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There is a study Connor heard in college that he never forgot — and once you hear it, you won't either. Your daughter is most likely to marry a man who treats her the way her father treated her mother. That single truth is either one of the most motivating things a dad can hear, or one of the most sobering. Probably both.

In this episode, Connor and Scott get into what it actually looks like to raise a daughter with intention — not just telling her she's beautiful (though she is), but building something deeper. The kind of confidence that doesn't crack when a boy breaks her heart or the culture tells her who she's supposed to be. The kind of identity that's rooted in who God says she is, not what the mirror says.

Connor opens up about the pressure he already feels thinking ahead — the high school years, the first heartbreak, the moment some kid inevitably makes Haven cry — and how he's already trying to lay the foundation now, while she's still asking him to be Olaf and Kristoff in the living room. Because the groundwork you pour at two years old is the same groundwork she'll stand on at twenty-two.

Scott and Connor talk about:

• Why the way you treat your wife is the most powerful parenting tool you have
• How to affirm your daughter's character, courage, and identity — not just her appearance
• What it means to model healthy conflict so she never mistakes dysfunction for love
• The coming daddy-daughter days Connor is already planning for when Beau starts school
• Why Haven knowing she is a woman of God has to come before she ever hears it from a boy

The anchor verse for today is Proverbs 31:25 — "Strength and honor are her clothing, and she can laugh at the time to come." That's the woman you're raising. This is how you get started.

If you're a girl dad figuring this out as you go, this one's for you.

Scripture Referenced: Proverbs 31:25