Three Questions Every New Dad Should Ask God (And What Actually Happens When You Do)

What do you pray for when you become a father? Not the surface stuff—the real questions that keep you awake at 2am. In this episode, Connor sits down with Scott to tackle the three questions every new dad in the faith grapples with: How do I lead my family spiritually? How does God actually speak to me in this season? And why should I turn to God when I have my wife, my family, and my own strength?

Scott, a pastor navigating his own journey into fatherhood, shares what he discovered when he went to God asking for wisdom to care for his wife and lead his home. Spoiler: God's answer came through his wife telling him exactly what she needed. The conversation unpacks the difference between praying for wisdom and praying for answers—and why God often gives you something way more practical than you asked for.

You'll hear about the moment Connor realized his own anger with his kids, a real marriage repair conversation, and why the most direct way God speaks to new dads is often through the person right in front of you. Plus, Scott talks about the devotional he wrote while waiting for his son to be born—a moment of surrender that changed how he understood faith in the trenches of early fatherhood.

If you've ever wondered whether God actually cares about the mundane chaos of parenting, whether your prayers are being heard, or how to trust God when you're barely holding it together—this episode is for you.

Scripture references: Psalm 124, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Matthew 6:33

Mentioned: YouVersion Bible App devotional "Trusting God in the Unknown" by Scott Stewart

For Christian dads navigating newborn and toddler years. New to faith? Welcome. Doubting whether God actually shows up in parenting? This one's for you too.

Listen and share with a dad who needs to hear that he's not alone in this.

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You yelled at your toddler over something stupid. Now you're sitting on the bathroom floor feeling like the worst dad alive.

This episode is for you.

Connor and Scott tackle the thing nobody talks about: anger in fatherhood. Not your kid's tantrums—your anger. The moment you realize your voice got louder than it should have. The guilt that follows. And the question that haunts you: am I failing them?

Here's what we cover:

🔍 The truth about your anger: Your kid's tantrum is not an emergency. But your anger is. The order you deal with these things matters—and most of us get it backwards.

📖 James 1:19–20 as your anchor: "Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger." We unpack what this actually means at 2am when your toddler won't sleep for the 11th time.

💔 The bathroom floor moment: The repair conversation. Asking for forgiveness instead of offering a quick sorry. How to teach your kids that strong men admit when they're wrong.

🎯 Compassionate boundaries: It's not gentle parenting OR strict discipline. We discuss the middle ground that actually works—validating your kid's feelings while still having clear boundaries.

👨‍👦 Breaking the cycle: That moment you hear your dad's voice coming out of your mouth. Why staying calm is the single most powerful parenting move you have.

If you've lost your temper with your kids and questioned whether you're doing this right, this episode is a permission slip and a practical guide.

Because being a good dad doesn't mean never losing it. It means always coming back.

Listen and ask yourself: What's the anger really about? Then share this with a dad who needs to know he's not alone.

One in four dads experience paternal postpartum depression. One in four. So if you're in a room with three other dads, statistically one of you is walking through it right now — and probably hasn't told anyone.

In this episode, Connor gets as vulnerable as he's ever been on the show. He shares what happened when his son Beau was born and the instant connection everyone promises you would feel just… wasn't there. No rush of love. No "I'd die for this kid" moment. Just distance, frustration, and a growing spiral of "something is broken in me." He opens up about sitting in his wife's postpartum screening, silently answering yes to every question she was answering no to, and the car ride home where he finally said it out loud. He talks about asking his dad for help and getting back a well-meaning but useless "you'll figure it out." And he walks through the specific Christ-centered shift — a sermon, a reframing, a decision to see every moment with his son as a gift instead of a burden — that brought him out of the darkness.

Scott and Connor also talk honestly about when prayer alone isn't enough, why seeking professional help is not weakness, and why the most powerful thing a man who's been through counseling can do is tell another man he's been through counseling. Anchored in Galatians 6:2 and the call to bear one another's burdens, this episode exists for the dad who's Googling "is it normal to not feel connected to my baby" at 2 AM. You're not broken. You're not alone. And there's a way through.

Scripture Referenced: Galatians 6:2 · James 1:2–4

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