Does your child push every boundary, question every rule, and seem immune to traditional parenting strategies?
Parent coach Mary Van Geffen returns to discuss "spicy ones"—the intense, strong-willed children (about 20% of kids) who feel everything deeply and need a radically different approach.
She shares why these passionate trailblazers require a radically different kind of support and how adults can shift from control and correction to attunement and regulation.
Mary takes us through:
—Who the “spicy ones” are, and how to reframe "strong-willed"
—How your own nervous system and need for control affect the parent-child dynamic
—Why modeling matters more than demands when dealing with demonstrative children
—Using heavy body work and movement to help kids process big feelings appropriately
—Why standard approaches often fail with high-intensity temperaments
—How your parenting role must shift dramatically as spicy kids enter the tween and teen years
And so much more!
Mary Van Geffen is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. She teaches monthly workshops to help moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting, especially if they weren’t raised that way.
Mary has a ministry on Instagram where she posts an inspiring parenting tip every single day. Just reading her social media will help you delight in your child and remember that you are enough. Mary believes that when a mom realizes how hard she is on herself and cracks the door open for some self-compassion, her entire family is bathed in light!
Mary is a certified Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach®. Her greatest achievement, however, is cultivating a calm, kind, and firm relationship with her spirited go-getter daughter (17), polar-opposite introverted son (15), and un-Enneagramable hubby.
Link to preorder the book Parenting A Spicy One: A compassionate guide for raising a deep-feeling and wonderfully strong-willed kid
Preorder here to access Mary’s Affirmations Masterclass and the Meltdown Meditations for Moms. https://www.maryvangeffen.com/parentingaspicyonebook
Are you a spicy one quiz:
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To hear Mary’s first episode on Free Your Soma: Gentle and Respecting Parenting, please see episode 15.
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