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Episode 207 - Family Reactivity and Anxiety: Why Your Relationship Feels Stuck

Do you feel stuck in painful cycles of family conflict and emotional reactions?
Maybe you feel like you are walking on eggshells around your child. Or maybe your emotions take over, and you say things you later wish you had handled differently.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, teaches you why reactivity is one of the biggest reasons family relationships stay tense, distant, or stuck, especially in parenting adult children relationships.

You will learn:

• What family reactivity really looks like and why it is not always yelling or anger
• How anxiety quietly fuels emotional distance from adult children
• Why patterns from your family of origin get repeated unless you interrupt them
• How one reactive person can set the emotional tone for the entire family
• The difference between reacting from anxiety and responding with emotional maturity

This conversation will help you understand why your adult child may be pulling away and what you can begin doing differently if you want to rebuild trust and create connection without control.

This episode is your guide to creating emotional freedom—even if your family feels stuck in chaos right now.

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 206: Parenting Adult Children Today with Catherine Hickem

Are you parenting your adult children with the same mindset you had when they were little? It might be time for a shift.

In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Catherine Hickem, a licensed therapist and founder of Parenting Adult Children Today. We talk about the emotional journey of parenting grown kids and why so many families are experiencing estrangement and emotional disconnection.

Catherine brings decades of experience, both professional and personal, to this conversation. She shares her own heartfelt story of healing with her father, the powerful restoration that took place between them, and why she believes it’s never too late to repair a family relationship.

We cover:

• Why parenting adult children requires a different mindset than parenting younger kids
• How unconscious expectations can damage connection
• The role of fear, disappointment, and emotional reactivity in estrangement
• What it really means to “do your own work” as a parent
• How emotional maturity and self-awareness create safety for adult children
• Practical first steps for shifting how you show up in your relationships

This episode is packed with wisdom and hope. If you’ve ever felt like you “did your best, but your child still won’t talk to you,” or you’re asking, “why won’t my adult child talk to me?” this conversation will speak directly to your heart.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

• Catherine’s work at Parenting Adult Children Today
• The importance of emotional healing and growing self-awareness
• The idea that our success as parents isn’t how our children turn out, it’s how we show up

This is how you know if you need help with this…

• You’re walking on eggshells around your adult child
• You’re carrying guilt, fear, or confusion about what went wrong
• You feel like your adult child is pulling away and you don’t know why
• You want to reconnect but don’t know where to start
• You find yourself stuck in anxiety, reactivity, or resentment

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 205: How to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting Reflex

What if the harder you try to help your adult child, the more they pull away?

In this episode, we talk about why your adult child won’t talk to you, how our child-centered parenting culture has increased anxiety for both parents and kids, and how that anxiety is now playing out in your relationship with your grown child.

Tina Gosney is a family conflict coach and family life educator. This episode is grounded in a research-based article from Family Process called “Balanced Parenting,” which uses Bowen Family Systems Theory to explain why so many loving parents feel responsible for their adult child’s emotions—and why that often backfires.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re wondering, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”
• You feel like “my adult child is pulling away” and you’re walking on eggshells
• You’ve searched for “how to reconnect with an estranged adult child” or “how to fix a broken relationship with adult child”
• You sometimes think, “I feel rejected by my adult child” and don’t know how to make it better
• You’re scared this might end in adult children cutting off parents, and you don’t want that to be your story

You’ll see how our anxious, child-focused culture trained you to over-function for your child’s emotions, and how that same pattern can make adult children feel watched, judged, or controlled.


What we cover:

• What the research on Balanced Parenting says about parents taking on too much emotional responsibility
• How the righting reflex (the urge to fix, correct, and rescue) shows up in parenting adult children relationships
• How anxiety gets passed around the family system when no one has learned to manage their own
• Why your adult child may shut down or distance themselves when you’re “only trying to help”
• A new, balanced, differentiation-based approach that helps you calm yourself instead of trying to manage your adult child

You’ll leave with a clearer understanding of the big picture—and some first steps to start changing

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 204: Why Won’t My Adult Child Talk to Me? An Unhelpful Question

If you’re lying awake asking yourself, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?” you are not alone.

This question sits at the heart of so much pain for parents navigating emotional distance from adult children. Many parents feel rejected, confused, and exhausted—especially when they’ve tried so hard to be loving, supportive, and present.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney—family conflict coach and family life educator—offers a powerful reframe that helps parents move out of helplessness and into influence.

Instead of asking what’s wrong with my adult child, this episode explores what’s happening in the relationship pattern—and where parents actually have the ability to create change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why a causality mindset (“What did I do wrong?” or “Why are they doing this to me?”) keeps parents stuck and powerless
• How relationship patterns develop quietly over time—and why conflict often reveals issues that were already there
• Why it’s so hard to listen to your adult child without taking everything personally
• How defensiveness, sadness, anger, resentment, and grief can shut down communication without you meaning to
• Why many adult children feel they’ve never had space to express their emotions—and why distance can feel like their only option
• How parents often seek reassurance from people who agree with them, and why validation alone doesn’t lead to relationship repair
• What it means to take being a good parent off the table and focus instead on understanding blind spots
• Why learning to separate your feelings from your adult child’s experience is essential for healing family relationships

This episode is especially helpful if you’re struggling with:

• Emotional distance from adult children
• Feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around your adult child
• Wondering “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”
• Trying to understand adult children cutting off parents
• Wanting to reco

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Let us know what you think about the podcast!

Episode 203: "Why Won't My Adult Child Talk to Me?" The False Comfort of AI Answers

If you’ve ever typed “why won’t my adult child talk to me” into Google at 2 a.m., hoping for clarity or comfort, you’re not alone. Many parents experiencing estrangement from adult children are turning to AI tools for support—hoping to find relief from the pain, confusion, and rejection they feel. But while AI might offer quick comfort, it can’t truly help you reconnect with an estranged adult child or heal the emotional wounds underneath the silence.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing why AI can’t replace human connection—especially when it comes to healing parent-child relationships. You'll learn why emotional healing for parents requires more than advice or reassurance. It requires courage, self-awareness, and the kind of human support that helps you regulate your nervous system, see your own contribution to the dynamic, and find compassion for yourself and your adult child.

We’ll walk through the story of Julia, a mother navigating the heartbreak of emotional distance from her daughter. Through her story, you’ll discover how to stop walking on eggshells and start understanding the bigger picture in your family. If you've ever said, “I feel rejected by my adult child,” this episode will speak directly to your heart—and give you tools to begin the healing process.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why turning to AI can create a false sense of connection
• How estrangement from adult children is rarely about one event
• The importance of seeing your own role in family dynamics and communication breakdowns
• Why your nervous system needs co-regulation from a real person
• How to rebuild trust with an adult child without control or shame

Whether you're dealing with emotional distance, complete cutoff, or just want to improve communication with your adult children, this conversation is for you. Healing after estrangement starts with you—and this episode will help you take the first step.

Subscribe to the show and get weekly insights on how to reconnect with your adult child with grace, strength, and emotional matu

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 202: Don’t Wait Until They’re Gone: Seeing the Sacred in the People Right in Front of You

We save our kindest words for funerals. We use the good dishes for guests. We wait until life feels “special enough” to start really living. But what if every moment and every person were already sacred?

In this final episode of 2025, I share a deeply personal reflection on losing a close family member and what that experience taught me about honoring the people in our lives while they are still here. From the quiet halls of a hospital to the untouched purse on my shelf, I explore the everyday ways we delay love, gratitude, and appreciation.

This episode will challenge you to stop waiting. Stop waiting for people to change. Stop waiting for relationships to improve. Stop waiting for a better time. And start seeing the beauty in the ordinary. Because this is the moment. This is your life. And it’s worth living and loving right now.

You’ll hear about:

• The sacredness of ordinary moments in family relationships
• How grief wakes us up to what we’ve overlooked
• Why we hold back appreciation and how that blocks connection
• A story about a beautiful purse and how it became a metaphor for life
• Thought reversals that will shift how you see your adult children
• The power of reflecting on 2025 with grace, gratitude, and growth
• Two powerful quotes from Albert Einstein and Thomas Merton that tie it all together

This episode is especially for you if:

• You feel like you're walking on eggshells around your adult child
• You’ve been holding back love, waiting for your child to change
• You want to reconnect with an estranged or emotionally distant adult child
• You’re ready to stop waiting and start appreciating your family even if it’s messy

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Connect with us:

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 201: Powerful Lessons to Carry Into the New Year – Listener Favorites from 2025

Are you ready to start the new year with strength, clarity, and hope?

In this special compilation episode, I’m bringing you highlights from four of the most impactful and talked-about episodes of 2025. These conversations struck a deep chord with so many listeners—and if you’re like most of the parents I work with, they’ll speak directly to your heart too.

I'm Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. If you're looking to repair your relationship with your adult child, find your emotional footing, and lead with grace instead of fear, you're in the right place.

Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode:

1. What Your Young Adult Child Wants You To Know (Ep. 178)
Want to know what your adult child isn’t saying out loud? In this clip, I share eye-opening insights into how young adults experience their relationship with their parents—and how you can build connection without control.

2. The Truth About Mom Guilt: Why You Feel It and How to Let it Go (Ep. 176)
Mom guilt doesn’t make you a better parent—it keeps you stuck. In this segment, I break down where guilt really comes from and how to start shifting into emotional freedom.

3. Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering – with Kepler Knott (Ep. 197)
Author Kepler Knott joined me to talk about raising resilient kids in a world that’s full of anxiety. Whether your kids are young or grown, this conversation will give you practical tools to stop over-functioning and start trusting your child’s inner wisdom.

4. When Family Hurts: Why Pulling Back Isn't Selfish—It's Part of Healing (Ep. 182)
When relationships are painful, taking space can feel wrong. But sometimes, stepping back is an act of love—for them and for yourself. This clip unpacks the why and how of healthy emotional distance in family life.

If you're new here, this is the perfect place to begin. And if you're a long-time listener, let this be your reminder that growth takes time, and you’re already on the path.

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 200 - Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life

In today’s episode of the Finding Joy Series, Tina dives deep into one of the most powerful emotional tools available to us—gratitude. This isn’t the shallow “write three things” gratitude list you’ve heard a thousand times. Instead, Tina teaches you how gratitude helps regulate your nervous system, rewires your brain’s negativity bias, and creates real emotional safety in your body.

Drawing from the Eight Pillars of Joy (Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu), Tina explains why gratitude is a pillar of the heart, how your body stores emotional memory, and why without body-based learning, real change doesn’t stick.

You’ll learn:

1. Why your brain automatically focuses on the negative
2. How body learning works
3. How scarcity and “never enough” thinking becomes an energy center
4. Why you struggle to receive compliments or gratitude
5. How gratitude helps you shift your focus from lack to abundance
6. How to heal scarcity and regulate your nervous system using gratitude

• Gratitude helps you override the brain’s built-in negativity bias.
• Receiving gratitude is an essential relational skill—not a bonus.
• True change requires integrating mind + body, not relying on thought alone.
• Consistent practice shifts your identity, confidence, and capacity for connection.

Every day, write down three things you’re grateful for—and don’t repeat any items all week.
Then sit quietly for five minutes and feel gratitude in your body. Notice how it changes your emotional tone.

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tinagosneycoaching/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tinagosneycoaching

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.