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Content note: This episode includes discussions of PTSD, suicide, grief, childhood bullying, and strong language. Listen at your own pace and take a break whenever you need one.
We spend a hell of a lot of time talking about what goes into the water. Today, we’re talking about the person standing next to it.
In this special Floc-It Friday episode of the Talking Pools Podcast, Rudy Stankowitz opens an honest conversation about mental health and the struggles that don’t disappear when somebody puts on a work shirt.
Truman of H2O Pool Cleaning shares his experience living with PTSD after military service, including how an ordinary sound on a pool route can bring the past rushing back. He discusses the routines that help keep him grounded, the people he trusts, and his experience seeking therapy.
A deeply personal conversation with Chris Felmer about loss explores grief, humor, and the difficulty of processing the death of someone you love.
Zara of C&H Pool Builders in Melbourne, Australia, shares her family’s experience with childhood bullying—and what it means to keep running a business while worrying about your child’s safety. She discusses advocating for her daughter, finding a more supportive school environment, and reaching out to Dolly’s Dream.
Rudy also shares his own experience with diagnosed PTSD and asks the industry to make room for honest answers when we ask, “How are you doing?”
In this episode
- PTSD, unexpected triggers, and working alone on a pool route.
- Friendship, family, pets, and the value of having people you can be vulnerable with.
- Grief that doesn’t always look the way people expect.
- The effects of bullying on children, parents, and the wider family.
- Financial and scheduling obstacles to getting help.
- Checking on someone without waiting for them to make the first move.
- Respecting privacy when a coworker shares a mental health struggle.
- Supporting employees when they cannot safely finish their workday.
- Why “you are the storm” doesn’t mean you have to be invincible.
You don’t owe the whole industry a confession. You deserve someone who can hear an honest answer—and support before you reach a breaking point.
Music credit
Special thanks to Boston singer-songwriter Wendy Lucas, who gave permission for her song “How Life Goes” to be featured in this episode.
- Listen to “How Life Goes” on Spotify
- Follow Wendy Lucas on Spotify
- TikTok: @wendylucasmusic
Support resources
United States: Call or text 988, or visit 988lifeline.org for crisis support. You can also contact the Lifeline if you’re concerned about someone else.
Veterans and their loved ones: Call 988, then press 1, text 838255, or visit the Veterans Crisis Line.
Australia—bullying support: Call 13 DOLLY (13 36 55) or visit Dolly’s Dream for confidential bullying support.
Immediate danger: In the United States, call 911. Outside the United States, contact your local emergency services. Support services and emergency numbers vary by country; find the resources available where you live and save them in your phone.
This episode shares personal experiences and encourages awareness. It does not provide diagnosis or replace professional mental health care.
Sponsor acknowledgment
For this episode, regular commercial breaks have been set aside. Thank you to PoolBrain, Service Industry News, Jack’s Magic Products, AquaStar Pool Products, and BlueRay XL for helping support Talking Pools.
You are the storm. And you are allowed to have help.
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