Charlotte Gilliam is a learning support assistant. She has a longterm male partner and a five-year-old daughter. She realised she was bisexual after developing feelings for a woman when she was in her late 20s. Her partner has supported her coming out and she has found friendship and community in a gay choir.

Charlotte talks about bisexual invisibility, the joy of attending Pride with her partner and daughter, and how singing connects her to her identity, her found family and the LGBTQIA+ community as a whole.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Charlotte suggests joining a gay choir or theatre group. She loves Thames Valley Gay Chorus. You can also find out about gay choirs across the UK via the Proud Voices network.

Late in the Gay is a ⁠⁠Substack⁠⁠, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a ⁠⁠Sunday Substack⁠⁠ - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a ⁠⁠Wednesday events Substack ⁠⁠- 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook ⁠⁠@lateinthegay⁠⁠

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced and edited by George Boucher

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Chase Rodriguez is a fitness instructor, mum and roller derby skater. Growing up in a religious family, she believed her attraction to women was sinful. Chase married and had children but later came out during her divorce proceedings.

Chase was drawn to the roller derby community after seeing the film Whip It! She loves how the sport helps her physical and mental health. Being part of a team with other LGBTQIA+ members helped her embrace her true self and find her tribe. Chase talks about queer sports, Pride and how coming out feels like coming home.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Chase suggests seeking out queer sports groups, from spectator communities to teams. You can find out more about UK roller derby from the WFTDA and Five Nations Roller Derby.

Late in the Gay is a ⁠Substack⁠, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a ⁠Sunday Substack⁠ - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a ⁠Wednesday events Substack ⁠- 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook ⁠@lateinthegay⁠

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced and edited by George Boucher

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Georgie Shore is a service management professional and photographer. She grew up in an era without trans visibility or role models. A conversation with her grandson about honesty made her realise it was time to be true to herself. Georgie talks about family, community and self-acceptance.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Georgie suggests moving at your own pace and seeking out local support groups. She loves LGBTQIA+ charity Support U and Reading Pride.

Late in the Gay is a Substack, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a Sunday Substack - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a Wednesday events Substack - 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook @lateinthegay

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced, recorded and edited by Pineapple Audio Production

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mr Brake Down is a drag king, actor, singer and the founder of The Upside Down Cabaret. Joining a LGBTQ+ choir helped him become the man he was born to be. Brake talks about the drag community, poking fun at masculinity and patriarchy, and how trans people are getting on with their lives joyfully.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Brake suggests looking for LGBTQ+ spaces, whether that’s a book group, a choir or a cabaret night. He also loves transgender charities Mermaids, Sparkle, Not A Phase and Trans Without Abuse, especially the work of Debbie Cannon, and the work of non-for-profit The Good Law Project.

Late in the Gay is a Substack, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a Sunday Substack - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a Wednesday events Substack - 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook @lateinthegay

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced, recorded and edited by Pineapple Audio Production

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sandra Watson is a hair colour artist and the director of Koloured Ltd. She has two grown up children and, following her divorce, chose the ‘women’ option on a dating app. Sandra talks about the importance of finding your chosen family and the joy of meeting other black queer women. She also talks about racism in Britain, wanting ‘comrades not allies’ and why it’s never too late to come out.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Some of the groups Sandra loves include queer women’s Meetups and Black Pride.

Late in the Gay is a Substack, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a Sunday Substack - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a Wednesday events Substack - 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook @lateinthegay

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced, recorded and edited by Pineapple Audio Production

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chris Smith is a retired laboratory technician. He grew up in a religious family, married a woman and had three children. He always knew he was gay and, after losing his wife, joined the community and eventually found love with a man. Chris talks about faith, family, love and self-acceptance.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Some of the groups that Chris loves are The Devon Gay Men Meetup, which organises walks and social events, and the Open Table Network, a partnership of LGBTQIA+ people of faith.

Late in the Gay is a Substack, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a Sunday Substack - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a Wednesday events Substack - 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook @lateinthegay

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced, recorded and edited by Pineapple Audio Production

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Late in the Gay is a podcast in which journalist Yvette Caster chats to other LGBTQ+ people about coming out later in life.

Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

Late in the Gay is also a Substack and a community. You can find us on Instagram and Facebook @lateinthegay

Production: Pineapple Audio Production

Artwork: Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music: @PoldMusic

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.