For 17 years, she was the one who had all the answers. Then her body, her mind, and her will to live finally said no.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Suri, licensed clinical social worker and founder of After the Burn Co., to talk about what happens when the person holding everyone else together completely falls apart. What starts as a story about leaving a religious community quickly becomes a conversation about the slow, invisible violence of self-abandonment, and what it finally took to choose life.

• Growing up as the golden child who kept everyone's secrets by being impossibly perfect, and how that became a life sentence
• Running a school of 700 students, raising 5 children, and managing millions in budgets while silently drowning, and why nobody saw it coming
• The moment she realised the self-care wasn't healing her, because you can't heal inside the thing that's hurting you
• Walking out the door not to leave her marriage or her community, but simply to stay alive
• The grief that doesn't go away: living states away from her children, re-breaking her own heart every time she says goodbye
• What burnout actually costs your brain long-term, and why she quit a $10,000 coaching programme and called it the best decision she ever made

This one isn't just about religious trauma or burnout. It's about what it means to finally choose yourself when everything and everyone you love is the price you pay.

About Suri:

Suri is a licensed clinical social worker and the founder of After The Burn Co. After years of helping others heal, building a successful business, and showing up as a community leader, she left a high-control religious community and became a full-time patient herself. She started her life over from scratch, building her world with authenticity and joy. Now she builds healing tools created from both sides of the therapy chairs.

Connect with Suri:

Website: www.aftertheburn.co

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aftertheburnco

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@aftertheburn.co

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