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There is not a parent alive who hasn't felt it. The slow burn turning into a flash of heat. The voice that comes out louder than you meant. The moment after you lose your cool with your kid where you just... sit there.

Anger is one of the most universal experiences in fatherhood, and one of the most avoided conversations in Christian parenting spaces. Connor and Scott are done avoiding it.

In this episode, they get into the real stuff: the gentle parenting debate, the difference between righteous anger and sinful anger, and what happens in your body and your home when your toddler pushes every button you have. More importantly, they talk about what comes AFTER the moment you lose it. The repair conversation. The ask for forgiveness. The slow, humbling work of being a dad who comes back.

Anchored in James 1:19-20, "Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God," this episode is a permission slip and a practical guide for every dad who has sat on the bathroom floor wondering why he reacted that way.

Here is what Connor and Scott unpack:

Why anger is not always the primary emotion, and what is actually underneath it when you snap at your kid over a spilled cup or a stolen hose

The gentle parenting debate and why compassionate boundaries might be the framework you have been looking for

Why your child's tantrum is not the emergency, but your anger is

How to have the repair conversation with a toddler, a spouse, and yourself

The order of operations when conflict happens: your reaction comes first, the issue comes second

What James 1:19 is actually asking of you, and why the God who models slowness to anger is the same God who meets you in your worst moments

You are not a bad dad because you lost your cool. You are a dad who is paying attention. And that is exactly where growth starts.

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