On this Indigenous Peoples’ Day episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown start with the “where are you really from?” question and follow it into who gets to look and who gets looked at. Taina, who is Afro-Latina with Taíno roots, explains the difference between race and ethnicity, what separates Latin from Hispanic, and why self-identification is a form of resistance. It’s an intersectional feminist conversation about objectification, colonialism, and letting people name themselves.

In this episode, we get into:

• Why “What are you?” is never okay, and how to tell real curiosity from nosiness
• Taina’s PT appointment, and a lifetime of being mistaken for Egyptian, Indian, Dominican, and Middle Eastern
• “Clarity is kindness”: why a blunt question can be better than a covert one
• Intent vs. impact: how treating someone as a puzzle to solve strips their dignity
• Becky’s confession about staring at a trans woman in an airport 30 years ago, and what she’d do differently now
• Who gets the privilege to look and who becomes the spectacle, from Shane Gillis’s SNL “spandex” joke to the history of slave auctions
• Oppositional looking: refusing to look away, and why white women should stare at cops, not at the people they’re harassing
• Jordan Peele, Get Out, and horror that doesn’t center whiteness
• Latin vs. Hispanic, explained through Brazil, Guyana, Mexico, and Puerto Rico
• Race as a social construct that still shapes real lives, plus the “file folder” metaphor for identity, gender, pronouns, and reclaimed language

Timestamps

• 00:00 – Indigenous Peoples’ Day, Hispanic Heritage Month & Filipino American History Month
• 02:42 – Being mistaken for everything: growing up racially ambiguous
• 07:00 – “It’s really none of your business”: lessons from college
• 11:40 – Objectification, intent vs. impact, and human dignity
• 17:47 – Shane Gillis, SNL, and who gets to be the object
• 21:00 – Ways of Seeing, Stuart Hall & oppositional looking
• 25:01 – Stare at power, not at the oppressed
• 26:40 – Jordan Peele, Get Out, and horror that doesn’t center whiteness
• 29:41 – Why travel (or a new neighborhood) can radicalize white folks
• 36:10 – Race as a social construct, from slavery to ICE sweeps
• 40:41 – Latin vs. Hispanic: what’s the difference?
• 47:48 – How perception changes race: New York vs. Florida
• 49:17 – The Hyphenated Life, file folders & gender as a construct
• 53:02 – Capitalism and the myth of limited categories
• 56:50 – Refusing the file folder: queer identity & she/they pronouns
• 1:00:05 – Messy Liberation Circle open house (Oct. 15)

Resources mentioned:

• "Ways of Seeing" by John Berger: https://link.amazon/B05cwPa5S
• “The Whites of Their Eyes” by Stuart Hall: https://bpb-us-e1.wpmucdn.com/sites.psu.edu/dist/c/4578/files/2015/04/Hall-Whites_of_Their_Eyes_Full_Text.pdf?bid=4578
• “The Oppositional Gaze" by bell hooks: https://warwick.ac.uk/fac/arts/english/currentstudents/postgraduates/pgmodules/femlit/bell_hooks.pdf
• "The Hyphenated Life" by Han Ren: https://link.amazon/B03IkAQOr
• Messy Liberation Circle open house, Thursday, Oct. 15: https://bit.ly/4yjbTVW

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Content warning: This episode discusses SA and r*pe culture.

Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown of Messy Liberation unpack the Cornell sexual assault case, the group chat of 50-plus men who joked about it, and the rape culture that made it possible. This intersectional feminist conversation covers victim blaming, fraternity culture, consent, and why staying silent when your friends say harmful things makes you complicit. It also covers how misogyny hurts men too.

In this episode, we get into:
• Taina's trip to Iceland for the Wicker premiere, and why the film's nameless characters make it a feminist fable without being Barbie-style feminism
• The pneumonic plague case in Russia: why panic isn't the answer, and why access to antibiotics should be universal
• The Cornell case: what to call it, and why "rapist" sounds like a job title
• Fraternity culture, hazing, and why consent under duress isn't consent
• Kendall Francis speaking out at LSU, and campus-wide warnings to "stay home" instead of telling men not to rape
• Why men need to stop talking about "training their daughters" and start calling out their friends
• How misogyny hurts men: male sexual assault, shame, and the cycle of harm
• The group chat as a permission structure, and complicity in the Nolan Wells case
• Asking vs. demanding: liberal feminism, "hearts and minds," and why willful ignorance is violence
• White educators, unconscious bias, and why "no one's paying me to learn" is an excuse

Timestamps
00:00 – Taina's back from Iceland: the Wicker premiere at the Reykjavik International Film Festival
07:01 – Pneumonic plague in Russia: why we'll (probably) be okay
15:20 – The Cornell case and what to call it (content warning)
21:13 – Fraternity culture, hazing, and consent under duress
24:09 – Kendall Francis and the LSU case
27:05 – Victim blaming: she's allowed to drink, and she's allowed to say no
31:35 – Misogyny hurts men: sexual assault, shame, and silence
37:15 – The 50 in the group chat: permission structures
41:08 – Nolan Wells and why the getaway driver is complicit
44:53 – Asking vs. demanding: MLK, Malcolm X, and liberal feminism
51:38 – White educators and unconscious bias
53:51 – Why we keep having heavy conversations (and a note on consent from the Hasan Piker episode)
55:19 – Join us: the Messy Liberation Circle and our free October 15 event

Resources mentioned
• "More Salt Than Diamond" by Aline Mello: https://bookshop.org/a/93627/9781524871024
• Previous episode: "Is Violence Part of Liberation? Breaking Down Hasan Piker, MSNow, and Palestine": https://messyliberation.com/hasan-piker-palestine/
• Free October 15 author event with Aline Mello: https://taina-m-brown.myflodesk.com/messy-lib-open-house
• Messy Liberation Circle: https://messyliberation.com/community/

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On this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown share their feminist origin stories: how each of them came to see the white supremacist capitalist patriarchy, and what unlearning and relearning has looked like since. Taina talks about getting fired from her evangelical church and finding intersectional feminism at a women's college. Becky traces her path from "we don't see color" white feminism to Ferguson, bell hooks, and coming out as pansexual.

In this episode, we get into:

• What "unlearning and relearning" means, and why it looks so different depending on your identities
• Getting fired from a church, and how churches run like any other exploitative workplace
• A congregation with "90 nations represented" and white men at the top
• Why "my Black friend voted for Trump" isn't a real argument, and how internalized oppression works
• Taina's move from evangelical faith to women's studies, and the three readings that gave her language for what she'd lived
• Where intersectionality actually came from: Kimberlé Crenshaw's legal scholarship
• Becky's mom, colorblind second-wave feminism, and what happened when Becky brought home a Black boyfriend
• White saviorism, campaigning for Obama, and the disillusionment afterward
• Ferguson, bell hooks, Audre Lorde, and starting a feminist reading group
• Being queer before you know you're queer, internalized homophobia, and no longer feeling like you're co-opting a community that's yours

Timestamps:

• 01:00 – Origin stories, and why our journeys look different
• 02:53 – Growing up evangelical
• 04:33 – "I didn't think racism was still a thing"
• 07:15 – Holding an identity doesn't protect you from internalizing oppression
• 10:00 – An intense friendship and the first signs of queerness
• 12:30 – The three classes that changed Taina's life
• 16:34 – Leaving the church: "People are flawed, but God isn't"
• 23:21 – Becky's origin story: raised outside religion
• 26:02 – Second-wave feminism and "we don't see color"
• 29:38 – White savior complex and campaigning for Obama
• 32:38 – Ferguson and the murder of Michael Brown
• 36:31 – Our pansexual identities
• 42:37 – You don't need a PhD to belong

Resources mentioned:

• Paula Gunn Allen, "Who Is Your Mother? Red Roots of White Feminism"
• The Seneca Falls Convention and the Declaration of Sentiments
• The Combahee River Collective Statement
• "Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex" by Kimberlé Crenshaw
• "Feminism Is for Everybody" by bell hooks
• "Sister Outsider" by Audre Lorde
• "Pleasure Activism" by adrienne maree brown
• "White Feminism" by Koa Beck
• Our interview with Koa Beck
  

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On this episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown break down the viral Clock It interview where Symone Sanders Townsend pushed back on Hasan Piker for comparing US police-brutality protests to Palestinian resistance. They dig into what violence actually is, including poverty, discrimination, and state-sanctioned deprivation, why the nonviolence stories we're taught about MLK and Gandhi are incomplete, and how holding a marginalized identity doesn't exempt anyone from upholding the system.

In This Episode:
01:17 – The viral Clock It interview with Hasan Piker
02:41 – Hasan's argument: resistance to systemic violence always gets labeled differently
03:47 – Holding a marginalized identity doesn't exempt you from upholding the system
04:34 – The role of violence in revolutions and liberation movements
07:44 – Taina: "I'm tired of talking about this" (and why she's talking about it anyway)
08:20 – State-sanctioned violence becomes invisible because it's normalized
11:51 – "Have they never read Freedom Is a Constant Struggle?"
12:40 – US cops and campus security trained by the IDF — Taina's grad school at Georgia State
13:14 – George Floyd and the knee on the neck we all watched
14:55 – Liberal ≠ progressive: corporate media and who funds it
15:35 – The Hundred Years' War on Palestine and being done with "I don't know enough" as an excuse
17:07 – The disconnect between your identity and your understanding of liberation
18:13 – Gandhi, MLK, and the version of history taught inside a tiny bubble
19:41 – Respectability politics: be peaceful, be presentable, mind your tone
22:26 – Why the powers that be always negotiate with the most moderate voice in the room
23:30 – The one-hero narrative and how it dissolves collective action
27:16 – The myth of the perfect agitator
29:01 – Democrats vs. Hasan Piker, and the all-or-nothing loyalty test
35:03 – Ask yourself: what do you actually know about Hamas, and who told you?
38:36 – Public education as the system's most reliable tool
42:22 – To be clear: this isn't a call to violence, it's a call to understand what liberation involves
44:14 – Why "why?" is the most important question you can ask
46:35 – The rape-culture parallel: why didn't you fight back, why did you fight back
49:06 – Wrap-up and a real question for listeners

Resources Mentioned
• Hasan Piker on Clock It: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4lZ0SwPDEs
• Critique of Clock It episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CX3YshKpjE
• "The Hundred Years' War on Palestine" by Rashid Khalidi: https://link.amazon/B0bhg6Uic
• "Freedom Is a Constant Struggle" by Angela Davis: https://link.amazon/B029YDKo7
• "Original Sins: The (Mis)education of Black and Native Children and the Construction of American Racism" by Eve L. Ewing: https://link.amazon/B06y22SH7

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On this episode of Messy Liberation, hosts Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown break down Macklemore's public firing from Ed Sheeran's tour after he said "Free Palestine" on stage — and use it to dig into celebrity complicity, white feminism, and the real difference between Zionism and Judaism. From Robert Kraft's stadium pressure campaign to AIPAC's grip on Democratic politics to the actual cost of speaking out against genocide, Becky and Taina unpack what it looks like to choose a side when neutrality was never on the table.

In This Episode, We Get Into:

• Macklemore getting pulled from Ed Sheeran's tour after saying "Free Palestine" to 90,000 people, and reading his response statement live
• How Robert Kraft and other venue owners used stadium access as leverage to force Ed Sheeran's hand
• Why "I don't take sides" is itself a side, and Macklemore's line: "There is no neutral position between the oppressor and the oppressed"
• Pink's Instagram statement, her US Open outing with Elizabeth Banks and Amy Adams, and why it's a textbook white feminism case study
• What celebrities and public figures actually owe their audiences, the parasocial relationship and the responsibility that comes with a platform
• AIPAC money, the Wesley Bell/Cori Bush congressional race, and how Democrats fall in line on Israel funding
• Untangling Zionism from Judaism and anti-Zionism from antisemitism, and why conflating them silences critics
• The 5,000-signature Hollywood letter opposing the word "genocide," and who's cashing checks to stay quiet
• Mandy Patinkin, Holocaust parallels, and how dehumanization spreads once a society decides it's permissible for one group
• "Does Israel have a right to exist?", and a reframe (it exists, so now what?) that matters more than the debate itself
• A closing tangent on Jasmine Crockett sharing a stage with Chris Brown, and what it says about who we hold accountable

Timestamps:

• 00:21 – Setting up the episode: Macklemore, Ed Sheeran, Zionism, and genocide
• 02:09 – What actually happened on stage: "Free Palestine" and the fallout
• 03:10 – Pink's response and deleted comments
• 04:45 – Reading Macklemore's full statement: "I am not a victim"
• 06:23 – Robert Kraft, Gillette Stadium, and the stadium-owner ultimatum
• 08:27 – "There is no neutral position between the oppressor and the oppressed"
• 11:22 – Power, privilege, and how the GOP consolidates vs. how Democrats splinter
• 12:36 – AIPAC money and the Wesley Bell/Cori Bush race in St. Louis
• 15:44 – Pink at the US Open with Elizabeth Banks and Amy Adams
• 17:20 – Parasocial relationships and what celebrities owe their audience
• 27:28 – The 5,000-signature Hollywood letter denying the word "genocide"
• 30:39 – Mark Ruffalo, Tatiana Maslany, and who's actually showing up
• 33:54 – Holocaust parallels and how dehumanization spreads
• 39:40 – Zionism vs. Judaism: why they're not the same thing
• 41:36 – "Does Israel have a right to exist?" and why that's the wrong question
• 44:39 – Jasmine Crockett sharing a stage with Chris Brown
• 47:27 – Christian nationalism and the same system playing out in the US

Resources Mentioned:Pink's statement:

• Macklemore speaks out at Ed Sheeran concert: https://www.instagram.com/reels/Dc_bH4_N1FN/
• Pink's statement: https://www.instagram.com/p/DdKPJsVTvtl/?hl=en
• Macklemore's statement: https://www.threads.com/@macklemore/post/DdRduI8mxy9/media
• The 5,000-signature Hollywood open letter: https://www.creativecommunityforpeace.com/blog/2026/09/08/rejectlie
• Mandy Patinkin's empathetic plea: https://www.instagram.com/reels/DMJWZHVsXdH/
• Abdul El-Sayed on "does Israel have a right to exist?": https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1087558473698955

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Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown break down what actually makes a group of people a community — not just a paid membership or "safe space" buzzword. On this episode of Messy Liberation, they unpack why comfort and safety get conflated (especially by white women), why "we don't talk politics here" silences the most marginalized voices in a space, and what harm repair and restorative justice look like when done right. Plus: the stories of the best communities they've ever been part of, from a virtual event where a host let Resmaa Menakem rest mid-talk, to a nonprofit that gave staff the day off after a police shooting, to the friends who took Taina in when she was homeless.

Timestamps:
0:00 – Intro & follow-up from last episode
0:34 – Why "community" became a business buzzword
1:14 – Defining community: shared vision & culture-making
4:46 – Trust, "ride or dies," and the buzzword of "safe spaces"
7:07 – Feeling held vs. feeling safe
9:00 – Why community isn't about being safe for everyone
9:57 – Privilege, comfort, and what "safe" really means
11:23 – True crime, privilege, and the illusion of safety
12:06 – White women's tears: confusing comfort with safety
14:02 – "We don't talk politics here" and who gets silenced
18:19 – Threats to privilege vs. threats to safety
18:56 – 2016 & 2020: white coaches shutting down callouts
24:29 – Harm repair and restorative justice, set up front
28:18 – Communities that got it right: affinity spaces & chosen family
33:04 – Taken in when homeless: a story of real community
34:52 – Black spaces vs. white spaces: the difference in care
38:35 – The Resmaa Menakem story: modeling collective care live
43:29 – A nonprofit that gave everyone the day off
47:05 – The FEO community: emotional labor, race & accountability
54:51 – Recap: discomfort isn't unsafe, and harm repair matters
57:25 – Outro

• "My Grandmother's Hands" by Resmaa Menakem: https://amzn.to/4r3bsMh
• Rooted Global Village: https://rootedglobalvillage.com/

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On this episode of Messy Liberation, hosts Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown get real about climate grief, doomscrolling, and the nihilism that creeps in when disaster feels endless, sparked by the catastrophic Nepal glacier flood and reports of billionaires building bunkers to escape the mess they helped create.

Becky and Taina dig into the difference between staying informed and staying trapped in trauma, why our brains keep replaying footage that hurts us, and how community, agency, and joy become acts of resistance when the world feels like it's on fire. They close with a tribute to Dolly Parton and what her life proves about choosing love over hate.

In This Episode, We Get Into:
• Why the Nepal glacier flood hit so hard, and the "disaster movie" desensitization that makes real catastrophe feel unreal
• Billionaires building underground bunkers (complete with jails) instead of fixing the climate crisis they're profiting from
• The nihilism spiral: "what's the point" thinking and how it shows up differently before and after having kids
• The real difference between being informed and being engaged, and where that line gets crossed into doomscrolling
• Why our brains compulsively replay traumatic footage, and what that has to do with control and anxiety
• Survivor's guilt vs. privilege guilt, and how proximity to suffering (without living it) shapes our response
• The "crazy-making" feeling of watching people deny climate change in real time, and why that's a form of gaslighting
• Divesting from harmful systems vs. reducing our reliance on them, and what to do with the time and energy that frees up
• Surrender vs. submission: how accepting what you can't control can actually restore a sense of agency
• Why joy and grief can coexist, and why withholding joy doesn't prove you care more
• A tribute to Dolly Parton: her wealth given away, her quiet support of Black Lives Matter and the trans community, and what she proves about hate being a choice

Timestamps:
00:00 – Cold open: Becky's Care Bear mug and "which Care Bear are you"
02:51 – The Nepal glacier flood and why it feels almost unreal to watch
04:16 – Doomscrolling, repeated imagery, and the nihilism it triggers
05:14 – Billionaire bunkers (yes, with jails) and what that says about who's "prepared" for collapse
07:45 – Becky turns it over to Taina: restoring some faith in humanity
08:06 – Taina's approach to news consumption and staying "informed without engaged"
09:45 – Unpacking the real difference between informed and engaged
11:25 – How having kids changes the emotional weight of climate anxiety
12:47 – The compulsion to doomscroll and rewatch disturbing footage
16:30 – Why our brains keep seeking control through repetition
19:05 – Survivor's guilt vs. guilt born of privilege
20:00 – Divesting from harmful systems vs. reducing our need for them
21:32 – What you do with the space once you stop doomscrolling
22:25 – The "crazy-making," gaslighting feeling of climate denial
26:10 – The privilege of being disappointed by people in power
27:56 – Community as the antidote: who's in your corner
29:03 – Finding agency in the small, controllable things
31:07 – Surrender vs. control, and coming back to the present moment
33:50 – Acceptance vs. submission — the difference that matters
35:13 – Resilience as a practiced, ongoing skill, not a one-time fix
35:55 – Giving yourself permission to feel joy without guilt
37:52 – Dolly Parton's "rainbows and rain" quote and finding light in the dark
41:00 – Dolly's legacy: $600M given away, support for BLM and trans employees decades early
44:44 – Why Dolly is proof that hate is a choice
45:50 – Closing thoughts and sign-off

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On this episode of Messy Liberation, hosts Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown break down two viral advertiser fails (Callaway Golf's domestic-violence "joke" ad and Target's minstrel-show-evoking Halloween costume) to unpack what happens when corporate rooms lack real diversity and accountability. Through an intersectional feminist lens, they dig into DEI backlash, golf's history of racial and gender exclusion, the limits of individual boycotts, and why values that "blow with the wind" were never values at all.

In This Episode, We Get Into:
• A heartfelt tribute to Dolly Parton and what her life and legacy meant to both hosts
• The Callaway Golf ad that turned domestic violence into a punchline — and the immediate backlash from women online
• Target's clown/ghost Halloween costume and its uncomfortable echoes of minstrel-show imagery
• Why "diverse hires" without power or context don't actually prevent harm
• The difference between real values and values that shift with politics or profit
• Golf's long, ugly history of excluding women and Black golfers, and what the current participation numbers really show
• Whether corporate apology tours ("this doesn't reflect our values") mean anything at all
• The limits of individual boycotts vs. collective political power
• What small business owners can actually do differently (hint: it's not a fancy DEI program)
• Drones, robot armies, and what stripping empathy from warfare has to do with stripping humanity from marginalized people

Resources Mentioned:
• OpenSecrets.org
• Democratic Socialists of America (DSA): dsausa.org
• Working Families Party: workingfamilies.org

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