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Nobody told Connor he was supposed to lead.

He was the one following Hailey to church while she went alone every Sunday. He was the one sitting at home, convinced he didn't need it. And then, somewhere between her consistency and his growing hunger for something more, the switch flipped — and suddenly the weight of spiritual leadership landed on his shoulders.

The problem? He didn't feel qualified. Not even close.

In this episode, Connor and Pastor Scott Stewart pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like to lead your family spiritually when you didn't grow up with a roadmap. No theology degree. No polished devotionals. No perfectly orchestrated family Bible time. Just two dads in the thick of it, figuring out how to bring God into the ordinary chaos of toddlers, marriage, and the daily grind.

Scott opens with Deuteronomy 6:6-7 — the ancient Shema that God gave His people as a command not just for themselves, but to pass through them to the next generation. The most heartbreaking verse in the Bible, Judges 2:10, sits right behind it: an entire generation that rose up and did not know the Lord. That's the stakes. That's the reason this conversation matters.

Connor gets real about the lies he believed: that Haley was more qualified, that his past disqualified him, that spiritual leadership had to look grand and polished to count. He talks about the Titus 10 Bible study on Lifeway.com that quietly rewired how he thought about being a man of faith. And he shares what leading actually looks like in his home — not forcing church on Beau and Haven, but playing worship music loud enough that his kids are singing Phil Wickham at lunch without being asked.

Scott brings it home: real leadership isn't the Instagram version of a stoic dad with his arms crossed. It's Ephesians 5 leadership. It's on-your-knees-in-the-nursery leadership. It's presence, intentionality, and a willingness to follow Jesus even when you feel like the least qualified man in the room.

If you've ever thought "I don't know enough to lead my family spiritually" — this episode is for you. You don't need to be a theologian. You just need to show up.

Scriptures referenced in this episode:

Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Judges 2:10
Titus 1
Ephesians 5