Welcome to Episode 462 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Ali Mezey, who speaks to me about ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, a powerful framework she uses to help clients understand how love, desire, and trauma shape our most intimate connections.

In this conversation, we explore the concept of ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, how many people find themselves loving but not desiring their partners. Ali explains her Personal Geometry model, which uses physical mapping to externalize inner dynamics, offering profound insight into where we may feel emotionally blocked or disconnected. She also shares her own story of growing up in a sexualized environment, the early disconnection between heart and body, and her journey toward reintegrating love, desire, and authenticity.

Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, in groups, speaking publicly and as a teacher of Personal Geometry® and hosts The Brilliant Body Podcast.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding The Heart–Sexuality Split

· How Early Experiences Shape Our Erotic Blueprint

· The Role Of Trauma And Cultural Conditioning

· Religion, Shame, And Disconnection From The Body

· Using Personal Geometry To Map Relationships

· How Emotional Incest Impacts Adult Intimacy

· Bridging Love, Lust, And Long-Term Relationships

· Integrating Spirituality With Sexuality

· A Guided Mapping Practice You Can Try At Home

· Finding Wholeness Through Embodied Awareness

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Welcome to Episode 460 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Lianna Walden, who speaks to me about how men and couples can deepen intimacy and connection through embodiment, sexual energy work, and practical worship rituals.

In this conversation, Lianna and I explore the often-overlooked challenges men face in today’s evolving sexual landscape. We discuss her concept of “lingham activation”, a tantric-inspired approach to connecting with sexual energy through breathwork, embodiment, and intentional control. Lianna explains how many men have become disconnected from their bodies due to technology, stress, and societal conditioning.

Lianna Walden works in the intimate and sexual realm - guiding individuals and couples through deep, embodied transformation in their relationships, sexuality, and sense of self. With over 20 years of experience in transformation, relationship healing, and embodied leadership, she brings a multidimensional approach to personal growth and empowerment.

Her work is far from conventional. Lianna works outside the box - supporting sexual exploration, theexpression of taboo desires, and radical self-acceptance. She helps clients open to new ways of experiencing and expressing who they truly are - emotionally, erotically, and energetically.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding The Concept Of Lingham Activation

· How Men Can Reconnect With Sexual Energy Through Breathwork

· Overcoming Disconnection Caused By Technology And Stress

· The Importance Of Embodiment In Deepening Intimacy

· Step-By-Step Ejaculation Control Practice For Men

· Using The “One To Ten” Scale To Build Awareness During Self-Pleasure

· Exploring The Million Dollar Point And Squeeze Technique

· The Power Of Practical Worship And Genital Adoration

· Creating Rituals And Shrines To Honor Sexual Connection

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Welcome to Episode 459 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Matthew Bennett, who speaks to me about life as a porn creator, the realities of OnlyFans, and how kink skills can translate into everyday life and even the workplace.

In this conversation, Matthew opens up about his unexpected journey into adult content creation, sharing both the challenges and rewards of working on platforms like OnlyFans and JustForFans. We talk about how fetish and kink content often push against mainstream limitations, the misconceptions around creator earnings, and the importance of understanding consent and boundaries when producing explicit material.

English Leather Master (often known as ELM), also known to friends and family as Matthew, is an ICF (International Coach Federation) PCC-accredited life and executive coach and a BSCH (British Society of Clinical Hypnosis) registered hypnotherapist. He also trains individuals in both coaching and hypnosis. Matthew works extensively with LGBTQ+ and kinky communities around the world, supporting people in creating more fulfilling lives. His passion lies in helping others unlock the skills they already possess to enhance their chances of success and happiness across all areas of life.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Matthew’s Journey Into Porn Creation

· The Rise And Limitations Of OnlyFans

· Why Fetish Content Pushes Against Mainstream Rules

· Myths About How Much Money Creators Make

· The Pros And Cons Of Porn Consumption

· How Kinks Like Balloons And Car Pedals Find Their Audience

· The Difference Between Studio Porn And Creator Porn

· Why Communication Is Key To Being A Good Lover

· Using BDSM Consent Models In The Workplace

· Creating A Life Without Shame Around Sexuality

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