In this episode we'll discuss the concept of relational bypassing, a pattern where individuals avoid emotional pain in relationships, particularly after infidelity. This behavior can hinder intimacy and healing, so there is a real importance of emotional presence and truth in rebuilding the trust.

Key Takeaways:

• Relational bypassing can kill intimacy in relationships.
• Fixing without hearing leads to disconnection.
• Emotional shortcutting delays healing.
• What we resist stays stuck; what we feel can move.
• Both partners in infidelity need to process their emotions.
• Avoidance strategies prevent real connection.
• Emotional presence is crucial for rebuilding trust.
• Truth must come from a real place for healing.
• Controlling the narrative can be a form of bypassing.
• Choosing connection over comfort fosters intimacy.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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What does it mean to be "all in" on yourself, especially in the context of healing from infidelity? We'll talk about the importance of self-commitment and internal stability before you can fully engage in relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Going all in means committing to yourself first.
• You cannot be all in on a relationship without being all in on yourself.
• Internal stability is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Overriding your feelings leads to losing your peace.
• Being all in does not mean over-functioning for others.
• Recognizing when you're half in and half out is important.
• Your healing should not depend on someone else's actions.
• Building a sustainable foundation takes time and effort.
• Choosing yourself changes everything in your life.
• The upcoming virtual retreat will help you create your all-in plan.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, Majo Torreli, a somatic coach who helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns and cultivate self-love, shares her personal journey of healing from emotionally abusive relationships and the transformative power of somatic coaching.

Key Takeaways:

• Majo Torreli is a somatic coach helping women heal from unhealthy relationship patterns.
• Her personal journey involved overcoming emotionally abusive relationships.
• Somatic coaching helped her achieve what years of therapy could not.
• Feeling safe in one's body is crucial for emotional healing.
• Intellectual understanding of self-worth is different from experiencing it emotionally.
• Forgiveness requires processing and releasing trapped energy.
• Women often need to create safety within themselves after betrayal.
• Trusting intuition takes time and requires emotional digestion.
• Taking accountability for relationship patterns is essential for growth.
• Healing is a gradual process that requires self-compassion.

Majo is a somatic coach who helps women break out of painful relationship patterns by reconnecting with their bodies. After more than a decade stuck in unhealthy cycles, anxiety, and self-doubt in love—despite doing “all the right things”—she finally broke free and found lasting self-love through somatic (body-based) coaching. Today, she guides other women through the same journey—helping them cultivate inner peace, confidence, and love they can feel in their bones, not just in their heads.

To learn more from Majo:

• Website: https://www.shesembodied.com/
• Instagram: @shesembodied

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we'll explore the critical distinction between manipulation and influence, particularly in the context of relationships affected by infidelity. We'll emphasize the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier interactions and personal growth. The discussion covers how manipulation often stems from fear and self-serving motives, while influence is rooted in strength, clarity, and a desire for collective betterment.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding the difference between manipulation and influence is crucial after infidelity.
• Manipulation often arises from fear and self-serving motives.
• Influence is about seeking the betterment of everyone involved.
• Recognizing patterns of manipulation can help break the cycle of unhealthy behaviors.
• Effective communication is key to fostering influence rather than manipulation.
• Living in alignment with your values can enhance your influence in relationships.
• Asking for what you want is a form of kindness, not manipulation.
• Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in distinguishing between manipulation and influence.
• Trust is built through honesty and consistency in relationships.
• Shifting from control to influence increases the chances of achieving desired outcomes.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we're exploring unbecoming and self-discovery. We'll look at the importance of stripping away old identities and beliefs that no longer serve us, particularly those rooted in childhood trauma. We need to create space for authenticity and self-acceptance, rather than striving for an idealized version of ourselves.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing from infidelity involves unbecoming old identities.
• Many beliefs about self-worth are rooted in childhood experiences.
• Unlearning is often more important than becoming something new.
• Creating space for authenticity allows for true self-discovery.
• The pressure to be better can stem from past trauma.
• It's essential to recognize what stories are not truly yours.
• Self-acceptance is a key part of the healing process.
• The journey of unbecoming can be uncomfortable but necessary.
• You are not defined by your past or the actions of others.
• Real work is about being present with yourself, not rushing to an outcome.

More from me:

• Register for the Free Masterclass - Reclaiming Her: Mothering with a Shattered Heart After Infidelity - here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/reclaiming-her
• Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Actions alone are insufficient for healing after betrayal. Today we're talking about the importance of genuine connection, the impact of childhood experiences on emotional safety, and the necessity of self-awareness and self-care in the healing process. A person who has been betrayed has to prioritize their emotional safety and seek deeper, more meaningful connections in their relationships. Let's talk about how...

Key Takeaways:

• Healing requires more than just actions; it needs genuine connection.
• Box checking can create an illusion of safety but lacks depth.
• Emotional safety is often rooted in childhood experiences.
• Resentment can undermine efforts to rebuild trust.
• Real healing often disrupts appearances and requires vulnerability.
• Self-awareness is crucial for understanding emotional needs.
• It's important to communicate needs clearly in relationships.
• Surface-level compliance can lead to deeper feelings of loneliness.
• Creating safety starts from within and requires self-compassion.
• True connection is built on mutual respect and understanding.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today I'm going to share a personal experience of navigating some complex emotions during my daughter's wedding. Let's talk about the importance of making room for all feelings, including joy and grief, and acknowledge the societal expectations surrounding emotional responses to significant life events.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional maturity involves holding multiple truths at once.
• It's okay to feel both joy and grief simultaneously.
• Cultural expectations can create pressure around how we should feel during significant events.
• Mixed emotions are a natural part of the human experience.
• Self-judgment can intensify emotional struggles.
• Making room for all feelings is essential for healing.
• Emotions are not problems; they are experiences to be felt.
• You don't have to wait for the hard times to celebrate the good.
• All parts of you are welcome in your emotional journey.
• Healing involves embracing complexity and allowing all emotions to coexist.

More from me:

• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we talk about how important it is to focus on personal growth after infidelity rather than fixating on the actions of the partner. We need to prioritize self-healing, understanding the true nature of remorse, and the significance of moving forward rather than trying to return to the past.

Key Takeaways:

• Focus on personal growth rather than the partner's actions.
• The decision to stay or go should not be the first question.
• Remorse from a partner does not equate to personal healing.
• Healing is not contingent on the partner's regret or recognition.
• Self-care and personal needs should take precedence over monitoring the partner's change.
• Moving forward is essential; returning to the past is not an option.
• Trusting oneself is more powerful than surveillance.
• Liberation from dependency on others is key to healing.
• Ask yourself who you are becoming in the healing process.
• This experience can sharpen important aspects of your character.

More from me:

• Sign up for the class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles