What happens when you realise you've spent years being who you thought you were supposed to be, but now you're not sure that's who you want to be?

I'm Haley Ryan, and welcome to season two of On Your Terms.

Each week, I sit down with someone who's started questioning the roles, expectations and ideas they've built their life around. We talk about who they thought they had to be, what stopped fitting, and what happened when they started making choices based on what they actually wanted.

These are honest conversations about the turning points, what those choices cost, and the parts we're still figuring out. Alongside occasional solo episodes, we'll talk about what it takes to stop looking outside yourself for the answers and start trusting yourself instead.

New episodes will release on Thursdays so follow On Your Terms wherever you listen.

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She had no word for what was happening to her. She only knew, standing in front of a camera at 18, that nobody had asked.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with Rohne, silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author, to talk about what it means to grow up inside a culture where you are not a person but a possession in transit. What starts as a story about an arranged marriage photoshoot becomes a conversation about identity, survival, spiritual awakening, and what unconditional self-acceptance actually feels like when it finally arrives.

• Growing up in India with no sense of self to speak of: a daughter is not raised, she is groomed, trained in cooking and cleaning from the age of 13, and reminded constantly that her real home is her husband's house
• The photoshoot she thought was just for fun, and the moment halfway through when she realised her father had already decided her future without telling her
• Battling the caste system to marry for love, only to watch her husband switch back into arranged-marriage mode the moment his parents said yes
• Divorcing in secret in America with no family, no Indian friends who understood, and a father who told her never to come home when he found out
• The spiral that followed: alone in a foreign country, facing an unexpected pregnancy, believing she had failed at every role a woman was supposed to fill, and reaching the edge
• The moment of grace that changed everything: a wave of unconditional self-acceptance so overwhelming she thought she was having a psychotic break, and the stranger who called her back an hour later and said: "no, sweetheart, you're having an awakening"

This one isn't just about cultural expectations or survival. It's about what happens when you have spent your entire life being told you are not yours to keep, and the split second when you finally disagree.

About Rohne:

Rohne is a silent emotional crisis expert, courage coach, and author of Realized: From Rock Bottom to Unconditional Love. Her memoir chronicles the first 33 years of her life and the silent war she was fighting inside one she did not have a name for until she was on the other side of it. She left India, left a marriage, and rebuilt her life from scratch in America, alone. Now she does the work she needed someone to do for her.

Connect with Rohne:

Instagram: @rohne.official

TikTok: @rohne.official

Realized on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/B0GYQ4CN4N

Book website: realizedbook.com

Coaching website: rohneofficial.com

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Please note: The show will be taking a mid season break and will be back in 6 weeks.

She spent decades doing everything to be needed. The one thing she never tried was being herself.

In today's episode, Haley sits down with JaHana Holloway, author, speaker, and healing-centred creative, to talk about what people-pleasing really looks like from the inside, and what it actually costs over a lifetime.

What starts as a story about growing up as the middle child in a single-parent home becomes a conversation about narcissism, self-abandonment, divorce, and the quiet courage it takes to hold your own healing when the people you were doing it for have all left.

• Growing up people-pleasing to manage a mother who was emotionally unavailable and a father who was absent, and carrying that straight into having her first child at 19 before she even knew those patterns had a name
• Why narcissists find people-pleasers the way sharks find blood, and how JaHana has gone from a 7-year marriage to spotting the red flags and cutting it off in 30 days
• The funeral she held for her marriage: not a divorce party, but an actual goodbye to the life she thought she was going to have
• Going from 30 years of people-pleasing to choosing herself, and watching people fall away left and right because they preferred the version of her that did everything for everyone
• Still sitting in the loneliness of that, still in her hometown where people see her as who she was rather than who she is becoming, and being honest about how hard that is
• Publishing two books from inside that loneliness, including a children's book called Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In, which is her own story told through a bird who never quite belonged

This one isn't just about people-pleasing or recovering from a toxic marriage. It's about what it means to have always been enough and never been able to see it, and what happens when you finally stop trying to make everyone else see it first.

About JaHana:

JaHana Holloway is an author, speaker, and healing-centered creative whose work is rooted in transformation, self-reflection, and emotional healing. Her poetry collection Metamorphosis uses her lived experiences as a bridge for others to feel seen, and her children's book Birds of a Different Feather: Too Bright to Fit In is her own story in disguise. She creates spaces for honest conversations about the parts of life we usually avoid, and invites people into the process of shedding, healing, and returning to who they truly are.

Connect with JaHana:

Website: linktr.ee/jahanaholloway

Facebook: JaHana Holloway

Instagram: @vibewithjahanna

TikTok: @vibewithjahanna

Threads: @vibewithjahanna

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