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What if the standard rules of dating and sex were written for someone else’s brain? We sit down with researcher and PhD candidate Kai Schweizer to unpack how neurodivergent people experience desire, consent, and relationships—and why structure and clarity often unlock deeper intimacy. From sensory processing differences to executive function, social style, and learning patterns, we explore how touch, smell, sound, and texture shape pleasure and boundaries. Kai shares why kink can offer safety and ease for autistic folks, how masks and roles reduce social load, and why frameworks like FRIES make consent feel safe, sexy, and specific.

We dig into the double empathy problem and what happens when two communication dialects collide. Expect practical tools for translating across styles: using checklists without killing the mood, choosing verbal cues over guesswork, and deciding—together—whether a moment calls for venting, distraction, or solutions. We also get real about interoception and delayed emotions, why ADHD conflict often needs separation time, and how to support a partner who processes out loud. Along the way we touch on higher rates of gender and sexual diversity among neurodivergent folks, and why late diagnosis can increase vulnerability to coercive dynamics.

One of the most eye-opening parts of the conversation is memory foaming—the tendency to reshape yourself to fit a partner. Kai offers simple practices to keep a solid sense of self: solo hobbies, personal aesthetics, friends beyond the couple bubble, and regular check-ins on what you genuinely like. For educators and curious partners, we make the case for co-designed sex education that includes sensory mapping, explicit consent scripts, and communication models that actually work for different brains.

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A UTI becomes a prostate test for someone who never had one. A hospital wristband prints the wrong gender, and every interaction tilts from care to harm. With Kai Schweizer—researcher, educator, and trans advocate—we pull back the curtain on how systems ignore lived reality, why that costs lives, and what actually works when you put dignity first.

We move from personal stories to hard science. Kai explains how neuroimaging captures dysphoria in the brain, and why that matters when clinicians confuse it with body dysmorphia. We break down eating disorder treatments that help cis patients but retraumatise trans ones, and we talk frankly about why some teens starve to halt puberty when blockers are banned. This isn’t a culture war rant; it’s a clear-eyed look at outcomes, costs, and the biology of minority stress. Along the way, we explore co‑designed research, data literacy, and the nuance missing from public debates about prevalence and youth identity.

There’s hope here too. A receptionist who updates pronouns without fuss. A nurse who chooses the blue‑packaged pad. A clinician who asks, “What language do you want for your body?” Small choices stack into safety, especially while we push for policy reform, training that goes beyond tokenism, and healthcare that distinguishes dysphoria from dysmorphia. If you care about sex education, gender‑affirming care, neurodiversity, or just better medicine, this conversation gives you language, evidence, and practical steps.

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Curious about threesomes but stuck between fantasy and “okay… now what?” We bring the heat and the homework, unpacking how three people can create a safe, thrilling, and genuinely connected experience without getting lost in porn scripts or performance pressure. From the first conversation to the final aftercare cuddle, we map out the moments that matter.

We start with the real reasons people want threesomes—curiosity, novelty, voyeurism, exhibitionism, and exploring sexual orientation—and explain why a good plan beats a good fantasy. You’ll learn how to open the conversation with your partner without spooking them, what boundaries to define before anyone meets, and how to choose the right dynamic for you. We share practical scripts, profile tips for Feeld, FetLife, and swinger-friendly platforms, and the crucial difference between being vague and being inviting. Safety gets the spotlight: STI talk without shame, how to avoid cross-contamination when switching acts, and why “are you clean?” is a red flag. We also cover neutral locations, hotel-lobby meetups, live-location check-ins, and what to pack so the night flows.

Then we go deeper on human stuff: jealousy as information, not a stop sign; traffic-light signals and preplanned exits; and why aftercare—water, warmth, and words—cements trust. Performance anxiety doesn’t have to run the room; pleasure is bigger than penetration and many people prefer the “side” of intimacy without insertion. We challenge body myths with resources like the Labia Library and the Vulva Diversity Gallery, and remind you that porn isn’t a measuring stick for genitals or pleasure. The core takeaway is simple: the perfect threesome isn’t about flawless choreography, it’s about communication, curiosity, and care that starts long before anyone gets naked.

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