We ended this season with style, substance, and no shortage of side-eye as we celebrated identity, fashion, community, and trans resilience. From Black dandyism to queer travel safety tips, and a healthy dose of real talk—you already know we came ready.

Show Notes:

• Hosts: Felicia “Fefe” Minor and Freddy Prinze Charming

Housekeeping:

• Join our Patreon: patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

• Exclusive merch drops available—stickers, mugs, tees, and totes

• Huge thanks to our patrons and sponsor WigsofaKind for their support this season

Let’s Talk About Us:

• Freddy:

  • Long night in Tucson

  • Weekend rehearsals

  • Started watching Poly Family

• Felicia:

  • Got her first Cameo request

  • Watched the Met Gala live for the first time

Just the Tip – ALL THE TIPS (Season Finale Edition):

• Tapping into Your Inner Dandy:

  • Style as self-expression, especially within the Black community

  • How Black dandyism evolved as resistance and identity

  • Ways to elevate your fashion game: tailoring, accessories, color, and confidence

  • This year’s Met Gala theme celebrated Black dandyism with stunning results

• Trans History Week:

  • Highlighted influential trans pioneers including Dora Richter, Dr. Alan Hart, Lou Sullivan, and Coccinelle

  • Honoring the legacy and impact of trans individuals in medicine, activism, and law

• Traveling While Trans and/or Queer:

  • U.S. carries a “Do Not Travel” advisory for trans individuals—safety matters

  • High-risk states include TX and FL

  • Tips for staying safe while on the road:

    • Keep ID documents current

    • Avoid solo long drives through high-risk areas

    • Share your location, stick to well-lit stops, and have a travel buddy

    • Trust your instincts—remove yourself from unsafe situations

A Closer Look at Current Events:

• Import tariffs driving prices up—145% increases on apps like Temu and SHEIN

• George Santos sentenced to 7+ years for fraud and identity theft

• Trump vs. Bezos: Amazon exposes tariff costs, and Twitler is mad

• Men are shaving off eyelashes because... masculinity?

• RFK Jr. says fluoride lowers IQ—what are we even doing

• Poland repeals final “LGBT-free zone”

• Harvey Fierstein to receive Lifetime Achievement Tony

• Met Gala raised $31 million for Black fashion history

• Former Memphis officers acquitted in Tyre Nichols’ death

• India-Pakistan tensions escalate with deadly missile strikes

Upcoming Shows & Events:

• May 16 – Drag Bingo + Cats at PHX Cat Cafe

• May 24 – Drag Story Hour AZ Annual Fundraiser (20% off with promo code)

• May 29 – Drag Bingo at Drink Me! Tea Room

• June 5 – Second Annual MPI AZ Drag Bingo at Warehouse 215

• June 6 – PFF Dragstravaganza (free with con pass)

• June 7–8 – Drag Story Hour AZ at Phoenix Fan Fusion

• September 4 – Sex Trivia returns to Gracie’s Tax Bar

End of Show:

• Thank you for an incredible Season 13

• Special thanks to our live viewers, replay watchers, and podcast listeners

• Over 15,000 downloads and growing

• See you soon for more honest, bold, fabulous conversations on Live! with Fefe & Freddy

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On this episode of Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we were joined by the stunning and insightful Kristofer Inez Onyx, current Gay America Esquire 2025. We got into his pageant journey, what it means to serve with purpose, and how he's using his platform to uplift community. We also had some real talk about trust, transparency, and emotional maturity in queer spaces. And yes—this week’s Just the Tip was one to remember.

Show Notes:

• Hosted by Felicia “Fefe” Minor and Freddy Prinze Charming

• Special guest: Kristofer Inez Onyx

  • Gay America Esquire 2025

  • Shared his journey in national pageantry and what motivates him to lead with intention

  • Talked about emotional intelligence, community building, and representation in the LGBTQ+ pageant world

• Housekeeping:

  • Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

  • Merch available for patrons at all levels—stickers, mugs, tees, totes

  • Thanks to our Patreon supporters and season sponsor, WigsofaKind

• Let’s Talk About Us:

  • Freddy

    • Attended his kid’s school play

    • Rehearsals for Phoenix Fan Fusion

    • Yard work and pig house progress

  • Felicia

    • Hosted Drag Bingo at Drink Me! Tea Room

    • Reconnected with a group of birthday queens all born the same month and year—what a vibe

• Just the Tip:

  • Topic: How to build—and rebuild—trust

  • Trust requires consistency, not just apologies

  • Red flags, accountability, and learning how to move forward without rushing resolution

  • What transparency looks like in friendships, relationships, and community spaces

• Upcoming Shows & Events:

  • May 2 – Entice Burlesque in Tucson

  • May 16 – Drag Bingo + Cats at PHX Cat Cafe

  • May 24 – Drag Story Hour Arizona Annual Fundraiser (20% off with promo code)

  • May 29 – Drag Bingo at Drink Me! Tea Room

  • June 5 – MPI AZ Drag Bingo at Warehouse 215

  • June 6 – PFF Dragstravaganza (free with Phoenix Fan Fusion badge)

  • June 7–8 – Drag Story Hour AZ at Phoenix Fan Fusion

  • September 4 – Sex Trivia Night returns to Gracie’s Tax Bar

• End of Show:

  • Huge thanks to Kristofer Inez Onyx for joining us and sharing his brilliance

  • Shoutout to our live viewers, replay watchers, and podcast listeners

  • 15,000+ downloads and still growing

  • Join us next week for YOUR Wednesday night conversation

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This week on Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we were joined by artist, leatherman, and all-around creative powerhouse Erick Turner. We talked about artistic expression, queer identity, and the power of telling authentic stories through art. Plus, we unpacked this week’s chaos in politics, tech scandals, and some moments that made us go, “is this real life?”

Show Notes:

• Hosted by Felicia “Fefe” Minor and Freddy Prinze Charming

• Special guest: Erick Turner

  • Artist, leatherman, and founding member of Open Circle Art Collective

  • Shared updates on his erotic art show and how his work reflects leather culture, body politics, and queer joy

  • Talked about artistic evolution, influence, and pushing boundaries while staying grounded in community

• Housekeeping:

  • Support the show on Patreon at patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

  • Exclusive merch for patrons: stickers, mugs, shirts, totes

  • Thank you to our patrons and season sponsor WigsofaKind

• Let’s Talk About Us:

  • Freddy

    • Hosted Sex Trivia Thursday

    • Family dinner in Apache Junction and officially adopted Dee into the fam

    • Rehearsals and pig house project over the weekend

  • Felicia

    • Helped host Sex Trivia at Gracie’s

    • Easter weekend was mellow

    • Doctor visit and a nail refresh

    • Stayed home with a sick kid on Monday

• A Closer Look at Current Events:

  • Signal app security: how it's being used by government officials to avoid transparency

  • Defense Secretary shared sensitive information in Signal chats with his wife, brother, and attorney

  • Trump refused to declare Arkansas a disaster zone after tornadoes—leaving victims without aid

  • Elon Musk officially dropped DOGE and returned to Tesla after the brand started unraveling

  • Trump’s Easter message focused on the “radical left,” ignoring the actual holiday

  • Pope Francis passed away, raising uncertainty about the future of the Vatican

• Upcoming Shows & Events:

  • April 24 – Drag Bingo at Drink Me Tea Room

  • May 2 – Entice Burlesque in Tucson

  • May 24 – Drag Story Hour Arizona Annual Fundraiser (use promo code for 20% off tickets)

• End of Show:

  • Thanks to everyone who joined us live or listened later

  • Over 15,000 podcast downloads and counting

  • We’ll see you next Wednesday for YOUR Wednesday night conversation

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Episode Summary:
On this episode of Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we explored the do’s and don’ts of communicating with polyamorous folks, shared weekend updates from our Drag Bingo adventures, and gave our take on what it means to speak with respect in queer, consensual spaces. Plus, we celebrated women in space, reflected on representation in pop culture, and reminded everyone—again—that polyamory is not your punchline.

Show Notes:

• Hosted by Felicia “Fefe” Minor and Freddy Prinze Charming

• Key discussion topics:

  • What NOT to say to a poly person or couple

  • Respecting communication and boundaries in polyamorous relationships

  • Misconceptions around polyamory, group sex, cheating, and emotional connection

  • The importance of curiosity, not assumptions, when exploring ethical non-monogamy

• Housekeeping:

  • Get exclusive content, merch, and early access on Patreon: patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

  • Merch includes stickers, mugs, t-shirts, and totes at all tier levels

  • Thank you to our amazing patrons and season sponsor, WigsofaKind

• Let’s Talk About Us:

  • Freddy: Drag Bingo at Shea Cheese was a blast

  • Felicia: Reconnected with old friends at Shea Cheese and enjoyed the vibe, despite some guests dipping during blackout round

  • Sunday was a reset day prepping for a busy week

• Just the Tip: How NOT to Talk to a Poly Person or Couple

  • “I wasn’t looking for anything serious anyway” – no thanks

  • “Where’s my orgy invite?” – inappropriate

  • “Who’s your favorite partner?” – not how this works

  • “Don’t tell my partner I’m poly” – that’s cheating, not poly

  • “Isn’t one partner enough?” – polyamory isn’t about lacking, it’s about love

  • “Are you going to settle down?” – this isn’t a phase

  • “Who has sex with who?” – not your business

  • “Can I join you guys?” – we’re not taking applications

  • “Oh, like Sister Wives?” – please stop

  • “What about your kids?” – what about them?

  • “Do you get jealous?” – we work through it, just like anyone else

• A Closer Look at Current Events:

  • All-woman flight crew took a 10-minute flight 66 miles above Earth

  • Backlash included criticism over cost and performative messaging

  • Highlighted contrast with real women losing jobs at NASA

  • Harvard pushes back against dismantling diversity programming

  • Celebrating representation:

    • 30th anniversary of A Goofy Movie

    • Mary J. Blige’s My Life added to the National Recording Registry

    • Larry Fitzgerald Jr.’s impact through youth STEM programs and startup investments

• Upcoming Shows & Events:

  • April 17 – Sex Trivia at Gracie’s Tax Bar

  • April 24 – Drag Bingo at Drink Me Tea Room

  • May 24 – Drag Story Hour AZ Annual Fundraiser (use code for 20% off)

• End of Show:

  • Thank you to our live viewers and podcast listeners

  • Over 15,000 downloads and growing

  • Join us next week for YOUR Wednesday night conversation

Listen on Facebook, YouTube, Twitch, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Episode Summary:
In this episode of Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we dive into con-sent (yes, we went there), Madame Askew and Eve Riot join us to discuss bad influencers at conventions, and share updates from the Southwest Love Fest.

Show Notes:

• Hosted by Felicia “Fefe” Minor and Freddy Prinze Charming

• This week’s themes:

  • Con-sent and influencer etiquette

  • Bad behavior in steampunk spaces

  • How NOT to review a convention

  • Social media clout vs. community respect

• Patreon shoutouts and exclusive merch reminder

  • patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

  • Merch available for patrons at every level, including stickers, mugs, t-shirts, and tote bags

  • Huge thank you to WigsofaKind for supporting Season 13

• Freddy’s update:

  • Worked a gig for his partner

  • Produced the glow party at Southwest Love Fest

  • First gym visit since the pandemic

• Felicia’s update:

  • Southwest Love Fest, returned to DSH, and performed at Majik at Stacy's at Melrose.

Segment: Just the Tip – A Bad Influence(r)

• Commentary on an influencer’s out-of-touch review of a steampunk convention

• Broke down their content, lack of community interaction, and disregard for con etiquette

• Highlighted the importance of respecting fan spaces and not exploiting them for views

• Discussed the value of creativity, connection, and understanding when participating in niche fandoms

Upcoming Shows & Events:

• April 12 – Drag Bingo at Shea Cheese

• April 17 – Sex Trivia at Gracie’s Tax Bar

• April 24 – Drag Bingo at Drink Me Tea Room

Closing:

• Thank you to our viewers, listeners, and guests

• Over 15,000 podcast downloads and growing

• See you next week for YOUR Wednesday night conversation

Listen to the full episode on Facebook, YouTube, Twitch, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app.

Live! with Fefe & Freddy – Episode 21 Show Notes
Season 13, Episode 21 – April 2, 2025

Episode Summary
Welcome back to YOUR Wednesday night conversation! This week on Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we’re talking about:

• Weddings

• Conventions

• And more!

Plus, our special guest joins us to share their experiences and insights.

Housekeeping & Announcements

• Get VIP access to exclusive content on Patreon: patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

• New exclusive merch drops! Join at different membership levels to snag stickers, mugs, t-shirts, and totes.

• A special shoutout to our amazing patrons, including Brandon, Cassandra, Chris and Michelle, Dee, Drake Jensen and Michael, KC Starr, Kerry & Kori, Joan, Laura, Lee-ann, Madam Askew and the Grand Arbiter, Nicole, Patricia Mason, Shannon, and William.

• Huge thanks to WigsofaKind for supporting this season!

Weekend Recap
Freddy:

• Attended Night of Trans and Nonbinary Joy – brought daughter, snagged books.

• First rehearsal for PFF.

Felicia:

• Attended Night of Trans and Nonbinary Joy but forgot costumes.

• Playdate on Sunday.

Just the Tip – How to Plan a Wedding in Four Days

• Venue: Consider a park gazebo or a small indoor space.

• Food: Snacks, cheese, meats, and cupcakes can work in a pinch.

• Photography: Encourage guests to take photos and upload them to a shared drive.

• Clothing: Budget-friendly options at stores like Ross or borrowing from friends.

• Last-minute purchases: Amazon for plates, napkins, and flutes.

Current Events

• WTF?! Elon Musk sells Twitter... to himself.

• TikTok Ban: Another potential ban incoming, with Trump working to find U.S. investors.

• Tariffs: Trump announces at least a 10% tariff on nearly all imported goods, with 25% on foreign cars.

• Wisconsin Elections: Voters elect a Democratic state supreme court judge, shifting the balance of power.

• Health News: Actor Val Kilmer passes away at 65 due to pneumonia complications.

• U.S. Budget Cuts: 23 states suing over $11+ billion in public health funding cuts.

Guest Spotlight

• Who they are, what they do, and upcoming projects.

• Their experience in Arizona.

• Where to follow and connect with them.

Upcoming Events & Shows

• April 5: Southwest Love Fest Block Party

• April 6: Majik! at Stacy’s at Melrose

• April 12: Drag Bingo at Shea Cheese

• April 17: Sex Trivia at Gracie’s Tax Bar

• April 24: Drag Bingo at Drink Me! Tea Room

Upcoming Guests

• More announcements on Patreon.

• In talks with: Kristofer Inez Onyx (Mr. Gay America), Chris Barrows (Table Top Express, Why I Social Podcast), Eric Thurnbeck.

Thank You & Closing

• Special thanks to guest Christine Vibrant for joining us!

• Thanks to our live viewers and podcast listeners—over 15K downloads and growing!

• See you next week for YOUR Wednesday night conversation!

Listen to the full episode now on your favorite podcast platform!

We’re back with another episode of Live! with Fefe & Freddy! Get ready for an exciting discussion about weddings, conventions, and the latest headlines.

Support the Show

• Get exclusive content on Patreon: patreon.com/livewithfefeandfreddy

• Special shoutout to our amazing patrons, including Brandon, Cassandra, Chris, Michelle, Dee, and more.

• A big thank you to WigsofaKind for supporting this season!

Freddy’s Wedding: Planning in Four Days

• Deciding on a small, intimate wedding.

• Choosing a budget-friendly venue and simple catering options.

• Finding outfits quickly—creative and affordable solutions.

WWWC Recap: What Really Happened?

• Freddy’s performance and audience reactions.

• Media coverage from Phoenix and Tucson.

• Setting the record straight on event narratives.

Current Events

• Politics:

  • Controversy around government war plans leaked via Signal chat.

  • Calls to defund NPR and PBS—why it matters.

  • Florida’s push for child labor law changes.

• World News:

  • The Second Lady’s Greenland visit—what went wrong?

Upcoming Shows & Events

• March 29: A Night of Trans and Nonbinary Joy

• April 5: Southwest Love Fest Block Party.

• April 6: Majik! at Stacy’s at Melrose.

• April 12: Drag Bingo at Shea Cheese.

• April 17: Sex Trivia at Gracie’s Tax Bar.

Thank You for Tuning In!

• Watch us live every Wednesday at 8 PM MST/Arizona time on Facebook, YouTube, and Twitch.

• Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!

This week on Live! with Fefe & Freddy, we broke down the complexities of the trans umbrella, tackled the latest Dump Truck politics, and called out misinformation surrounding gender identity. From explaining trans identities to dissecting the absurdity of Trump’s Tesla takeover, this episode brought truth, humor, and real talk to your Wednesday night conversation.

Key Takeaways:

• The Trans Umbrella:

  • What it really means to be transgender and why there’s no such thing as “not trans enough.”
  • The difference between being trans, nonbinary, a drag performer, and a cross-dresser.
  • Why hormones and surgery are not required for someone to be “really” trans.
  • A history lesson on nonbinary genders that have existed for centuries.

• Current Events:

  • Arizona Supreme Court’s AI court reporters—because nothing says justice like a robotic narrator.
  • Trump turns the White House into a Tesla dealership and urges MAGA fans to buy stock after prices plummet.
  • Trump labels violence against Tesla dealerships as domestic terrorism, despite previous right-wing anti-EV sentiments.
  • Canada retaliates against U.S. tariffs by slapping a 25 percent surcharge on electricity sold to northern states.

• Politics:

  • The Arizona Legislature continues its attack on LGBTQ+ rights and reproductive healthcare.
  • The push for policies that strip away trans protections and limit access to medical care.

Personal Updates:

• Freddy:

  • Took a weekend off from everything.
  • Hosted Drag Story Hour at Brick Road Coffee.

• Felicia:

  • Celebrated a family birthday party.
  • Attended Story Hour on Sunday.

Upcoming Events:

• No Live Show Next Week.
• March 20 – Trivia Night: Broadway Edition at Drink Me Tea Room.
• March 21 – Tricks & Treats: A Drag and Burlesque Show at Wild Wild West Con.
• March 29 – More details coming soon.
• April 5 – Southwest Love Fest Block Party.
• April 6 – Majik! at Stacy’s at Melrose.
• April 12 – Drag Bingo at Shea Cheese.
• April 17 – Sex Trivia at Gracie’s Tax Bar.

Watch or Listen:

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