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Are perfectionism, control, or a constant need for approval feeding your anxiety? You're not alone—and this conversation will help.

In Talk 61: Anxiety Answers, Christy Boulware sits down with trusted Christian counselor Dwain to unpack the root causes of anxiety and what we can do about it. Together, they explore the unholy trinity of perfectionism, control, and approval, explain the difference between healthy and unhealthy fear, and provide tangible tools for managing anxiety—spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

Whether you’ve experienced panic attacks, racing thoughts, or the tight grip of fear, this episode is full of truth, compassion, and practical steps for healing. You'll also hear personal testimonies and wisdom on how journaling, body awareness, community, faith, and even food all play a role in overcoming anxiety.

📌 Topics covered include:

• Perfectionism, control & approval as anxiety triggers
• The difference between fear, anxiety, and phobias
• What’s really happening during a panic attack
• Smoke alarms: how your body signals emotional distress
• The SIFT-B method for emotional check-ins
• Food, hormones, and the anxiety connection
• How to trust God when everything feels out of control
• The importance of community in healing

🙌 Let this episode be the fresh breath you didn’t know you needed. As Dwayne says, “To help another person breathe easier is to have succeeded.”

🎧 Subscribe for more Christ-centered mental health tools, and check out our other episodes on anxiety, healing, and walking in freedom.

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This conversation is raw, real, and necessary.

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friends from Pastors’ Wives Tell All to open up about a topic that has deeply impacted my journey—spiritual abuse, church hurt, and the evolving role of women in leadership. We unpack:

• What is spiritual abuse?
• How do we define church hurt?
• Why have these experiences shifted the way I advocate for mental health within the Church?

This episode meant so much to me that I asked permission to share it on Fearless Tips & Talks, because I know it will speak to many of you who have wrestled silently in these spaces.

Whether you’ve been hurt by church leadership, questioned your place in ministry, or just need language for what you’ve walked through—this episode is for you.

You’re not alone.

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In this powerful and honest conversation, Christy Boulware is joined by her husband Troy and pastors Devin and Dustin Thacker to explore what the Church should be—and where it’s gone wrong. Together, they dive into personal experiences, spiritual abuse, unhealthy leadership models, and the corporate mindset that has crept into many churches. From the pain of being discarded to the misuse of titles and programs over people, this episode holds space for real talk and real healing.

They also cast a hopeful vision of restoration: one rooted in discipleship, roundtable leadership, healthy conflict resolution, and a return to servant-hearted community. Whether you've been hurt by the Church or are longing to be part of a healthier one, this episode offers both empathy and direction.

Oh—and don’t miss the lighthearted French fry draft at the end!

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In this episode, we take a closer look at the honest doubts of two of Jesus' closest followers—Peter and Thomas. Peter doubted himself and denied Jesus. Thomas doubted the resurrection and needed proof. And yet, Jesus met them both with grace, not shame.

If you've ever wrestled with questions like: Is God really good? Can I trust Him? Did He actually rise from the dead?—you're not alone. Doubt doesn’t disqualify you. But it is an invitation to deeper faith.

It’s time to stop living faithless and start walking in resurrection power. Let’s talk about how Jesus meets us in our questions, restores our belief, and calls us to follow Him—even when we’re unsure.

God can handle your doubts. He just doesn’t want you to stay in them.

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In this episode of Fearless Tips and Talks, we believe that our greatest tests often become our most powerful testimonies. Join us for a moving and inspiring moment from our Walk With Me retreat, where Lauren Jordan courageously shares her journey of overcoming fear and anxiety through surrender, obedience, and unwavering faith in Jesus. Her story is raw, redemptive, and full of beauty. Get ready for a powerful testimony that will stir your heart and strengthen your faith.

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Behind the scenes into our Walk With Me Discipleship program with an incredible message!

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Have you ever experienced pain so deep that you didn’t even know how to talk to God about it? Maybe you've prayed, but instead of comfort, you felt unheard—like your words were hitting the ceiling.

Have you ever wrestled with questions like:

Why did this happen?
Where were You, God?
How am I supposed to move forward?
If so, you’re not alone. The Bible is filled with faithful people who struggled with pain, disappointment, and doubt. They didn’t suppress their grief or pretend to be okay—they lamented.

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Control Is an Illusion

Anxiety is at an all-time high, with nearly half of Americans experiencing a diagnosable mental health condition in their lifetime. I know this struggle firsthand—I was one of those statistics. In 2011, I was diagnosed with severe panic and anxiety disorder, believing the lie that I could control everything. But control is an illusion, and trying to hold onto it only leads to exhaustion and fear.

In this episode, I share my journey from anxiety and self-reliance to full surrender to Jesus. True peace isn’t found in control, but in trusting the One who holds it all. We’ll explore why surrender is the key to freedom and how shifting our perspective can bring lasting peace.

If you're tired of striving, overwhelmed by fear, or simply searching for a deeper sense of purpose, this episode is for you.

Want to go deeper? My book Nervous Breakthrough shares my full story and how I found freedom from fear and anxiety.

Subscribe and share this episode with someone who needs encouragement today.

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