During active addiction, most of us were in a series of codependent relationships, it seems it’s just part of being an addict. Both parties rely on the other to cover a shortcomings, usually its to do with the addiction itself. Either, they have money or are well connected or whatever. These relationships revolve around what they can do for each other rather than companionship. However, once we get help and recover and are transitioned into living sober, a lot of us long for a relationship, not just any relationship but a healthy one. Most of us addicts in recovery don’t know what that even IS! So, we’ve got to be extra careful not to fall into those old traps. We’ve got to get ourselves to the point where we do not NEED someone for anything, we simply enjoy their company and companionship. I am so thankful that I have finally found this with (as most listeners of this podcast already know) Kitty. She’s amazing, she makes me so happy to be alive and inspires me to strive to be a better person. She doesn’t need me for anything, she’s perfectly independent all by herself, so I know, with total confidence, that she loves me and is with me because she wants to be. It took me getting to a place where I am also independent, stable mentally, spiritually and even financially which, by the way, means that I am free from active addiction, to even qualify for a healthy relationship with a “normie.”
In this episode, Kitty joins me as my first ever guest (although it definitely felt more like a cohost) to mark this, the 20th episode of My Sober Addiction, and to talk with us about relationships. We don’t just talk about our own relationship, she explains things from the perspective of the “affected,” those that love us and often enabled us during our addiction until they realize they simply just can’t do it any more, when they realize that their “help” is only helping us to kill ourselves. It is a very candid and natural conversation and I can’t wait to have her back on for more of them.
I can’t wait for you to hear this episode. As always, much love and respect to you all!

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