In this episode of Midlife Moxie, Nicole Hate explores the theme of reclaiming one's voice after years of silencing due to societal expectations. She discusses the impact of the 'Good Woman Industrial Complex' on women's self-expression and the importance of recognizing and excavating the truth that has been buried. Through personal anecdotes and actionable steps, Nicole encourages listeners to practice saying no, track their silences, and embrace their truth, ultimately empowering them to break free from the constraints of compliance and find their authentic voice.

Key Takeaways:

• Finding your voice is about excavating the truth you've been trained to bury.
• The Good Woman Industrial Complex wants women to be voiceless.
• Saying no is a complete sentence and a powerful act.
• Tracking your silences can reveal how often you betray yourself.
• Micro rebellions can help you practice self-expression.
• Asking yourself what you'd say if you weren't afraid can uncover your truth.
• Your discomfort with speaking is often about protecting others' feelings.
• Finding your voice can change every space you enter.
• Your voice gives permission to other women to speak their truth.
• The world needs women who speak truth like their lives depend on it.

Chapters

00:00 Excavating Your Voice

05:06 The Disease of Yes

09:23 Excavation Protocol for Your Voice

15:25 Finding Your Voice in Inconvenient Times

19:28 The Power of Speaking Your TruthJoin The Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...Join The Mailing List for Deeper Conversations - https://www.nicolehate.com/free-opt-in

In this episode of Midlife Moxie, Nicole Hate discusses the journey of self-discovery and empowerment for women, particularly those in midlife. She introduces the concept of the 'Good Woman Industrial Complex' and how it has led many women to bury their true selves. Through the metaphor of excavation, Nicole encourages listeners to reclaim their passions and desires, providing tools and insights to help them dig deep and uncover their buried selves. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community and support among women as they embark on this transformative journey.takeaways

• The surface world pressures women to conform and bury their true selves.
• Many women feel suffocated by their 'good lives' and forget their passions.
• Excavation is a metaphor for reclaiming one's identity and desires.
• The 'Good Woman Industrial Complex' instills fear of pursuing personal passions.
• Tools for excavation include revisiting childhood passions and granting self-permission.
• Women are encouraged to document their excavations and share with others.
• The journey of excavation is a personal revolution, not just self-improvement.
• Once you start digging, you can't ignore the buried parts of yourself.
• Community support is vital for women on this journey of self-discovery.
• The act of excavation empowers women to challenge societal norms and expectations.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Midlife Moxie

01:32 The Great Burial and Its Impact

04:44 Signs of an Excavator

05:56 The Excavator's Toolkit

11:37 The Call to Action

14:48 Invitation to Join the Excavation Community

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Are you exhausted from putting everyone else first? Drowning in guilt every time you consider your own needs? This episode is your permission slip to burn it all down.

In this raw, unfiltered conversation, Nicole Hate exposes how the word "selfish" has been weaponized against women to keep us small, accommodating, and spiritually depleted.

In this episode, you'll discover:✓ Why being called "selfish" might actually mean you're finally setting healthy boundaries✓ The difference between healthy selfishness and harmful selfishness (and why you need the first one)✓ How to reclaim your time without apologizing for it✓ Why protecting your energy in midlife isn't optional—it's survival✓ The radical act of honoring your desires after decades of self-abandonment✓ What happens when you stop being everyone's emotional convenience store

Perfect for you if:

• You're 40+ and tired of being everything to everyone but yourself
• Your body is staging a rebellion against the lie you've been living
• You feel guilty for having needs, wants, or boundaries
• You're ready to stop performing and start living
• The word "selfish" makes you physically uncomfortable

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This isn't your typical midlife empowerment fluff. This is identity rehab for women who are done bleeding out for everyone else.

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What if putting yourself first wasn’t selfish — but sacred?

In this soul-stirring episode of Midlife Moxie, host Nicole Hate challenges the worn-out script of self-sacrifice and invites you to step into radical self-prioritization. This isn't about spa days or bubble baths. It's about reclaiming your voice, your needs, your life — without apology.

Nicole shares personal stories and real-life client breakthroughs to illuminate the quiet crisis so many women face in midlife: invisibility. She hands you the permission slip no one else will and guides you through what it actually looks like to choose yourself — not someday, but today.

If you’ve ever felt like a background character in your own life, this one’s for you.

Key takeaways:

• Putting yourself first is not a luxury; it's essential.
• Prioritizing yourself is often seen as selfish, but it's necessary.
• Small, sustainable changes can lead to significant transformations.
• You deserve to reclaim joy and identity.
• Self-care is a radical act of rebellion.
• It's important to ask yourself what you need today.
• You don't need permission from others to prioritize yourself.
• Rest is a right, not a sign of weakness.
• Your life doesn't fall apart when you prioritize yourself; it begins anew.
• You matter simply because you exist.

Chapters

00:00The Radical Act of Putting Yourself First

06:09Reclaiming Your Identity and Joy

12:50The Power of Pausing and Self-Reflection

18:53Making the Decision to Prioritize Yourself

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In this episode of Midlife Moxie, Nicole Haight explores the feelings of discontent that often arise during midlife. She discusses the internal struggle many women face when they realize that despite having achieved societal milestones, they feel unfulfilled. Nicole emphasizes that this discontent is not a sign of failure but rather a wake-up call to rediscover one's true desires and potential. She encourages listeners to embrace this phase as an opportunity for growth and transformation, rather than viewing it as a crisis.

Key takeaways:

• You're not crazy, you're waking up.
• Midlife discontent is a divine alarm clock.
• It's not regret, but the tension of stillness.
• You may feel bored, but it's a sign of growth.
• Midlife isn't a crisis, it's a mirror of potential.
• You've outgrown your origin story.
• Striving is over, the truth has time to speak.
• You're not stuck; you're restarting.
• Allow the ache to guide you.
• Choose to not stay quiet about your feelings.

Chapters

00:00Understanding Midlife Discontent

03:01The Divine Alarm Clock of Midlife

05:49Embracing Potential in Midlife

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In this episode of Midlife Moxie, host Nicole Hate invites listeners to explore the journey of self-discovery and empowerment during midlife. She shares her personal experiences of feeling lost despite external success and emphasizes the importance of reclaiming one's voice and desires. The podcast aims to provide a space for women to navigate their midlife transformations with courage and humor, focusing on deep, sustainable change rather than quick fixes.

Key Takeaways:

• If you feel lost in your life, you're not alone.
• Midlife can be a time for awakening and self-discovery.
• It's important to reclaim your voice and desires.
• Transformation requires digging through layers of conditioning.
• Empowerment comes from prioritizing yourself and your needs.
• Moxie is about living authentically and vibrantly.
• The journey of midlife can be messy but rewarding.
• Women can support each other in their transformations.
• This podcast is about real conversations and insights.
• Deep change is more valuable than quick fixes.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to Midlife Moxie

02:03 Nicole's Journey to Moxie

05:45 Empowering Women Through Transformation

07:46 Navigating Midlife with Courage and Humor