🎙 Episode 21: A Better Version of Yourself with Jia Xi

May version ka na marunong gumalaw… kahit hindi perfect yung pakiramdam mo.

Yun yung binubuo mo.

This episode is about functioning and growing while managing depression.

Hindi yung biglang okay ka.

Hindi yung instant shift.

Yung totoo:

You learn how to work with your state, not wait for it to change.

In this conversation with Jia Xi, we talked about how progress actually looks like:

You show up.

You do what you can.

You keep structure in your day.

You build systems that support you.

Kasi ang difference ng taong umaangat?

They don’t depend on how they feel.

They build habits they can rely on.

We went into:

how identity is shaped by consistent action

how routines create stability when emotions fluctuate

how to stay productive even on low-energy days

and how small wins build real confidence over time

Here’s the key shift:

You don’t need to solve everything at once.

You just need to handle today better.

And when you do that consistently…

Mas nagiging steady ka.

Mas nagiging clear ka.

Mas nagiging capable ka.

That’s how you build a better version of yourself.

Not by waiting for the right feeling.

But by creating a way to move forward anyway.

After this conversation with my friend Justin Pinon
napaisip din ako.
madaming tao ang may gustong magbago.
Pero paulit-ulit pa rin sa pare-parehong mga pattern o habits.
Hindi dahil kulang sila.
Hindi dahil wala silang alam.
Kundi dahil hindi pa buo yung belief nila tungkol sa sarili nila.
And I’ve seen this too many times.
You can give people tools.
You can give them strategies.
You can even guide them step by step.
Pero kung hindi nila kayang i-confirm sa sarili nila na
“iba na ako ngayon”…
Babalik at babalik sila sa dati.
Overview sa usapan namin, may isang bagay angtumatak sakin:
Change doesn’t happen when you say it.
It happens when you prove it to yourself.
Yung moment na hindi ka na bumigay sa dating habit mo.
Yung moment na hindi ka na nag-react the same way.
Yung moment na pinili mong gawin yung mas mahirap, pero mas tama.
Dun nagsisimula yung shift.
And to be honest…
Kahit ako, I still catch myself.
May moments na automatic yung response.
May moments na bumabalik yung old pattern.
Pero ang difference ngayon, mas aware na ako.
And once you’re aware…
you have a choice.
Hindi mo kailangan patunayan sa ibang tao na nagbago ka.
Mas importante na mapatunayan mo sa sarili mo na
kaya mong piliin yung next version mo.
Again and again.
Kung may isang bagay kang kukunin sa episode na ‘to, eto yun:
"Know your value.
Then become it."
#KenKenSomera #JustinPinon #IdentityShift #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #GrowthMindsetPH #PodcastPH #RealTalk #FYPPhilippines

🎙 Episode 20: Know Your Value with Simon Peter Domingo (Online Filipino Freelancers)

Hindi mo tataasan ang rate mo…
kung hindi mo tinataasan ang tingin mo sa sarili mo.

Yan yung core ng episode na ‘to.

We talked about identity.
From Simon… to Paolo.

Kasi minsan, hindi skill ang kulang.
Clarity.

Hindi mo pa alam kung sino ka sa laro.
Hindi mo pa alam kung anong value mo.

And hangga’t hindi malinaw yun,
kahit anong opportunity dumaan…
hindi mo rin mahahawakan.

Sa freelancing, ganun talaga.

You start small.
You build experience.
You learn how to communicate what you can do.

Pero darating yung point na kailangan mong mag-shift.

Hindi ka na beginner.
Hindi ka na pang entry-level.

Kailangan mong sabihin sa sarili mo:

“Eto na yung value ko.”

At pag naniwala ka na dun,
dun pa lang magbabago yung galaw mo.

Mas maayos ka magsalita.
Mas malinaw ka mag-present.
Mas firm ka sa presyo mo.

We also talked about this:

Same effort.
Magkaibang environment.
Magkaibang bayad.

Kaya importante kung saan mo dinadala yung oras mo.

Kung gusto mong tumaas yung kita mo,
hindi lang sipag ang kailangan.

Skill.
Communication.
Positioning.

Yan yung magtataas sayo.

And the truth is, nandyan na lahat.

May tools.
May community.
May mentors.
May access ka.

Ang kulang lang talaga:

Desisyon na mag-level up.

So kung nandito ka ngayon,
tanungin mo sarili mo:

Alam mo ba talaga yung value mo?

Kasi once malinaw na yan…

Iba na yung laro.

🎧 Listen to Episode 20 of Self Talk.

May mga tao na akala mo… hindi na babangon.

Pero sila pa yung biglang lalayo ang mararating.

This episode is personal for me.

Because I’ve seen the version of her na hirap huminga sa sarili niyang isip.

Yung tipong kahit nasa masayang lugar ka… hindi ka mapakali.

Hindi mo kontrolado yung thoughts mo.

And that’s scary.

Pero eto yung hindi naiintindihan ng karamihan…

Hindi nawawala yung thoughts.

Ikaw yung nagbabago kung paano mo sila haharapin.

In this episode, I had the chance to guest one of my current coaching clients Ms. Dee Samonte to talk about what it really takes to take control of your mind:

Not motivation.

Not inspiration.

But training.

Training your breathing.

Training your focus.

Training your reactions.

Training your identity.

Because at the end of the day,

kung hindi mo kayang i-handle yung sarili mong isip…

kahit anong opportunity dumating, hindi mo rin mahahawakan.

What I’m proud of here is simple:

Hindi lang siya nakinig.

Kumilos siya.

And that’s the difference.

Maraming tao nakikinig.

Konti lang yung gumagalaw.

We also talked about:

paano i-reframe yung sarili mong thoughts

paano mag pattern interrupt kapag lumulubog ka na

bakit importante ang movement at katawan sa mindset

paano gamitin ang anchors para bumalik sa tamang state

at paano mag-grow kahit paulit-ulit kang natatalo

And one thing stood out:

The more she failed, the better she became.

Ganun talaga.

Hindi ka lalakas sa comfort.

Hindi ka magle-level up sa safe na space.

You go through it.

You feel it.

You deal with it.

Then you rise from it.

So kung nahihirapan ka ngayon…

Let me tell you this straight:

Hindi ka mamamatay diyan.

Pero may version ka na kailangan mamatay

para lumabas yung mas malakas na ikaw.

And when that version comes out…

Ibang laro na yun.

🎧 Listen to Episode 19 of Self Talk.

Not everyone gets the chance to sit down with their parents and ask the questions that actually matter.

Sa episode na ito ng Self Talk, nakausap ko ang tatay ko.

No scripts.
No prepared questions.
Just a real conversation.

Pinag-usapan namin ang discipline, friendship, loyalty, parenting, health, aging, and the beliefs that shape a life.

Growing up, hindi ko naman iniisip kung saan nanggaling yung mga paniniwala ko.
Kung bakit ganito ako mag-isip.
Kung bakit ganito ako mag-decide.

But looking back now, ang daming bagay na na-imprint pala sakin just by watching my parents.

Yung leadership.
Yung stubbornness.
Yung sense of responsibility.

There’s a quote that says, “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”
And habang tumatagal, mas naiintindihan ko kung bakit.

This episode is not about techniques.
Hindi ito tungkol sa NLP.
Hindi ito tungkol sa mindset strategies.

This is about where those things started.

Kung may natutunan ako sa usapan na ito, it's this:

While you still have the chance, talk to your parents.
Ask questions.
Listen to their stories.

Kasi darating ang panahon na gugustuhin mo marinig ulit yung mga sagot na yun.

And you won’t be able to ask anymore.

🎙 Self Talk Episode 18 – My Dad

Watch the full episode here.

#SelfTalkWithKenkenSomera #KenkenSomera #LifeLessons #Mindset #Family #Leadership #PersonalGrowth #FatherAndSon #RealConversations

Main character ka ba ng buhay mo, kasi kung hindi, sino?

In Episode 17, Ken-ken Somera and George Ramos break down what “main character” really means, not as “bida-bida,” but as ownership, clarity, and presence.

We talk about:

• Why self-focus isn’t automatically selfish

• How people anchor happiness to other people (and why it hurts)

• Why presence and confidence can be trained

• How knowing yourself leads to better decisions and stronger boundaries

If you’re looking for change, start with one small step:
Five minutes. One question. One honest answer.

Salamat sa pakikinig. Kita kits sa next episode.

“But why?” / "Pero.. Bakit?"

(ayan nilagyan ko na din ng tagalog)

Episode #16

SELF;TALK with Ken-ken Somera

Mukhang simpleng tanong lang

Pero minsan

yan din yung tanong na biglang naglalagay ng emphasis at bigat

This episode we discussed about the viral "Penguin" video na biglang humiwalay sa circle nya.

Lahat sila papunta sa dagat,

tapos siya,

ayun.

naglakad papunta sa bundok.

At sa dulo ng video,

sa boses ng narrator maririnig natin ang tanong na

“but why?”

At dun nabuo yung narrative

Biglang hindi na lang siya penguin na naglalakad.

Biglang may possibleng drama. (depende din sa audio)

Biglang parang may pinagdadaanan.

Biglang parang may gustong takasan.

(based sa ibang mga reaction videos)

Pero what if… wala naman talaga?

What if normal lang yung nangyari, pero tayo yung naglagay ng meaning?

In this episode, pinag-usapan namin:

* Bakit minsan, isang tanong lang sapat na para baguhin kung paano natin tinitingnan ang isang pangyayari

* Paano boses, tono, at background music kayang mag-frame ng kwento sa utak natin

* Bakit madalas, sarili nating experiences at pinagdadaanan ang nakikita natin sa kwento ng iba

* At kung bakit ang pag-alis sa grupo ay hindi laging tungkol sa giving up, minsan paghahanap lang ng ibang direksyon

Hindi lang talaga tungkol sa penguin ’to.

Let's find learning with random videos lolz

~

Listen~

Pause a bit and Relax your mind.

At baka may makita kang meaning na dati mo namang hindi napapansin.

Remember to always ask better questions to yourself

butt why? lolz

Can Confidence be Programmed?

Self Talk with Ken-ken Somera Podcast

Episode #15

We talked about how confidence is a state you can enter, interrupt, and rebuild. Kapag naintindihan mo kung paano gumagalaw ang focus mo, memories mo, at internal dialogue mo, mas nagiging madali na mag-shift from kaba to clarity.

I explained that this is more of my approach with NLP and why "Confidence on Command works by using awareness, memory, and repetition. Kapag marunong kang mag-access ng strong states from your past or even imagined futures, your subconscious starts responding differently.

Napag-usapan din namin kung bakit practice matters and how the subconscious learns through association and repetition. The more you practice entering a confident state, the more natural it becomes. Over time, your mind stops asking “kaya ko ba?” and starts moving straight into system and action.

This episode is for anyone who wants to understand confidence beyond surface behavior, and start working with how the mind actually processes pressure, focus, and performance.

If you’re curious how confidence can be programmed, trained, and activated from the inside out, this episode will help you see it in a deeper, more practical way.