Charlotte Gilliam is a learning support assistant. She has a longterm male partner and a five-year-old daughter. She realised she was bisexual after developing feelings for a woman when she was in her late 20s. Her partner has supported her coming out and she has found friendship and community in a gay choir.

Charlotte talks about bisexual invisibility, the joy of attending Pride with her partner and daughter, and how singing connects her to her identity, her found family and the LGBTQIA+ community as a whole.

Joining the LGBTQ+ community later in life can feel daunting. Charlotte suggests joining a gay choir or theatre group. She loves Thames Valley Gay Chorus. You can also find out about gay choirs across the UK via the Proud Voices network.

Late in the Gay is a ⁠⁠Substack⁠⁠, podcast and community for LGBTQ+ people who came out later in life created by journalist, podcaster and dog mom Yvette Caster.

There’s a ⁠⁠Sunday Substack⁠⁠ - the clueless musings of a woman who came out at 43

There’s a ⁠⁠Wednesday events Substack ⁠⁠- 3 things to do in the UK this week if you came out later in life

Find Late in the Gay and details of events on Instagram and Facebook ⁠⁠@lateinthegay⁠⁠

Find host Yvette Caster across social media @yvettecaster

Late in the Gay is hosted by Yvette Caster

Produced and edited by George Boucher

Artwork by Deirdre Spain of Deesign Illustrations

Music by @PoldMusic