Three Questions Every New Dad Should Ask God (And What Actually Happens When You Do)

What do you pray for when you become a father? Not the surface stuff—the real questions that keep you awake at 2am. In this episode, Connor sits down with Scott to tackle the three questions every new dad in the faith grapples with: How do I lead my family spiritually? How does God actually speak to me in this season? And why should I turn to God when I have my wife, my family, and my own strength?

Scott, a pastor navigating his own journey into fatherhood, shares what he discovered when he went to God asking for wisdom to care for his wife and lead his home. Spoiler: God's answer came through his wife telling him exactly what she needed. The conversation unpacks the difference between praying for wisdom and praying for answers—and why God often gives you something way more practical than you asked for.

You'll hear about the moment Connor realized his own anger with his kids, a real marriage repair conversation, and why the most direct way God speaks to new dads is often through the person right in front of you. Plus, Scott talks about the devotional he wrote while waiting for his son to be born—a moment of surrender that changed how he understood faith in the trenches of early fatherhood.

If you've ever wondered whether God actually cares about the mundane chaos of parenting, whether your prayers are being heard, or how to trust God when you're barely holding it together—this episode is for you.

Scripture references: Psalm 124, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Matthew 6:33

Mentioned: YouVersion Bible App devotional "Trusting God in the Unknown" by Scott Stewart

For Christian dads navigating newborn and toddler years. New to faith? Welcome. Doubting whether God actually shows up in parenting? This one's for you too.

Listen and share with a dad who needs to hear that he's not alone in this.

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You yelled at your toddler over something stupid. Now you're sitting on the bathroom floor feeling like the worst dad alive.

This episode is for you.

Connor and Scott tackle the thing nobody talks about: anger in fatherhood. Not your kid's tantrums—your anger. The moment you realize your voice got louder than it should have. The guilt that follows. And the question that haunts you: am I failing them?

Here's what we cover:

🔍 The truth about your anger: Your kid's tantrum is not an emergency. But your anger is. The order you deal with these things matters—and most of us get it backwards.

📖 James 1:19–20 as your anchor: "Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger." We unpack what this actually means at 2am when your toddler won't sleep for the 11th time.

💔 The bathroom floor moment: The repair conversation. Asking for forgiveness instead of offering a quick sorry. How to teach your kids that strong men admit when they're wrong.

🎯 Compassionate boundaries: It's not gentle parenting OR strict discipline. We discuss the middle ground that actually works—validating your kid's feelings while still having clear boundaries.

👨‍👦 Breaking the cycle: That moment you hear your dad's voice coming out of your mouth. Why staying calm is the single most powerful parenting move you have.

If you've lost your temper with your kids and questioned whether you're doing this right, this episode is a permission slip and a practical guide.

Because being a good dad doesn't mean never losing it. It means always coming back.

Listen and ask yourself: What's the anger really about? Then share this with a dad who needs to know he's not alone.

One in four dads experience paternal postpartum depression. One in four. So if you're in a room with three other dads, statistically one of you is walking through it right now — and probably hasn't told anyone.

In this episode, Connor gets as vulnerable as he's ever been on the show. He shares what happened when his son Beau was born and the instant connection everyone promises you would feel just… wasn't there. No rush of love. No "I'd die for this kid" moment. Just distance, frustration, and a growing spiral of "something is broken in me." He opens up about sitting in his wife's postpartum screening, silently answering yes to every question she was answering no to, and the car ride home where he finally said it out loud. He talks about asking his dad for help and getting back a well-meaning but useless "you'll figure it out." And he walks through the specific Christ-centered shift — a sermon, a reframing, a decision to see every moment with his son as a gift instead of a burden — that brought him out of the darkness.

Scott and Connor also talk honestly about when prayer alone isn't enough, why seeking professional help is not weakness, and why the most powerful thing a man who's been through counseling can do is tell another man he's been through counseling. Anchored in Galatians 6:2 and the call to bear one another's burdens, this episode exists for the dad who's Googling "is it normal to not feel connected to my baby" at 2 AM. You're not broken. You're not alone. And there's a way through.

Scripture Referenced: Galatians 6:2 · James 1:2–4

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"Just tell me what to do." Five words every married dad has said — and five words that drive your wife crazy. In this episode, Connor and Scott get honest about the gap between wanting to help and actually owning your household. Connor shares the early-marriage kitchen moment that exposed how differently he and Shay see "clean," and Scott opens up about the night Haley snapped while scrubbing dishes — not because he wouldn't help, but because she had to ask. Together they unpack why "just tell me what to do" puts your wife in the role of project manager instead of partner, the invisible tasks she's carrying that you haven't even noticed (pediatrician appointments, shoe sizes, clothing swaps, diaper inventory), and what it actually looks like to go from "helping out" to co-owning your home. Plus: Scott's practical tip on starting with the stuff you both need — meals, groceries, meal prep — and just taking it off her plate without being asked. Anchored in Philippians 2:3–4 and the call to count others as more significant than yourself, this one will make you want to audit your own week. Fair warning: you might not love what you find.

Scripture Referenced: Philippians 2:3–4 · Ephesians 5:15–16 · Ephesians 5:25

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It now costs over $300,000 to raise a child in America. Let that satisfying number sit for a second. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott tackle the financial pressure that keeps new dads up at night — sometimes even more than the baby does. They break down how to make that massive number feel manageable, the needs-versus-wants conversation most couples never actually have, and the real tension between working overtime to fill the savings account or clocking out to make it home for bath time. Connor gets honest about finances never being his strong suit and playing catch-up as a young father, while Scott shares what it looked like to trust God's provision when he and Shay had next to nothing as newlyweds. Anchored in Matthew 6:31-32, this episode walks the line between practical budgeting and genuine faith — because prayer without action is wishful thinking, and action without prayer is just stress with a spreadsheet.

Scripture Referenced: Matthew 6:31-32 · James 2:26 · Hebrews 11:6 · Luke 12:15

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Two-thirds of couples say their relationship satisfaction tanks after having a baby. Two-thirds. So if you and your wife feel more like co-workers running a daycare than the people who fell in love — you're not broken, you're normal. But normal doesn't mean you stay there. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott get honest about the roommate phase that quietly takes over your marriage when a newborn moves in. Connor shares how a sermon on date nights exposed that every conversation had become about Beau, and Scott breaks down the Gottman Institute's four horsemen — contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling — and why scorekeeping is the gateway to all of them. They talk love languages as a practical tool (not just a buzzword), the spiritual reality that the enemy either hates your marriage or has learned to love it, and why Ephesians 5:25 isn't a suggestion — it's marching orders. If you haven't had a real conversation with your wife in weeks, this is your sign.

Scripture Referenced: Ephesians 5:25

No one satisfies you before the baby arrives and says, "Hey — the guy you've been for the last 25 years? He's gone now." But that's exactly what happens. In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott get brutally honest about the identity crisis that hits the moment your child is born. Connor opens up about the guilt spiral of wanting just five more minutes alone in a parking lot, and Scott shares how the anxiety of "everything just changed" hit him on day one. Together they unpack why grieving your old life doesn't make you ungrateful, how to reframe fatherhood as your highest calling instead of your biggest loss, and the difference between godly conviction and toxic shame. Anchored in 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Christ's call to daily die to self, this is the conversation every new dad needs but no one is having with him.

Scripture Referenced: 2 Corinthians 5:17 · 2 Corinthians 7:10 · Luke 9:23 · Luke 7:23

You're spending more time with your kids than your dad ever spent with you — and somehow the guilt is worse than ever.

Connor and Pastor Scott tackle the myth of the perfect dad head-on: where it comes from, why social media is lying to you, and why your kids don't need a flawless father. They just need a present one.

In this episode:

• Why 57% of parents report burnout — and what's actually driving it (Ohio State University, 2024)
• The science of "Dad Brain" — how fatherhood literally rewires your brain and why your role is irreplaceable
• Why consistency beats intensity every single time
• What it looks like to be a steady, predictable anchor in your kid's chaotic little world

Anchor Verse: "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." — 2 Corinthians 12:9

The world will tell you you're not enough. God says your weakness is exactly where He shows up.