Welcome to Episode 501 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Heather Florio and Dr. Fenwa Milhouse who speak to me about sexual health, desire, and pleasure during perimenopause and menopause.

In this episode, we discuss how changes in levels of oestrogen and testosterone can affect the brain, genitals, arousal and sex drive. We examine why hormones alone are rarely the cause of low libido, and how relationship dynamics, painful sex, body image, stress, shame, and the natural shift from spontaneous to responsive desire can all impact someone’s sexual experience.

Heather Florio is the second-generation CEO of Desert Harvest, a women's-health company her family founded in 1993. She writes the monthly Dear Sexpert column for BELLA Magazine, sits on BELLA's Medical Advisory Board, and is a Forbes Leading Woman in Business (2022). Late-diagnosed autistic.

Dr. Fenwa Milhouse—widely known as “Your Favorite Urologist”- is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sub-specialist in Urogynecology and Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery.

She is the current President of the Chicago Urological Society—making history as the first Black woman to hold this position.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Hormonal Changes During Perimenopause
• Understanding Multifactorial Low Desire
• Barriers To Menopause Treatment
• Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire
• Painful Sex And Vaginal Health
• Systemic And Vaginal Hormone Therapy
• Choosing Safer Personal Lubricants
• Medications For Low Libido
• GLP-1s And Sexual Desire
• Rediscovering Pleasure After Menopause

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Welcome to Episode 500 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by some of my most memorable guests, who speak to me about the biggest lessons on pleasure, desire, intimacy, and connection from the past nine years.

In this special milestone episode, I revisit conversations that challenged common assumptions about what fulfilling sex is supposed to look like. We explore why foreplay often begins long before anyone enters the bedroom, how every human body experiences pleasure differently, and why there is no single correct way to orgasm. We also look at what research can teach us about sexual positions, pelvic floor contractions, stimulation, and the importance of adapting sexual experiences to our individual bodies.

I also reflect on the deeper lessons these 500 conversations have taught me about becoming a more attentive and connected partner. We discuss moving beyond sexual autopilot, questioning techniques learned through pornography, understanding our fantasies without shame, and keeping desire alive in long-term relationships. Thank you for making these 500 episodes possible and here’s to the next 500!

In this episode, you will hear (In Order Of Appearance)

• Sebastian Harris
• Emily Nagoski
• Lauri Mintz
• Amir Marashi
• Anna Lee
• Miranda Houston
• Jason Julius
• Justin Lehmiller
• Ian Kerner
• Peggy Kleinplatz

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Welcome to Episode 499 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Michelle Sands, who speaks to me about the connection between hormones, stress, the nervous system, and women’s sexual desire.

In this episode, Dr. Sands explains why a loss of desire is not always a libido problem. We discuss how changes in estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, circulation, sleep, and vaginal health can affect arousal and sexual comfort, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. We also talk about why pain during sex can naturally reduce desire and why women should not assume that they are broken or failing their partners.

Dr. Michelle Sands, ND, is a #1 bestselling author, licensed naturopathic physician, speaker, female hormone expert, and epigenetics coach. She is passionate about helping women harness the power of nature to elevate their genetic expression and live vibrant, fulfilling lives by supporting their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Libido As A Vital Sign
• Hormonal Changes During Menopause
• Understanding Painful Sex
• Stress And Cortisol Dysregulation
• Advocating For Hormone Care
• Rethinking Hormone Replacement Therapy
• Scheduling Intimacy Without Pressure
• Supporting Arousal And Blood Flow
• Restoring Nervous System Balance
• Sexual Health And Longevity

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Welcome to Episode 498 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda Dames who speaks to me about soft dom dynamics, masculinity, and communication in kink.

In this episode Amanda and I discuss what it really means to be a soft dom and how this style of dominance is different than the harsh, controlling stereotypes often associated with dom-sub dynamics. We talk about the basis for soft domination, on care, attunement, emotional safety and the desire to bring out the best in a partner, as opposed to control, punishment or ego.

As a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach and Certified Sexologist, Amanda helps clients uncover a holistic and balanced relationship with intimacy. She understands that there is no one-size-fits-all approach, which is why she developed her own consulting method to support each person in discovering their unique path to fulfillment. Amanda’s work as The Kink Consultant is rooted in the path she took to embrace her own sexuality. Understanding the source of her kinks and core desires was the first step in her journey toward self-acceptance. She now uses this same approach to help individuals and couples embrace their kinky side with curiosity, confidence, and compassion.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding Soft Domination
• Healthy Power Exchange
• Care Versus Control
• Masculinity And Safety
• Toxic Manosphere Culture
• Emotional Attunement
• Foreplay Outside The Bedroom
• Building Erotic Polarity
• Communication And Safe Words
• Aftercare And Feedback

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Welcome to Episode 497 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Shoshanna Blanca who speaks to me about bridging sexuality and spirituality, healing sexual shame, and reclaiming the body as sacred.

In this episode, I speak with Shoshanna about her provocative and deeply personal project, Jesus Christ Pornstar, and the spiritual journey that inspired it. She shares how psychedelic experiences helped her reimagine the relationship between the body, pleasure, faith, and divinity. Together, we also discuss how sexuality and spirituality do not have to exist in opposition, especially for people who have grown up with shame-based messages about desire, pleasure, and the body.

Shoshanna Blanca is a feminist writer, sex educator, performance artist and model who deconstructs shame-based narratives around sexuality through body liberation, spirituality and visual storytelling. Through her work, she inspires audiences to reject limiting ideas of beauty, modesty and self-expression and reclaim confidence, authenticity and ownership of their bodies.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Bridging Sexuality And Spirituality
• Healing Sexual Shame
• Reclaiming The Body As Sacred
• Jesus Christ Pornstar
• Psychedelics And Spiritual Awakening
• Religion And Erotic Freedom
• Women’s Desire And Empowerment
• Sexual Repression And Pain
• Reinterpreting Biblical Messages
• Finding Sex-Positive Faith

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Welcome to Episode 496 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by David Chambers, who speaks to me about male sexual performance anxiety and creating more connected sexual experiences.

In this episode, David and I talk about the pressure many men feel to perform during sex. We discuss how focusing on erections, penis size, orgasm and technique can disconnect men from their bodies and partners, turning intimacy into something they must successfully deliver.

David Chambers, known as The Authentic Man, is a UK-based dating, relationship and intimacy coach for men. With more than a decade of experience, he helps men build deeper relationships, develop healthier masculinity and create more fulfilling sexual lives. His approach centres on self-awareness, emotional intelligence, authenticity and self-leadership.

In this episode, you will hear:

• The Pressure To Perform During Sex
• Why Sex Is Not A Competition
• Anxiety Around Penis Size
• How Shame Affects Male Confidence
• Overcoming The Fear Of Losing An Erection
• Communicating Sexual Anxiety With A Partner
• Moving Beyond Penetration
• Building Greater Sexual Presence
• Maintaining Intimacy As Men Age
• Co-Creating More Connected Sexual Experiences

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Welcome to Episode 495 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Debra Durst who speaks to me about biohacking sexual health, hormone optimization, and libido after 40.

In this episode, Dr. Durst and I talk about how sexual health can shift during perimenopause, menopause, and midlife, but why that does not mean people have to simply accept a decline in desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasmic strength, or overall sexual satisfaction. We also discuss how hormone changes, low testosterone, stress, burnout, medication, childbirth, and aging tissue can all play a role in sexual concerns, and why many women are often left without enough clear answers from traditional healthcare settings.

Dr. Debra Durst, MD is a nationally recognized physician, entrepreneur, and thought leader in sexual wellness, hormone optimization, regenerative medicine, and longevity care. She is frequently featured across television, podcasts, YouTube, print, and digital media for her bold, science-based approach to modern healthcare. Dr. Durst spent her early career working as a clinical pharmacist. She then utilized her pharmacy foundation to further pursue her Medical degree at Thee Ohio State University.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Biohacking Sexual Health After 40
• Why Libido Can Change With Age
• Hormones And Sexual Desire
• Perimenopause, Menopause, And Intimacy
• Advocating For Better Care
• Female Sexual Health Beyond Reproduction
• Regenerative Sexual Wellness Treatments
• The O-Shot And Laser Therapy
• Peptides And PT-141
• Finding The Right Provider

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Welcome to Episode 494 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amanda McCracken, who speaks to me about breaking the cycle of infatuation, limerence, perfectionism, and longing for emotionally unavailable love.

In this episode, Amanda shares the deeply personal story behind her book When Longing Becomes Your Lover and how writing the book helped her understand the dating patterns that kept pulling her toward unavailable partners. We speak to the difference between real love and the emotional intensity that often pretends to be love, particularly when anxiety and fear and the chase become familiar aspects of attraction.

Amanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist passionate about experiences that highlight the intersection of wellness, travel, and relationships. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, Guardian, Vogue, National Geographic, NPR, Elle, Outside, Self, Runner's World, ESPN, and many others. She published her first essay about longing in 2013 which led to additional articles featuring anecdotes and deep research and interviews with the BBC and Katie Couric.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Understanding Limerence And Infatuation
• Chasing Emotionally Unavailable Partners
• Mistaking Anxiety For Love
• Purity Culture And Sexual Boundaries
• Hookup Culture And Uncertainty
• The Role Of Social Media
• Listening To The Body
• Building Trust Before Love
• Choosing Consistency Over Intensity
• Breaking The Cycle Of Longing

A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive

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