Welcome to episode 477 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Laurie Gerber, who speaks to me about how to communicate about sex, sexual preferences, and talking about difficult topics like STIs with more confidence and clarity.

In this episode, Laurie and I discuss why silence is one of the biggest obstacles to fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships. Laurie shares powerful insights from her work with clients, especially around why sex is a key differentiator between friendship and romantic partnership, and why ongoing conversations matter more than crisis-driven ones.

Laurie Gerber is the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She’s the host of the podcast “Love at Any Age,” through which she coaches the audience, based on the wholehearted belief that everyone deserves healthy, lasting love, and it’s never too late.

For over 20 years, first as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group® and then as founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching Inc. she has been life and love coaching thousands of individuals and couples. Laurie is currently licensing The Handel Method® and uses it in her online and one-on-one coaching to help people achieve their dreams, with a focus on love.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Why Silence Is The Biggest Mistake

· Sex As A Learnable Skill

· Making Sex An Ongoing Conversation

· Choosing The Right Time And Setting

· Asking Permission To Talk About Sex

· Practical Hacks To Start Conversations

· Navigating STI Disclosure With Confidence

· Setting Sexual Boundaries Early

· Desire Mismatches And Rejection

· Rituals, Scheduling, And Prioritizing Sex

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Welcome to Episode 476 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ally Iseman, who speaks to me about desire discrepancy, long-term intimacy, and how travel can become a powerful doorway back to erotic connection.

In this episode, Ally and I discuss one of the most common struggles couples bring into therapy: loving their partner while feeling disconnected from sex and intimacy. We talk about why desire naturally shifts over time, how novelty + security can feel like they are pulling in opposite directions, and why sexless periods are often symptoms rather than the core issue.

Ally Iseman is a non-monogamy educator, erotic lifestyle consultant, and ICF-certified relationship coach who has spent over a decade helping individuals, couples, and moresomes create authentic, fulfilling relationships on their own terms. As the founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, an inclusive relationship education platform, Ally champions open communication and conscious connection within sex-positive and non-traditional relationship dynamics.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding Desire Discrepancy

· Why Novelty Fuels Erotic Energy

· Sexless Relationships As A Symptom

· Reframing Masturbation And Shame

· Travel As Foreplay For Connection

· Escape Versus Exploration In Trips

· Sensuality Beyond Sexual Acts

· Creating Mystery Through Planning

· Managing Expectations And Pressure

· Curiosity As A Relationship Skill

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Welcome to Episode 475 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Caitlin V, who speaks to me about erectile unpredictability, performance anxiety, and supporting men’s sexuality through a holistic, shame-free lens.

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In this episode, Caitlyn and I discuss how many men are struggling with sexual performance earlier in life and why this is not a personal failure or a flaw. We also talk about how cultural expectations, lack of accurate sex education, and constant exposure to unrealistic sexual imagery can shape anxiety around erections, desire, and confidence.

Caitlin V is one of today’s leading voices in modern sexuality and the host of the HBO Max series Good Sex. A researcher and coach with a background in public health, she has empowered millions to transform their sex lives through her coaching, courses, and viral online content. Her evidence-based, shame-free approach bridges clinical research with real-world intimacy, showing how better sex can make us better humans. Featured in O Magazine, GQ, Variety, and more, Caitlin champions a vision of sexuality that makes us not only better lovers--but more compassionate humans.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding Erectile Unpredictability

· Performance Anxiety And Its Root Causes

· Porn, Arousal, And Unrealistic Expectations

· Treating Men’s Sexuality Holistically

· Breaking Shame And Silence Around Sex

· Talking To A Partner With Confidence

· Rebuilding Erotic Connection As A Couple

· Reducing Pressure And Outcome Focus

· Sex Toys And Supportive Tools For Men

· Practical Exercises For Emotional Intimacy

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