes delivered, metrics improved, what you'll own next quarter. Ask. Create your own league. If gatekeepers won't let you try out, design a game where your strengths are the rules. Ship small, ship often. Post the paragraph, not the book. Momentum beats perfection. Transfer your skills. List 10 core skills you use now. For each, map 3 roles or industries where it applies. Circle what excites you. Use the pause. Before tough calls or meetings: inhale, count to 5, set intention, enter calm. Reframe regret. Treat it as useful data: "I regret X, which tells me Y matters. My next right action is Z." Micro-Exercises (REAL) Reflect: When did "not good enough" first show up? Write the earliest memory and one adult echo. Evaluate: Evidence check. List 5 counter-facts that disprove the belief this week. Activate: One ask you've avoided (raise, referral, date, publish). Put it on the calendar with a script. Lead: Tell one person how they positively impact you. Confidence compounds when you give it. Notable Quotes "Confidence is very attractive; a lack of confidence is very unattractive." "No one's coming to promote you unless you promote yourself." "I'd rather die trying than live with regret." "If you don't surface limiting beliefs, they steer the process." Resources Mentioned The Imperfect Men's Club Wheel: Worldview, Relationships, Self, Money, Profession Mark's "pause" practice for hard conversations If this resonated Subscribe and review: A quick 5-star and a sentence on Apple helps more men find the show as our review count hits key thresholds.
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