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Episode 205: How to Reconnect with an Estranged Adult Child by Calming Your Righting Reflex

What if the harder you try to help your adult child, the more they pull away?

In this episode, we talk about why your adult child won’t talk to you, how our child-centered parenting culture has increased anxiety for both parents and kids, and how that anxiety is now playing out in your relationship with your grown child.

Tina Gosney is a family conflict coach and family life educator. This episode is grounded in a research-based article from Family Process called “Balanced Parenting,” which uses Bowen Family Systems Theory to explain why so many loving parents feel responsible for their adult child’s emotions—and why that often backfires.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re wondering, “Why won’t my adult child talk to me?”
• You feel like “my adult child is pulling away” and you’re walking on eggshells
• You’ve searched for “how to reconnect with an estranged adult child” or “how to fix a broken relationship with adult child”
• You sometimes think, “I feel rejected by my adult child” and don’t know how to make it better
• You’re scared this might end in adult children cutting off parents, and you don’t want that to be your story

You’ll see how our anxious, child-focused culture trained you to over-function for your child’s emotions, and how that same pattern can make adult children feel watched, judged, or controlled.


What we cover:

• What the research on Balanced Parenting says about parents taking on too much emotional responsibility
• How the righting reflex (the urge to fix, correct, and rescue) shows up in parenting adult children relationships
• How anxiety gets passed around the family system when no one has learned to manage their own
• Why your adult child may shut down or distance themselves when you’re “only trying to help”
• A new, balanced, differentiation-based approach that helps you calm yourself instead of trying to manage your adult child

You’ll leave with a clearer understanding of the big picture—and some first steps to start changing

If you’re tired of reacting to what’s happening in your family and want more internal calm and confidence, I’d love to support you. Reset to Connection runs live February 2–6 at 9 a.m. Mountain Time, with short daily sessions and replays available. We'll focus on getting off the emotional roller coaster and creating confidence. The registration link is below.

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.