What happens when you realise you've spent years being who you thought you were supposed to be, but now you're not sure that's who you want to be?

I'm Haley Ryan, and welcome to season two of On Your Terms.

Each week, I sit down with someone who's started questioning the roles, expectations and ideas they've built their life around. We talk about who they thought they had to be, what stopped fitting, and what happened when they started making choices based on what they actually wanted.

These are honest conversations about the turning points, what those choices cost, and the parts we're still figuring out. Alongside occasional solo episodes, we'll talk about what it takes to stop looking outside yourself for the answers and start trusting yourself instead.

New episodes will release on Thursdays so follow On Your Terms wherever you listen.

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She had no word for what was happening to her. She only knew, standing in front of a camera at 18, that nobody had asked.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Rohne, silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author, to talk about what it means to grow up inside a culture where you are not a person but a possession in transit. What starts as a story about an arranged marriage photoshoot becomes a conversation about identity, survival, spiritual awakening, and what unconditional self-acceptance actually feels like when it finally arrives.

• Growing up in India with no sense of self to speak of: a daughter is not raised, she is groomed, trained in cooking and cleaning from the age of 13, and reminded constantly that her real home is her husband's house
• The photoshoot she thought was just for fun, and the moment halfway through when she realised her father had already decided her future without telling her
• Battling the caste system to marry for love, only to watch her husband switch back into arranged-marriage mode the moment his parents said yes
• Divorcing in secret in America with no family, no Indian friends who understood, and a father who told her never to come home when he found out
• The spiral that followed: alone in a foreign country, facing an unexpected pregnancy, believing she had failed at every role a woman was supposed to fill, and reaching the edge
• The moment of grace that changed everything: a wave of unconditional self-acceptance so overwhelming she thought she was having a psychotic break, and the stranger who called her back an hour later and said: "no, sweetheart, you're having an awakening"

This one isn't just about cultural expectations or survival. It's about what happens when you have spent your entire life being told you are not yours to keep, and the split second when you finally disagree.

About Rohne:

Rohne is a silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author of Realized: From Rock Bottom to Unconditional Love. Her memoir chronicles the first 33 years of her life and the silent war she was fighting inside one she did not have a name for until she was on the other side of it. She left India, left a marriage, and rebuilt her life from scratch in America, alone. Now she does the work she needed someone to do for her.

Connect with Rohne:

Instagram: @rohne.official

TikTok: @rohne.official

Realized on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/B0GYQ4CN4N

Book website: realizedbook.com

Coaching website: rohneofficial.com

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Please note: The show will be taking a mid season break and will be back in 6 weeks.

She spent decades doing everything to be needed. The one thing she never tried was being herself.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with JaHana Holloway, author, speaker, and healing-centred creative, to talk about what people-pleasing really looks like from the inside, and what it actually costs over a lifetime.

What starts as a story about growing up as the middle child in a single-parent home becomes a conversation about narcissism, self-abandonment, divorce, and the quiet courage it takes to hold your own healing when the people you were doing it for have all left.

• Growing up people-pleasing to manage a mother who was emotionally unavailable and a father who was absent, and carrying that straight into having her first child at 19 before she even knew those patterns had a name
• Why narcissists find people-pleasers the way sharks find blood, and how JaHana has gone from a 7-year marriage to spotting the red flags and cutting it off in 30 days
• The funeral she held for her marriage: not a divorce party, but an actual goodbye to the life she thought she was going to have
• Going from 30 years of people-pleasing to choosing herself, and watching people fall away left and right because they preferred the version of her that did everything for everyone
• Still sitting in the loneliness of that, still in her hometown where people see her as who she was rather than who she is becoming, and being honest about how hard that is
• Publishing two books from inside that loneliness, including a children's book called Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In, which is her own story told through a bird who never quite belonged

This one isn't just about people-pleasing or recovering from a toxic marriage. It's about what it means to have always been enough and never been able to see it, and what happens when you finally stop trying to make everyone else see it first.

About JaHana:

JaHana Holloway is an author, speaker, and healing-centered creative whose work is rooted in transformation, self-reflection, and emotional healing. Her poetry collection Metamorphosis uses her lived experiences as a bridge for others to feel seen, and her children's book Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In is her own story in disguise. She creates spaces for honest conversations about the parts of life we usually avoid, and invites people into the process of shedding, healing, and returning to who they truly are.

Connect with JaHana:

Website: linktr.ee/jahanaholloway

Facebook: JaHana Holloway

Instagram: @vibewithjahanna

TikTok: @vibewithjahanna

Threads: @vibewithjahanna

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She had a B in the class, two classes left to finish, and a family expecting her to graduate. She failed the final on purpose without realising it.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Lisa Gornall, spiritual medium, energy coach, author, and healer, to talk about what happens when your intuition is louder than your logic, and you finally stop arguing with it.

What starts as a story about leaving nursing school becomes a conversation about energy, burnout, boundaries, and learning to trust the inner knowing that has been guiding you all along.

• How a vision Lisa saw in sixth grade sent her down a nursing path for years, and why it turned out she had been watching a past life, not a future
• Sitting on a patient's bed, asking him what was really going on with his heart, realising she could never do the work she was called to do inside a hospital system
• Moving across the country pregnant, with no social media, no Zoom, and no clients, and building her business anyway in a city where nobody knew what coaching was
• Burning out twice, the second time tearing her Achilles, and what it finally took for her to stop running on empty and build a schedule that actually protects her energy
• Why she is never off, what it costs to be permanently reading energy in every room, and the boundaries she had to learn to keep her gifts from depleting her
• What she is still working through: watching her daughters date the wrong people and learning, finally, to say it once and then step back

This one isn't just about career pivots or spiritual gifts. It's about what it costs to keep ignoring your own knowing, and what becomes possible the moment you stop.

About Lisa:

Lisa Gornall is a spiritual medium, author, healer, and energy coach who has supported over a thousand women to transform their energy, relationships, and lives over the past two decades. Born with intuitive abilities that allow her to align and balance energy, she takes successful women from struggling to get through each day to genuinely thriving. Her books are available on Amazon, and her meditations are on YouTube. She believes you already have everything you need inside you.

Connect with Lisa:

Website: lisagornall.com

Instagram: @energycoachlisa

Facebook: Lisa Gornall

LinkedIn: Lisa Gornall

YouTube: Lisa Gornall

Books: amazon.com/author/lisagornall

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She didn't lose herself all at once. It happened quietly, over decades, until the woman in the mirror was a stranger.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Andrea Hinojosa, energy healer and founder of Pura Vida Wellness and Holistic Healing, to talk about what it costs to keep holding everything together when you have nothing left inside.

What starts as a story about a marriage and a divorce becomes a conversation about identity, shame, self-forgiveness, and what it means to rebuild your whole life from the ground up, twice.

• How Andrea spent 31 years slowly disappearing inside her marriage, choosing peace on the outside over truth on the inside, until the night she looked in the mirror and did not recognise herself
• Her daughter's suicide attempt becoming the moment that shattered the last of the performance, and finally sent Andrea inward rather than outward
• Losing everything to a cryptocurrency scam and how the shame of it was harder to survive than the financial loss itself
• Why forgiving yourself is not making excuses, it is the only way back to safety, and how Andrea had to learn that distinction while still in the middle of rebuilding
• The twin flame journey that preceded the scam and how it left her intuition blurred at exactly the wrong moment
• What she is still navigating: financial instability, the pull to control outcomes, and the daily practice of choosing light when darkness is walking right beside her

This one isn't just about loss or healing. It's about what happens when you have been stripped of everything, and whether you can find something worth keeping in what remains.

About Andrea:

Andrea Hinojosa is an energy healer and founder of Pura Vida Wellness and Holistic Healing. Through energy healing and deep transformational work, she helps people move out of survival mode and reconnect with inner safety, self-worth, and peace. Her work is rooted in lived experience, compassion, and the belief that true healing happens when the body finally feels safe enough to let go.

Connect with Andrea:

Instagram: @andreahinojosahealing

Website: puravidawellnessandholistichealing.comSubscribe & Share:

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She had the career that most people dream about. But she was also ending up in hospital and could not tell you why.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Anna Gryglewska, three times founder and creator of RAIS, SOULARA, and Elevated Collective, to talk about what it looks like when the life you always wanted quietly hollows you out.

What starts as a story about global events and corporate burnout becomes a conversation about overachieving as a survival strategy, and what it actually took to stop proving herself to a company that saw her as a number.

• Producing the Grammy Awards, the UEFA Champions League, and events across six continents while running on chronic migraines, neck pain, and zero vacation days, and genuinely not realising anything was wrong
• The moment a business coach broke down her hourly rate and she stared at it in silence, understanding for the first time what she had actually been trading her health for
• Burning out twice: once in corporate and once in entrepreneurship, because leaving the company does not mean leaving the pattern
• Hitting the darkest point of her career as a solo founder with no clients, no income, and a brother depending on her, and the unexpected text from a friend that became her lifeline
• Putting her second business on a shelf, going quiet, and discovering for the first time what it felt like to actually put herself first
• Still catching herself at 3am in a creative spiral, skipping meals, missing the gym, and learning to use self-talk to pull back before the pattern takes hold again

This one isn't just about burnout or building a business. It's about what happens when your greatest strength becomes the thing that is slowly destroying you, and how you learn to use it without letting it use you.

About Anna:

Anna Gryglewska is a three times founder redefining how women connect, gather, and grow in business. After 16 years producing global events including the Grammy Awards and UEFA Champions League, she shifted her focus from large-scale spectacle to intimate, intentional rooms where real relationships form. She is the founder of SOULARA, a platform for discovering transformational events worldwide, the creator of RAIS, an invite-only dinner series for women in business, and the producer behind Elevated Collective. Her mission is simple: get more women into the rooms that change things.

Connect with Anna:

Instagram: @anna_gryglewska

LinkedIn: Anna Gryglewska

RAIS Dinners: joinrais.com

Event Production: theelevatedcollective.co

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She had the husband, the house, the law career, and the minister's kid halo. She was doing everything right and slowly disappearing.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Heidi K. Brown, travel memoirist, former lawyer, and law professor, to talk about the lifelong cost of performing the perfect version of yourself.

What starts as a story about a marriage that looked flawless on paper quickly becomes a conversation about shame, self-abandonment, and what it actually takes to stop running from yourself long enough to find out who you are.

• How growing up as a minister's daughter taught Heidi that having needs was selfish, and how that belief followed her into her marriage, her career, and her 30s
• The miscarriage that became a wake-up call her body forced her to hear
• Walking away from everything at 30: husband, house, dogs, job, with $7 and no plan
• Why taking a mental health leave of absence from a World Trade Centre law office three months before 9/11 may have saved her life
• Repeating the same pattern in a different relationship for 8 years, and the moment she finally stopped contorting herself to be what someone else wanted
• The decade alone in her 40s that changed everything, and the Greek innkeeper who became her boyfriend

This one isn't just about divorce or reinvention. It's about what happens when you've spent a lifetime being everything to everyone, and what it costs to finally, slowly, become yourself.

About Heidi:

Heidi K. Brown is the author of the travel memoir The Map I Draw: A Memoir of Travel as a Passport to Self and three books on well-being for lawyers, including The Introverted Lawyer. A former construction industry attorney turned law professor, Heidi discovered solo travel at 43 on her first trip to Rome and never looked back. She writes about female solo travel on her Substack and is an internationally recognised speaker on self-empowerment, authenticity, and healthy performance. She lives in New York City and can be found writing books, taking boxing lessons, and jumping up and down at U2 concerts.

Connect with Heidi:

Website: www.heidikristinbrown.com

Instagram: @introvertedlawyer | @heidiographia

LinkedIn: Heidi Kristin Brown

Threads: @introvertedlawyer

TikTok: @heidiography

Substack: heidiography.substack.com

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She grew up a horse girl with no horses, with a single mum who sacrificed everything, and a body that started keeping score before she even knew what that meant.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Ali Green, a backcountry horse guide and brand new owner of Kirkwood Sierra Outfitters, to talk about what happens when you spend your whole life half-committed to yourself. What starts as a story about a childhood dream deferred quickly becomes a conversation about autoimmune disease, the cost of people-pleasing, and what it finally took to go all in on the life she always wanted.

• Growing up caught between who she was and who her mother needed her to be, and the years of conflict that followed
• How suppressing her dreams showed up in her body, and why choosing herself was the only thing that quieted her lupus flares
• Cutting ties with her mum to find herself, and what it took to rebuild that relationship on new terms
• Ten years working for other people before she finally asked: if I'm doing all this work anyway, why am I not doing it for myself?
• The real cost of going all in: romantic relationships that couldn't survive the lifestyle, saying no to friends, and learning to give herself grace on the hard days
• Why she is still learning to sit with uncertainty and stop creating monsters that don't exist yet

This one isn't just about horses or chronic illness. It's about what it costs to keep abandoning yourself, and what becomes possible when you finally stop.

About Ali:

Specialising in backcountry horse travel, Ali brings a balance of horsemanship, grit, and hospitality to her partnership with Kirkwood Sierra Outfitters. With more than a decade of experience wrangling, packing, and guiding across some of the West's most rugged landscapes, from the Tetons to the Gospel Hump Wilderness, she's built a reputation for calm competence and thoughtful stewardship for both people and stock. She loves sharing stories and making memories from the back of a good horse.

Connect with Ali:

Website: www.kirkwoodsierraoutfitters.com

Facebook: Kirkwood Sierra Outfitters

Instagram: @kirkwoodsierraoutfitters

LinkedIn: Alison Green

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