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Episode 204: Why Won’t My Adult Child Talk to Me? An Unhelpful Question

If you’re lying awake asking yourself, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?” you are not alone.

This question sits at the heart of so much pain for parents navigating emotional distance from adult children. Many parents feel rejected, confused, and exhausted—especially when they’ve tried so hard to be loving, supportive, and present.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney—family conflict coach and family life educator—offers a powerful reframe that helps parents move out of helplessness and into influence.

Instead of asking what’s wrong with my adult child, this episode explores what’s happening in the relationship pattern—and where parents actually have the ability to create change.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why a causality mindset (“What did I do wrong?” or “Why are they doing this to me?”) keeps parents stuck and powerless
• How relationship patterns develop quietly over time—and why conflict often reveals issues that were already there
• Why it’s so hard to listen to your adult child without taking everything personally
• How defensiveness, sadness, anger, resentment, and grief can shut down communication without you meaning to
• Why many adult children feel they’ve never had space to express their emotions—and why distance can feel like their only option
• How parents often seek reassurance from people who agree with them, and why validation alone doesn’t lead to relationship repair
• What it means to take being a good parent off the table and focus instead on understanding blind spots
• Why learning to separate your feelings from your adult child’s experience is essential for healing family relationships

This episode is especially helpful if you’re struggling with:

• Emotional distance from adult children
• Feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around your adult child
• Wondering “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”
• Trying to understand adult children cutting off parents
• Wanting to reco

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.