Welcome to Episode 463 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Riana Milne, who speaks to me about emotional disconnection, communication breakdowns, and their impact on sexual desire in relationships.

In this episode, Riana and I explore how emotional safety and communication are at the heart of sexual connection. We discuss why unresolved conflicts and stress responses, like fight, flight, or freeze, can suppress desire, and how couples can learn to reconnect through conscious communication and emotional regulation.

Riana Milne MA is a Certified, Global Life and Love Trauma Recovery Coach, a Cert. Clinical Trauma & Addictions Professional, a Certified Mindfulness Coach, #1 Bestselling Author, the Host of her Podcast called Lessons in Life & Love'', an Educational Speaker, and Licensed Mental Health Counselor for over 21 years living in Palm Beach County, Florida. Riana specializes in helping those who have had past Childhood or Love Relationship Trauma to Heal, Transform & Thrive; leading them to Create the Life They Desire & to Have the Love They Deserve! She offers Coaching programs for both Straight & LGBTQ Singles & Couples globally for ages 16-76.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Emotional Safety As The Foundation Of Desire

· Why Communication Comes Before Sexuality

· How The Brain Reacts To Conflict And Stress

· Understanding Fight, Flight, And Freeze In Relationships

· The “Tea Break” Technique For Conflict Resolution

· Why Couples Must Approach Problems As A Team

· The Role Of Fun And Dating In Rekindling Intimacy

· Healing Childhood And Love Trauma Patterns

· Balancing Household Roles To Create Partnership

· How To Rebuild Connection After Disconnection

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Welcome to Episode 463 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by, Hily’s sexologist and sexuality educator, Dr. Mindy DeSeta, who speaks to me about flirting, sexting, and the art of digital consent in modern dating.

In this conversation, we discuss how to move from casual conversations to more intimate ones, without it feeling awkward or forced. Dr. DeSeta shares how flirting and sexting are forms of vulnerable communication, not just sexual expression, and why pacing, consent, and emotional awareness are vital. We also touch upon the nuances of reading digital signals, how to avoid common mistakes like jumping ahead too soon, and what healthy, sexy communication looks like in both text and real life.

Dr. Mindy DeSeta has a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology and is a Board Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has been in private practice since 2017 when she founded her concierge and bespoke mental health practice, Insight Counseling Center Miami. From 2025, Dr. DeSeta works with Hily Dating App as sexologist and sexuality educator consulting on product development, research and communication with the users.

In this episode, you will hear:

· The Art Of Transitioning From Flirting To Sexting

· How To Gauge Interest And Enthusiasm Digitally

· Why The Lost “Courting Process” Still Matters

· Recognizing Red Flags During Text Conversations

· Handling Awkward Gray Zones In Online Dating

· The Psychology Behind Unsolicited Explicit Photos

· Understanding Digital Consent And Its Importance

· Introducing Hily’s “Consent Guard” Feature

· How Asking For Consent Can Be Sexy And Empowering

· Tips To Create More Authentic And Respectful Connections

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Welcome to Episode 462 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Ali Mezey, who speaks to me about ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, a powerful framework she uses to help clients understand how love, desire, and trauma shape our most intimate connections.

In this conversation, we explore the concept of ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, how many people find themselves loving but not desiring their partners. Ali explains her Personal Geometry model, which uses physical mapping to externalize inner dynamics, offering profound insight into where we may feel emotionally blocked or disconnected. She also shares her own story of growing up in a sexualized environment, the early disconnection between heart and body, and her journey toward reintegrating love, desire, and authenticity.

Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, in groups, speaking publicly and as a teacher of Personal Geometry® and hosts The Brilliant Body Podcast.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding The Heart–Sexuality Split

· How Early Experiences Shape Our Erotic Blueprint

· The Role Of Trauma And Cultural Conditioning

· Religion, Shame, And Disconnection From The Body

· Using Personal Geometry To Map Relationships

· How Emotional Incest Impacts Adult Intimacy

· Bridging Love, Lust, And Long-Term Relationships

· Integrating Spirituality With Sexuality

· A Guided Mapping Practice You Can Try At Home

· Finding Wholeness Through Embodied Awareness

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Welcome to Episode 460 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Lianna Walden, who speaks to me about how men and couples can deepen intimacy and connection through embodiment, sexual energy work, and practical worship rituals.

In this conversation, Lianna and I explore the often-overlooked challenges men face in today’s evolving sexual landscape. We discuss her concept of “lingham activation”, a tantric-inspired approach to connecting with sexual energy through breathwork, embodiment, and intentional control. Lianna explains how many men have become disconnected from their bodies due to technology, stress, and societal conditioning.

Lianna Walden works in the intimate and sexual realm - guiding individuals and couples through deep, embodied transformation in their relationships, sexuality, and sense of self. With over 20 years of experience in transformation, relationship healing, and embodied leadership, she brings a multidimensional approach to personal growth and empowerment.

Her work is far from conventional. Lianna works outside the box - supporting sexual exploration, theexpression of taboo desires, and radical self-acceptance. She helps clients open to new ways of experiencing and expressing who they truly are - emotionally, erotically, and energetically.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding The Concept Of Lingham Activation

· How Men Can Reconnect With Sexual Energy Through Breathwork

· Overcoming Disconnection Caused By Technology And Stress

· The Importance Of Embodiment In Deepening Intimacy

· Step-By-Step Ejaculation Control Practice For Men

· Using The “One To Ten” Scale To Build Awareness During Self-Pleasure

· Exploring The Million Dollar Point And Squeeze Technique

· The Power Of Practical Worship And Genital Adoration

· Creating Rituals And Shrines To Honor Sexual Connection

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Welcome to Episode 459 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Matthew Bennett, who speaks to me about life as a porn creator, the realities of OnlyFans, and how kink skills can translate into everyday life and even the workplace.

In this conversation, Matthew opens up about his unexpected journey into adult content creation, sharing both the challenges and rewards of working on platforms like OnlyFans and JustForFans. We talk about how fetish and kink content often push against mainstream limitations, the misconceptions around creator earnings, and the importance of understanding consent and boundaries when producing explicit material.

English Leather Master (often known as ELM), also known to friends and family as Matthew, is an ICF (International Coach Federation) PCC-accredited life and executive coach and a BSCH (British Society of Clinical Hypnosis) registered hypnotherapist. He also trains individuals in both coaching and hypnosis. Matthew works extensively with LGBTQ+ and kinky communities around the world, supporting people in creating more fulfilling lives. His passion lies in helping others unlock the skills they already possess to enhance their chances of success and happiness across all areas of life.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Matthew’s Journey Into Porn Creation

· The Rise And Limitations Of OnlyFans

· Why Fetish Content Pushes Against Mainstream Rules

· Myths About How Much Money Creators Make

· The Pros And Cons Of Porn Consumption

· How Kinks Like Balloons And Car Pedals Find Their Audience

· The Difference Between Studio Porn And Creator Porn

· Why Communication Is Key To Being A Good Lover

· Using BDSM Consent Models In The Workplace

· Creating A Life Without Shame Around Sexuality

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Welcome to Episode 458 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Sarah Intelligator, a divorce attorney and author who brings such a fascinating perspective on dating, relationships, and why so many marriages end the way they do.

Sarah shares how two decades in family law, and her own journey through divorce and remarriage, have shaped her perspective on why relationships break down. She has seen the same patterns repeat themselves in countless cases, and she is passionate about helping people understand those pitfalls before it’s too late.

Sarah Intelligator is a divorce attorney in Los Angeles, California. She earned a Juris Doctorate from Southwestern Law School. She graduated from UCLA, cum laude, with a Bachelor of Arts in English. Practicing Family Law since 2008, Sarah has also been a yoga instructor since 2000. She organically bridged her two worlds, coining the term: “Holistic Divorce and Family Law.” In helping others through their divorces, Sarah realised that she could help them avoid divorce altogether.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Common Patterns Behind Divorce

· The Importance Of Sexual Compatibility

· Resentment As A Hidden Relationship Killer

· How Children Shift Intimacy In Marriage

· Emotional Needs And The Roots Of Affairs

· Changing Old Dating Patterns

· Core Values Versus Shifting Needs

· The Trap Of Fairy Tale Expectations

· How Communication Protects Connection

· Choosing Partners From A Place Of Worth

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Welcome to Episode 457 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Kevin Patterson who speaks to me about polyamory, representation, and emotional literacy.

In this conversation, Kevin shares his journey into consensual non-monogamy and the inspiration behind Poly Role Models, a project designed to broaden representation of polyamory beyond narrow stereotypes.

Kevin Patterson is an active member of the Philadelphia polyamory community. He's been practicing ethical nonmonogamy since August of 2002 after opening up a relationship that eventually became his marriage. In April of 2015, Kevin was inspired to start Poly Role Models, an interview series for people describing their experiences with polyamory. Poly Role Models was part of a drive and a desire to change the way our lives and communities are viewed. To continue that discussion of polyamorous representation, Kevin has extended the blog's work into the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Origins Of Poly Role Models

· Breaking Stereotypes In Polyamory

· Representation Beyond White Narratives

· Cheating Versus Consensual Non-Monogamy

· The Pitfalls Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

· Race And Identity In Non-Monogamy

· Navigating Jealousy With Emotional Literacy

· Building Healthier Conversations In Relationships

· Creating Safer And More Inclusive Spaces

· Kevin’s Work In Fiction And Superhero Storytelling

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Welcome to Episode 456 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Allana Pratt, Annette Benedetti, Caitlin V, Dr. Margaret Cochran, Rob Kancler, Susan Bratton, and Sylvia Solit who help me answer one powerful question: What’s one thing women wish men knew about sex, but almost never say out loud?

Across this conversation, our guests share profound insights into how women truly experience desire and intimacy. You’ll hear why slowing down, building safety, and creating emotional connection are essential foundations for passion.

We discuss the hidden fantasies and longings that many women never voice, the importance of curiosity and play, and how sex is far more than just physical technique, it’s a whole-body, mind, and spirit experience. Our guests also emphasize how communication itself can be deeply erotic, and that balancing sensitivity with power opens the door to deeper intimacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Allana Pratt On Safety And Slow Build-Up

· Annette Benedetti On Hidden Desires

· Caitlin V On Whole-Body Sex

· Dr. Margaret Cochran On Why Talk Is Sexy

· Rob Kancler On Sensitivity And Power

· Susan Bratton On Seduction And Play

· Sylvia Solit On Sex As A Continuum

· Women’s Bodies And Arousal Timing

· Overcoming Shame And Cultural Scripts

· Integrating Emotional And Spiritual Connection

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