If you’ve ever struggled to say what you really mean, avoided conflict to keep the peace, or felt like your voice gets lost in relationships—this episode is for you. We’re diving into the four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive—breaking down how each one shows up, why we default to them, and what it takes to move toward assertiveness. You’ll learn how emotional regulation and your core beliefs play a major role in how you communicate, and why assertiveness isn’t just the most effective style—it’s also the most self-honoring.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:

• The four primary communication styles and how to identify your default
• Why assertiveness is the ideal communication style—and what makes it so hard to practice
• How emotional dysregulation can fuel passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive tendencies
• Real-life examples of how communication patterns form in relationships, workplaces, and families
• The core beliefs that keep us stuck in unhelpful communication habits (like “I don’t matter”)
• Actionable steps to move from passivity to clarity and self-advocacy in your daily life

RESOURCES:

• The Ego Series: Episodes 27-30
• The Centered Framework: Episode 30
• How To Set and Keep Boundaries: Episode 6

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

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You finally left the toxic job, the dysfunctional family, or the one-sided relationship, but now you’re exhausted, emotional, and weirdly resistant to rest?

You’re not broken. You’re just coming back to life.

In this honest episode, we talk about:

• What survival mode really looks like (and why it lingers)
• How trauma rewires your baseline and expectations, without you even realizing it
• Why your nervous system resists rest and joy
• Why healing often feels harder right before it gets better
• How to honor your healing while gently reorienting to joy, rest, and alignment

Perfect for anyone recovering from toxic relationships, chronic burnout, over-functioning, or high-stress work environments, this one is for the Selfies who are ready to get their sparkle back.

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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What do you really need to feel like yourself again? In this final episode of our ego series, we reveal the CENTERED framework, 8 key abilities you need to build ego strength, stay rooted in your real, authentic self, and finally live in alignment with your values.

Do you know what your needs are?

Can you speak your truth without shame?

Are your choices led by values, or survival mode?

Listen to this episode to walk away with:

• A clear, practical framework for becoming emotionally steady and self-led
• Real stories of how we shifted from ego-driven patterns to values-based alignment
• Guidance to assess where you’re strong and where you’re still growing
• Encouragement to keep returning to your center, even when it’s uncomfortable

This is the episode that ties it all together. If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start leading from your center, this one’s for you.

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

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